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I want to be a leader... but how do I start?


 

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All my life, I've been happy to be a follower. I let my friends make decisions about where we hang out, and I never take charge during school projects. I want to start being a leader, but now I'm lost! What should I do to make this change?
 
Congrats! You have completed the first step to being a leader. Not everyone wants to take control and learn to lead. You realize that you have to make some changes before you reach your leadership potential. Guess what: Your new role as a leader (and not a follower) is a lot closer than you think!

Be Confident (or fake it until you feel it!)

Confidence is a great asset for any and every aspiring leader. When people believe you can do what you say you can—even if you’re a little doubtful yourself—they’ll be happy to let you take charge. Wanna know a secret? If you’re feeling nervous, you’re not alone. Whether you’re anxious about presenting your own ideas, choosing a direction or talking in public, know that many of the people you look up to, from celebs to politicians, still get butterflies in their tummies, too. You make be shaking in your sneaks, but a quick I-can-do-it pep talk is all you need to put on a brave face. And trust us, no one will know you’re freakin’ inside!

It’s time to take risks

Sometimes leaders fail, but you’ll certainly never see triumph unless you try, right? Don’t let fear of failure hold you back. When your buds start discussing a party idea, offer to do the planning. When your fam wants to take a daytrip to a nearby city, plan the itinerary. And when your teacher is waiting for your group to pick a team captain, raise your hand, chica! Someone has to be in charge, so why shouldn’t it be you?

Know when to step back…and step up

Nobody likes a bossy babe or chica who doesn’t let others share their ideas. Just ‘cause you’re the big cheese doesn’t mean that others can’t make stellar contributions. Pay attention to lulls in the conversation and before you speak look around and see if anyone looks like they may have something to share. Why not ask your other quiet friends what they think? Like you, they may be looking for their way to break out of their follower status.

Good luck, girlie!
 
 
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BY MARY HOJNOSKI ON 7/2/2011 8:00:00 AM

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i don't think this an 'okay' thing for GL to post. i mean if you're going to be a leader...you're born one. you're always the one to take charge. i don't think you could ever change...it's unnatural. i don't think you could ever change yourself. you always eventually change back to your follower self. that's leadership 101 taught in a leadership convention

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by Madam Gir on 7/4/2011 4:25:30 PM

 
 

*********MOD************* I am 5'2" and weight 196 pounds. I want to lose a lot of weight before school starts. My doctor said that losing tons of weight really fast is ok for me to do. But on what diets could I lose 5 pounds a week?

 

 

Hey girly! I know you want an answer, but we're not trained to dish out medical advice like this. Your best bet is to talk to your doc and together, you two can come up with a plan to get you where you want to be Smile

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Becca G.

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by pegasusgirl57 on 7/2/2011 11:51:07 PM

 
 

MOD- I want to be more like my older sister. She has a job, has style, tons of good friends, is skinnier, her hair is straight, she is smarter then me, she knows how to get along with people, she is popular, has style, knows how to wear makeup and do her hair, my parents rarely punish her. She is almost everything I'm not. She and I don't get along either though you would think we would since we are close in age. I'm like the opposite! It's awful.Frown How can I be more like her?

 

 

Hey girly! I feel the same way about my sister sometimes. Actually, a lot of the time. However, you can't live your live trying to be like someone else. You should be YOU, and find something to make yourself unique! Take up a new talent or hobby, and then you'll be the one standing out and shining Smile

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Becca G.

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by thetruth on 7/2/2011 10:17:56 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD! Is it normal to like someone so much you're overwhelmed and kind of stressed out? If not, what is it?

 

 

Hey girly! It's totally normal to feel like that Smile

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Becca G.

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by PinkZebra97 on 7/2/2011 9:37:10 PM

 
 

I'm definitely not a natural leader, probably because I hate making decisions. Especially ones that affect other people!

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by Alle93 on 7/2/2011 6:38:05 PM

 
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