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I have a close friend I’ve known for almost six years, and we are in eighth grade. She just told me she’s bisexual. She asked me if I’m OK with that. I don’t want to hurt her feelings and still want to be her friend, but it’s been awkward. I want to tell her how I feel.

Dear Friend is Bi,

So tell her. You could say, “Of course, I still respect and care about you, but I am confused, how did you realize you were bi?” She might reply, “it’s personal,” but she could welcome the chance to talk. In this millennium, kids are barraged by images of sexuality. Many teens announce they are bi (attracted to girls and guys) before they’ve kissed anybody at all. Perhaps girls shouldn’t rush to declare sexual learnings when sex is still such a long way off. Nonetheless, since your friend put herself out there, why not share your questions with her in a sensitive and non-judgmental way?

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 3/15/2011 7:00:00 AM

For me{I am bi btw}I thought about it for years. Ever since I was 12 I thought"Could I be attracted to girls too?" I had friends who are bi and have dated the same sex{and some are still together!}before also.It took me a long time because I would always deny it and say "I'm straight and I don't mind if you're bi.I just can't see myself with another girl."I've had a few homosexual and bi friends so I was pretty used to having them around. They aren't really different at all they just prefer the same sex.I understood some people would say they are bi b/c they thought it was cool and that's why I didnt want tell anyone b/c they would think it was a trend. I even talked to some of my bi-friends about me questioning my sexuality. I had to seriously think about it alone before deciding "Hey I really wouldn't mind having a female or male as a partner in life." U shuld tlk 2 ur friend bcuz she mite b going thru a tough time bcuz sum ppl think bi ppl r attrctd 2 evry prson of the sme sex thy c

I think its kind of bad to generalize like that (in the answer). I have many LGBT friends and family members, and I don't think I have ever known anyone who has declared themselves to be a sexuality without being 100% sure. She is still your friend. Remember, just because she is attracted "in that way" to your gender, doesn't mean she is attracted to you in that way. Are you romantically attracted to every guy you meet? I think you should have an honest talk with her, but get informed first. There are many places with great information on LGBT subjects such as GLSEN and PFLAG. Best of luck!

by The_Lorax on 3/16/2011 9:31:48 PM

by Music Luver on 3/16/2011 3:12:05 PM

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There is a group of me and my friends, there is five of us me, Mia, Anna, Britney, and Sarah. Mia's dad is getting remarried in a couple weekends. Mia was talking last week about how boring the reception would be so Sarah (they are super super tight) and Anna said maybe she should ask her dad if we could come. I walked over at this point in the conversation so i heard all of this. Mia asked her dad and he said she could bring only three friends to the reception. Of course Sarah, but she also invited Anna and Me. The problem is Britney doesn't know we are going to the wedding reciption. Mia's dad won't let her invite one more to Britney cant go. Britney is one of my bffs and super sweet she gets hurt easily sometimes. I don't know if i should tell her about the wedding or if i do she could take it REALLY offensively. What should i do?? Help please.

Hey girlie. Try to think about it this way. Does she really need to know? Maybe if anyone should tell her, it should be Mia so she can explain why she couldn't invite everyone. Good luck.

Marly Z.

by allamericanrejectsgirl on 3/16/2011 2:36:42 PM

I think that the girl who says she's bi should know better than you if she is or not. Just saying. And you don't have to kiss a girl to be attracted to them. When I told my two best friends that I'm bi, they asked if I had a crush on them. That was a little annoying, because it's not as if I'm immediately attracted to every girl I see.

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by supersingershannon on 3/15/2011 7:58:13 PM

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