More times than not, we believe that we are good friends
because we tell our BFFs how it is, whether they want to hear it or not.
Sometimes it can turn out really good and other times we’re actually doing more
harm than good. There’s a thin line between being a best friend and being a
bossy friend. We’ve got some helpful hints on how to stick to the bestie side
of the BFF boundaries.
Comic queen or mean girl
A lot of the time, we speak to our girlfriends as if they’re
made of thick skin. Just ‘cause you think
she can handle you saying that her legs look like tree stumps in the new dress
she got for the spring fling doesn’t mean you have to say it. There are some friends out there who
can find the humor in a comment like that, but most of us take those words as
personal attacks. Rule number 1: Always think before you speak
because you never know when a silly, offhand comment can make her feel insecure
Demanding diva or suggestive sweetie
Between bouts of sobbing over her breakup, your bestie asks
you what she should do to get her guy back. The problem? You never liked the
guy in the first place and you have no idea how to tell her what you really
think without being a total witch. Rule number 2: Tell your friends what you think they should do when
they ask, but don’t force your opinion on them. Allow her to make up her own mind,
come to her own conclusions and create her own solutions.
Wanna know the ultimate way to ditch your bossy side and
embrace your bestie? Rule number 3:
Offer your BFF some good old respect. Speak to her the way that you would like to be
spoken to, and treat her as you would want to be treated. Remember: There’s
something special about her that sets her apart from any other girl out
there—that’s why she’s your best friend, right?
BY AFIYA AUGUSTINE ON 3/1/2011 4:18:00 PM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, good friend, how can I help my friend, my BFF is so bossy