When I was 3 years old, my dad died in a car crash. My
mom has since remarried and divorced, but it’s been awhile since she started
seeing someone new…until last year. Now I feel like she’d rather hang out with
her boyfriend than me. I confronted her about it, but she just said I’m
jealous. What should I do?
I’m so sorry you’re having a tough time at home, sweetie.
It’s been just you and your mom for so long that I’m sure it’s difficult to
accept someone new coming into your life and taking up your mom’s focus. It’s
natural to feel jealous in this sitch, but that doesn’t mean you should accept
the status quo.
Time to chat
So what if you’re jealous? That doesn’t mean that it’s right
for your mom to spend tonsa time with her new beau and zero with you. Talk to
her again, seriously, and tell her your concerns. Don’t accuse her of not
caring, because that’s not true and deep down, you know that. Simply say that
you miss the quality time you two used to spend together, and you wish you
could have that back again.
Make a date
Try to set aside a whole day or even just a night where it’s
just you two. Maybe you could make your own pizza on Friday night and watch
chick flicks, or you could go shopping on Saturdays. Whatever it is, keep is
reserved for you and your mom only. That means no BF for her and no BFFs for
you. Fair is fair, right?
Get to know the guy
Anyone who’s in a relationship with your mom ought to know
that you are a part of the package. If no one else is suggesting it, mention
how much fun you think it would be if you guys went out to the movies together,
or to the park for a picnic. Even if he’s not your favorite person, you can get
along for a few hours and more importantly take advantage of the quality time
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 5/4/2011 5:30:00 PM
POSTED IN family, problems with my parents, dating parent