My dad is super-protective. He goes through my clothes,
and if I wear something he thinks is inappropriate, he confiscates it. What
should I do?
This is a challenging sitch ‘cause you’re both right in your
own way: Your dad just wants to protect his little girl, and you just want to
be a “normal” teenager. That doesn’t mean that things like this ought to
continue, though. The best thing for you to do is to sit your dad down—with Mom
standing by, if it makes you feel more comfortable—and tell him how you feel
about his behavior.
Invasion of privacy
Tell Dad that whenever he goes through your clothes, you
feel as though he doesn’t trust you to dress yourself appropriately. You may
not be an adult yet, but you should still be able to wear what you like and
what makes you feel good…within reason.
Set a standard
Create a standard you can use while shopping. Maybe dad
doesn’t want you wearing super-short shorts. Fine, you can jive with that. What
about shorts with a 3-inch (or longer) inseam? What about leggings with minis?
Maybe he isn’t big on belly-baring tops or low V-necks. OK, you can nix the
tummy and wear camis under low-cut tops. Nail down the fine print so there
aren’t any surprises when you walk downstairs.
Whatever you do…
Don’t tell Dad he’s being unreasonable, ‘cause he thinks
what he’s doing is totally fine. Stress the fact that you really need him to
trust you to make some decisions. If he brushes you off, ask him what you can
do to make him trust you more. If it’s abiding by a curfew, calling religiously
whenever your plans change or picking up a part-time job, do your best to see
it through, babe.
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 4/13/2011 12:03:00 PM
POSTED IN family, problems with my parents, my parents are way-strict