My family life is just one huge problem. My parents are
divorced, my brother is constantly getting hurt, my mom is about to lose our
house and my dad just doesn’t care. I’m going to high school next year, and I
am really interested in going to a boarding school so I can get away from my
fam. When I brought it up, though, my mom just blew me off. How can I make her
take me seriously?
Leaving home is a huge step that most kids put off until
they go to college or get a place of their own. Allowing you to skip out of the
house four years earlier than expected is probably a tough sitch for your mom
to wrap her head around. You are her
daughter, after all! Nonetheless, there are a few things you can do to help her
to take your desire to attend boarding school more seriously.
Show me the money
First thing’s first: Your mom might love the idea of giving
you this opportunity, but she might not have the money to make it happen.
Private boarding schools are expensive, chica, and if you’re mom is struggling
to make ends meet, sending you away to school might not be in the cards. Just
‘cause you can’t afford it out of pocket doesn’t mean your dream is out of
reach, however. Look into the financial aid and scholarship offerings at the
schools you’re considering. Depending upon your fam’s money matters, you might
get a little assistance.
Why do you really want to go?
Sure, you might hate living at home right now, but that’s
the last thing Mom wants to here. Make a list of other positives of boarding
schools, especially in comparison to the local high school you’d be attending
if you stayed home. Maybe they offer classes or extracurriculars in areas
you’re really passionate about. Maybe their college counseling services are
number one in the nation. Having proof of the benefits will definitely trump
an, “But Mom, I really want to,”
Present the facts
Ask Mom—and Dad—if you can set aside some time one night or
weekend for a serious convo. Turn off the tube, get out your notes and give a
presentation. As you present the facts—where you’d like to go, what they offer,
how much it costs—be mature, not whiney. Answer their questions like an adult,
not a child. Remember: This isn’t just about you, and this isn’t a little
decision. They might still say no, but if you offer them a good argument for
why you should go, they just might see things your way.
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 2/17/2011 12:54:00 PM
POSTED IN school, new school, dealing with divorce