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My best friend and I go to the same camp, and I like a guy who acts more interested in my BFF. She knows I like him, but she doesn’t seem to care about my feelings. How do I know when my friend has crossed the line?
 
Dear Confused at Camp,
A girl should never hit on her best friend’s boyfriend or go for a BFF’s ex right after a breakup. But when it comes to crushes, the lines are less clear. Are you truly upset with your friend—or are you upset with him for not noticing you or maybe even with yourself for feeling jealous? Think about it—would it really make sense for your friend to ignore a guy she seems to be clicking with just because you like him, too? Even if she were to completely shun him, it won’t ensure that you and he will ever get together.
 
My advice is to reach out to other campers. Meanwhile, you could admit to your friend that you’re envious but that you wish her luck. Camp will end—don’t let the friendship.
 
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BY CAROL WESTON ON 6/7/2011 7:00:00 AM

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There are these two guys I really like and I'm pretty sure that they like me to but One of them called me a B$!@*H but we talk a lot at lunch and the other one is nice but we bearly ever talk. I think I like the one who called me a B$!@*h better. Should I like the other one or am I over thinking this?




Hun, you gotta' watch those ones that throw around such derogatory names for you.  That throws up all kinds of red flags.  Even if he's just joking, it can still mean that things aren't going in the right direction. 
Jordan S.

by Clarinet10127 on 11/24/2011 3:51:26 PM

 
 

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I like a guy who also likes my best friend. But she is not interested in him more than a friend. I really like him, and he is one of the first people I am actually taking the time to "crush" on...(I haven't liked someone since 3rd grade, and I'm 14 now.) There are times when I feel stupid, because he makes it so obvious he really really likes my bestie. But then other times, he almost seems to flirt with ME. I don't get it. How do I handle this? I don't want to lose what we already have; a really strong friendship. He only views me as a sister. Help?

 

Hey girlie,

We're allowed to have more than one crush, aren't we? Well, so are guys! It could be that he likes both of you. It could also be, though, that he wants to befriend you in order to get closer to your bestie. That isn't the best option out there, but it's definitely possible Frown If you don't wanna lose the friendship you have with him, try to reel in those emotions and hang out with him as an amazing friend. Split your time though, and make sure you put a lot of focus on your hobbies/activities and your other friends. Use those opportunities to meet new people and put yourself out there! I know it sounds crazy because you're totally falling for this guy, but meeting other guys will remind you just how many "fish are in the sea." There are lots of guys out there, and soon you'll find one who likes you back - which feels even better than having a huge crush alone!

Lauren C.

by PunkRose88 on 11/3/2011 9:34:00 PM

 
 

Tell Her How You Feel About Him... Do You Like Like Him? Ask Her How She Feels About Him! Don't Forget To Tell Her How You
Will Be If She Likes Him!

by PleaseDon'tCallMeWierdKy on 9/23/2011 7:43:31 PM

 
 

I have a problem. I used to have a best friend since pre k and we would hang out all the time. But in second grade this girl named emily was in my class and we would all hang. We stopped being bffs in fifth grade. My ex bff dumped me for emily. Im in seventh grade now and everytime i talk to her she just shoves me away and goes for emily like she doesn't know me. I need her, but she doesn't care. Shes all punk now and she wont talk to me. Now i feel like i cant find another bff. HELP!!!!

by BeatlesGal on 9/18/2011 6:48:23 PM

 
 



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My so called 'best friend' used to be nice and fun and careed about my feelings. After she moved it was diffrent. We havent seen eachother in over a year. So latley shes been a real brat with me. For awhile id say like one things to her and shed be all " YOUR SUCH A SELFISH BRAT,YOUR SO INMATURE AND A REATRD!" When I asked her to stop yesterday she said "No, because you are a selfish brat." She just expects me to take it! And then I try to explain to her that I would NEVER say anything like that to her and it hurts my feelings but she dosn't care! She makes me feel like dirt! I tell her personal things and shes throws them right back at me when we fight! What do I do?




Hey girl, dump her. There's no other answer than that. She obviously doesn't value your friendship and you're getting nothing back from hers. You don't need people like that in your life. Cling to other people who make you feel good about yourself and leave her in the dust. She'll change when through experience she finds she's alone.

xoxo
Alyssa B.

by sugerdog40 on 7/30/2011 10:50:35 AM

 
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