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My BFF and I have been friends since pre-K. Lately, she ignores me for other friends. She rarely invites me over. When I tried talking to her about it, she smiled and walked away. How can I make her understand I’m lonely?
 
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my bff(morgan) and i have been friends for 3 years and we talk on the phone all the time and hang out but we also have this other friend(carla)and iam not as close to her as iam to morgan but sometime when i confide to morgan carla somehow nows i told morgan not to tell carla my secrets because she tells everyone at my school but yet morgan still tells her everything and everytime i try to tell her about it she says she didnt say anything when shes the person i told!should i just not trust her?

 

Hey girlie! Tough stich you're in!  Try talking to Carla about not spilling your secrets to everyone around and ask Morgan to keep your stuff on the DL.  It might be time to stat a diary to keep your secrets in, at least until your BFF starts to respect your secrets.  Just don't forget to hide it somewhere safe! 


Kate G.

by amber31207 on 6/26/2012 11:29:01 AM

 
 

My "best friend" has been a brat. She thinks because I'm a cheerleader and my BFFs are at cheer she thinks that makes me prissy and I really don't know what to do. My cheer BFF is going to the same school same next year and I'm wondering if I should ditch my old friend and her mean attitude, what should I do?

Hey girl,

If your friend's being mean, it might be time to end the friendship, but it's also worth a try at fixing since you used to get along. Her anger might come from jealousy that you've got new friends and a new hobby, so let her know that you'll always be there for her, no matter what activity you do! You can also explain to her that even though you're cheering, you're still the same person you were before. She might want to make up and apologize for what she said.

Meghan D.

by soulgymnast on 5/26/2012 10:18:42 AM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!!!!
My so called best friend (lets call her Paige) has been ignoring me for the popular girls in my class (lets call them Hannah, Lynn, and Ashly) She is ignoring me for them, and dosen't even acknowledge that I'm there! I tried to talk to her about it and she said that I was ignoring her! I try to make a conversation with her everyday and she just walks away! She rolls her eyes at me and gives me dirty looks also. I didn't say anything to offend her! We used to hang out every single day! Now, my other friends are taking her side and are dumping me for the other popular girls at my school! Also, all, Hannah, Lynn, and Ashly ignore me to! Now, I'm left with no one and end up sitting alone everyday! It makes me feel sick inside and I always want to cry! Why did this have to happen!?! I never did anything to her and I look like a lonely loser. I have no friends left!
From, Friendless loser




Hey girl,

Try to set the record straight with your other friends! Paige is clearly going through something right now and is choosing to hang out with the "popular" girls, but being cold and dropping other friends to do so. She's probably trying to prove herself to them and is figuring out what's important to her/who she is, so that's why you're seeing a change in her behavior. But that doesn't mean you have to lose ALL of your friends. Talk to them about this and see if she's been acting strange to them too. Maybe you can unite with them and your friendships will become even stronger! But remember, if they're all pulling away, they weren't good friends to begin with. You want friends who will be loyal and stand by you no matter what! So try joining new clubs or sports, getting a part time job, or even just sitting at a new lunch table one day. Be outgoing and talk to new people. It might seem like you have no friends left, but you have TONS of chances to make new - and better - friends <3
Lauren C.

by Abby774 on 5/24/2012 8:31:43 PM

 
 

i've had that problem before. it really stinks! wat u need to do is get out of that bad realationship and find a new friend

by the cupcake queen:) on 5/14/2012 2:15:50 PM

 
 


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My bff and i have been bffs for 3 yrs. Last year we became friends with another girl who is great also. But lately my bff has been acting weird. She is fine when we are alone like we are on the same page. But when its us and other people, its like she has to always say she knows what theyre talking about, like she has to prove she knows everything which is weird to me since shes never done it before with me. I finally got the couarage to tell her what i thought and we were both very calm. i thought she understood but shes continued with her behavior. also, which this is more imortant, she snaps her fingers in my face or waves things in my face which i hate and have asked her countless times to stop but she continues. she knows it freaks me out. also, i feel like she likes our new bff more sometimes so i feel kinda depressed about that, almost betrayed. what should i do since ive talked to her about the first two issues?


 


Hey kaboodle, mhmm I wonder why your friend is acting like this. Since you’ve already talked to her, your actions have to show what you’re feeling. So when she starts snapping or waving things in your face, either ignore her or get up and walk away. Doing things like that will show her how annoyed you are, and hopefully she’ll stop. Hope this helps! Xoxo
Lynae P.

by kaboodle on 4/28/2012 3:13:08 PM

 
 

Mod, Mod!
My best friend and I are not as close as we used to be and I really wish things would go back to normal.... Like things used to be like.
We always used to be over to eachothers houses and spending time together and now, all she wants to do is hang out with her new BFF (lets call her Tara)and she NEVER has time for me anymore. The only time we see eachother really is when we have cheerleading practice and our lockers are beside eachother.
What do to get her back?

 

Hey girlie,

You gotta' let her know.  Once you talk it out with her then you two can fix the situation.  Maybe she can invite you along too, have it be like a trio thing.  After all, things can't change if you don't take action.

Jordan S.

by Hillary123 on 3/5/2012 12:13:53 PM

 
 

I was with my new friend on the weekend and we had so much fun! We went to a movie and got lunch together but the next week we got back to school, she's giving me the cold should. She never puts any energy in our conversations and barely even looks at me when I say hi....... I know how you feel. If anyone know how I feel, can you please help me?

 

Hey Malia123, I think you should talk to her and see whats up. Maybe something happened that you're not aware of. Just see how she's feeling. Hope this helps! Xoxo
 

 


Lynae P.

by Malia23 on 2/10/2012 8:49:27 PM

 
 

Ok so my friends were friends before I came in the picture.. and now my friend Macie is like going over the top on bullying. Like they call her Blondel and retard and I always stuck up for her but today at the ouch table ot went too far. They were calling her a b and eventually made her cry I told her ill stick up for her always and go to the consoled but why do they think there better than her. I want to just record what there saying and let them listen to see that there being b s but what do I do to help her?!

by darkness605 on 2/7/2012 7:30:49 PM

 
 



Mod please
So since September, my best friend has been distant. She doesn't invite me to do wthings with her. I try to, but every saturday she's skating for several hours, so it doesn't work out. I just feel like my bff doesn't really balance her friendships well and I want to hang out with her more. How do I talk to her about this? Different articles on here say to meet new friends, but I really want to clear this up with her and get this off my back, and not be stressed out about it.
Thanks

 

Talk to her! Bring up how you feel and let her know you miss her. If youre honest she'll try to fix the problem. xoxo kerra 


Kerra S.

by nerdykitty97 on 2/7/2012 6:27:13 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!
I need help. Me and my BFF have been friends for a long time,but lately she has been hanging out with my other friend,and she is comepletely ignoring me. It is like I am just another girl she passes in the halls! I tried to talk to her,but she said nothing was wrong! Please help me!




Hey girlie,

It's actually normal for this to happen - your friend decides she wants to be besties with someone so she spends all her time with her, shuts out her other friends, etc. It could be because she's "growing up" and wants to change, or because she's not sure what she wants, or because she's not good at balancing multiple friends. Whatever the reason, you've talked to her and she's not opening up about it. Try spending time with your other friends and giving her space. If she wants to continue being friends, she'll seek you out when she's ready. But if you've grown apart (or she's decided she doesn't want to be friends anymore, for whatever reason), you'll already have proven to yourself that you're independent and able to make it with other friends. I know that's not the ideal sitch, but you can't force someone into being your bestie. And who would want to? It's gotta come naturally! <3
Lauren C.

by FrenchRose on 1/14/2012 10:28:50 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!! HELP!! Me an my "supposedly BFF" are sort of growing apart, she's had many hardships and her father is no longer around, and she is a great person, but lately she's been calling me a "major loser" and will only talk to her other friends, out parents know we are bffs so what would they think if we stopped hanging out after all we've gone to concerts, out of town, and several sleepovers together HELP!!!!

 


Hey missy, talk to her and ask her whats up. See where your friendship is or if she wants to continue being friends. Just see how she feels. Smile Smile


Lynae P.

by mary321654987 on 12/14/2011 8:32:26 PM

 
 

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I have a really small room, Only enough room for a bed, a rug,a wardrobe, and a chest of drawers. I want to make it look really good, but I cant fit anything else really big in. Any Ideas?




Hey babe, 

I think you should make your wall space pop! Add Christmas lights, photos of you and your friends, and ask your parents if you can paint a wall with chalkboard paint (you can write and draw whatever you want!) Have fun decorating! xoxox 
Devin A.

by catluverforlife on 11/18/2011 3:55:49 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!! SOrry i'm modding so much... you don't have to answer this if your really busy with other stuff! anyway this is basiclly my prob but i'm still in the same school since kindergarten and i can't make new friends since i'm in immersion and they keep us separated. i have 2 friends in the other classes but no BFFS in my class. I was bffs with basiclly all the girls and now i'm not very close to them. this one girl is giving me tiny hints she wants to be bffs again (i think) but that is becuase shes losing her bff too. she also betrayed me. what should i doo??? Frown thank you if you answer if you don't i will manage!

 

Hey girl, everyone deserves a second chance, so try being her friend again. Maybe she's learned from her mistakes and is ready to be a good girlfriend. Give her a shot, and if she betrays you again then you'll know a friendship between you two isn't possible. Hope this helps!! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by chick987 on 10/26/2011 8:10:20 PM

 
 

MOD! I was best friends with this one girl since kindergarten. Now, in 7th grade, she rarely hangs out with me anymore. She joined this one clique that we used to joke about last year, and now is as cold to me as the rest of them are. It hurts!!! Frown Any tips???

 

Hey girly, as people get older they start to experience with new things. She may have joined this new clique to fulfill a certain void. For instance, she may want to do what they like to do or become popular like they are (I'm not sure if they are but just saying). Have you spoken to her about it? Try calling her up and tell her how you feel. You guys may have been best friends but maybe she wants to move on from that and that's something you'll have to accept. People come and go. You will have other, better friends come along. 

Amalia E.

by bri017 on 10/17/2011 8:28:28 AM

 
 

Sounds like innerbauty12 and my BFF.

by EQC123 on 10/14/2011 3:35:13 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!
there's this guy at my school and he liked me. we both like each other and flirted alot but we are both shy around each other. i don't know if he stills feels the smae way, he's really popular to. i don't know how to approach him
HELP!! thanks Smile




Hey chica! 

Why don't you just walk up to him in the hallway the next time you see him and say hi and smile? If he likes you, he'll at least wave and smile back. If you break the ice, it could lead to him talking to you. xoxox 
Devin A.

by abigail is awesome ;) on 10/14/2011 11:06:36 AM

 
 

I was friends with a girl from grades 1 through 6. then she was really nice (she is afraid of being mean) and told these girls that she didnt like that they could hang out with us, well then they became besties and then they pushed me to the side. Last year (7 grade) i was lost without her. I didnt know what to do. that entire group of girls ignored me and just dissed me a ton that year. Now i have found a new group of friends but i just dont want to let go of my bestie. she is the only one of that group that is still nice to me. I don't want to let her go but i don't want to get hurt by her and her vicious friends again like last year. Because they started it then the boys continued the teasing and it still has not stopped. It strikes evveryday. They find something, anything, to nark me about. Let's just say it kinda sorta stinks. I miss the elementary years where it didnt matter what you looked like or the friends you had. Everyone was friends woth everyone! Please Help me!!!!!! :/

by MusicGirl39 on 10/13/2011 5:13:06 PM

 
 

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I was in class with my BFF when she started to play with one of my bracelets. I we parted ways and I realized she still had my bracelet; so I asked her for it, but she told me that had lost it. I am really upset now because the bracelet had a lot of sentimental value. This is the second or third time she has lost one of my items, what should i tell her?? THANK YOU!




Hey babe, 

Have you checked the lost and found at school and told your teacher about your missing bracelet? And as for your friend, the answer's easy: tell her you can't lend her things anymore because she loses stuff that's important to you. Good luck! xoxox 
Devin A.

by raceagainstthemachine on 10/7/2011 4:20:51 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD ok well...ok so my "friend" t called my bf and said that he was a jerk and sould break up with me. so he sent me this text about what she was saying and that he doesnt want to break up with me but thats what t was saying and im not really sure why t is doing this. she said this guy a who sits at our table isnt guna sit there anymore bc my bf was being mean but hes never been mean to a and my bf so sweet and caring to me. i dont know y my so called friend is doing this. and lately my so called bestie hasnt been there for me,she never talks to me and we havent hung out in a while well except for the day i kidna got mad at her bc me and my bf met up with her and her bf and her frind and his friend at taco johns and then we left and she was like were (talking about her,her bf,her friend,and his friend)r guna go to her bf house. and im like what r we suppost to do and shes like anything you wanna do.and shes teaming up with t and this other gir tl & a saying that...(read on)

 

Hey chicky, don't worry about that girl. It just sounds like she's jealous of your relationship with your boyfriend. Now you know who your true friends are. Just keep your true friends and boyfriends close. Hope this helps! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by mysterygirl17 on 9/28/2011 8:28:08 PM

 
 


MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!! I have so much to get of my chest and talk about but no one to tell it to. its having a real affect on me. The one person i trusted the most...i feel betrayed me. I dont what to do.


 


Hey girly girl! It might be a good idea to start a journal. That way, you can get everything off of your chest and won't feel like anyone is judging you. If you want to talk to a real person, though, I'd talk to a guidance counselor or teacher that you trust at school!


xxx


Becca G.

by heyppl123 on 9/18/2011 10:48:19 PM

 
 



mod mod mod!
im not as close with my best friends as i was before. i think a lot of it is because one of my best friends has a boyfriend and she and my 2 best friends hang out with him and his friends a lot. i dont really like his friends and he's not all that great either; he's only nice to his girlfriend (my bff). so even though i have some classes with the 3 bffs, we're not as close and sometimes i feel like they dont like me as much or at least they are closer to each other. i have other friends too, but i miss the relationship i had with my bffs. please help! thank you <3




Hey girlie,

Relationships grow and change as we get older, so it's totally natural for you to feel more or less close with your besties as time goes by. It's not like you've done anything wrong (or they've done anything wrong either) - you might have just grown apart! Just make sure that you're always putting yourself out there in some way, whether it's being out-going in your classes, joining new clubs, asking your friends to hang out on your own without them having to ask you, etc. You gotta take an active part in making friends and maintaining those friendships! Same goes for these girls, if you want to be closer to them again. Sure you might not like your one friend's BF, but make an effort to accept him and hang out all together. Ask your besties if they want to get together at the movies/bowling alley with the gang, then use your actions to prove that you're willing to accept him. Sometimes it's tough when our friends have BFs (especially ones we don't like) so, if you wanna keep your friendship strong, you're gonna have to let her know that you are willing to deal with him in order to stay friends!
Lauren C.

by partyy like a rockstar on 9/17/2011 9:29:09 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD im lost without my bestie to we know each other since birth (are moms are best friends) but know she ignors me and she even knows about all the girls gossiping on my hair just because its a snowy white, even if she isnt my friend anymore shouldn't she say something? In athletics she always glares at me like i can't do the same things at her, and she tells me i should stick with ADV. theater art and writing. But is that fair? Then when we are practicing im always left out, life just is not fair but yet the world isn't fair!

 

Hey missy, you don't need her. You need friends who are going to have to have your back not stab you in it. I wouldn't worry about her anymore and start focusing on making new girlfriends. Whenever she stares at you look confident and stare back. Smile

Lynae P.

by peaceandlove1010 on 9/14/2011 8:57:23 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD I found that these two friends of mine who've submitted and won a poetry contest and are going to by the book their poems have just been published in, well the anthology is a scam that's only sold to the people who've 'won.' Should I tell them? One of them was so excited, she even wrote a paper about it. Thanks

 

Hey girly, you need to tell them. It may burst their bubble, but it's better to find out something like this early, Aww I wish it wasn't a scam though. Frown

Lynae P.

by svds on 9/14/2011 6:56:09 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD ok Me and my friend use to be really close then all of a sudden she started to hang out with other people and stopped talking to me and i got worried so i told her but she didn't really care, Then she started talking to other girls and look at me and start laughing then i kept hearing rumors that she has a New best friend so i told her to stop making gossip and then i told her that u dont have to whisper but all she did was look at me like im stupid and didn't say anything then just when i told her that some other girl came up to her took her a side and started talking to her , we use to be bff and now shes acting like she doesn't know me and every time i try to talk to who she looks at me like im from a different planet




Hey girly! I know it is rough to be in this situation, I have been here before too. Instead of trying to talk to your BFF at school in front of everyone, get her alone so that she doesn't feel like she has to hide while talking to you. Girls can easily change the way they act so they fit in with other poeple , so get her at a time when she doesn't have to be fake and know that others are watching her. Ask her why she is being so mean and doesn't want to be friends anymore. If she continues to be mean and whisper about you then she isn't the same person that you were once BFF's with, so make some new friends and venture out. She her that she didn't get to you. 
Ana D.

by mozilla10 on 9/13/2011 7:25:55 AM

 
 


MODMODMODMOD!!!
Hi! Hey, I just got an email from one of my besties, and it said, "I just looked at the pottery we painted at K's party. Some of it is messy (meaning urs)". I think she Cool, is mad at me, because I hang out with another one of my and her besties, A. My mom invited A over to make cookies on Friday, and H heard about it, and I think shes mad bc I didnt invite her. She doesnt know that A was invited by my Mom, not me. She probably will get K, a 3rd bestie to side with her, bc H has been to Ks house the entire weekend. I have a class with K and H tomorrow, and im nervous that H will spread rumors. Help!!!!


 


Hey girly girl, I'd talk to your friend, H, about everything. Bring up the fact that your mom invited the other girl over, and then ask if she wants to come over one night this week or next weekend!


xxx


Becca G.

by uni301 on 9/11/2011 9:25:29 PM

 
 


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My ex boyfriend Brock and I got into a HUGE fight the other day and he left a "diss" on my FB Wall. And my "friend" Allie wrote "No offense or anything, but JORDAN JUST GOT DISSED BY HER EX!" and then she posted a song on my wall and said "This goes out to Brock.... From Jordan!" so I commented on it saying how tired I am of her acting like shes on my side and pretending to hate Brock and his friends and then siding with them. Then, she blocked me on FB and I sent her a message from my sisters FB saying how sorry I am but that she's not being a good friend and stuff and she replied back swearing at me saying she hated me and didn't want to be my friend anymore. I replied back tell her ok and that I'm not going to beg for her back and stuff and then my older sister saw the messages and told me how Allie isn't really my friend if she's going to act like that and not be forgiving to me after one fight then she's not really my friend. What should I do? Please help!
Jordan


 


Hey girly! Your sister is right. This girl, Allie, sounds pretty toxic. Why would you want a girl like that as your friend? You had no reason to apologize in the first place... she was the one who should've apologized, as she was the one acting like a bad friend. You did nothing wrong, chica. I would forget this girl. Don't go out of your way to be nice, but don't be blatantly mean either. Just ignore her, or act indifferent. And, lean on your better friends for support!


xxx


Becca G.

by cheerrox1111 on 9/11/2011 7:23:28 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
ok i stopped liking my old crush cuz i just started seeing one of my guy friends in 'a different way'. He liked me since 4th grade and now we're in sixth. I wonder if he still likes me cuz i always sit next to him in the one class we have together. im wondering if he still likes me. Does he? Oh and my last question was never answered. But does my guy friend still like me?




Hey babe,

Sorry, it's really hard to tell if guys are crushing on us - and just because he's liked you in the past and now you sit near him in a class doesn't mean he does! Try to observe how he acts around you and if he sneaks glances across the room, compliments/playfully teases/flirts with you, calls or texts you out of the blue, or gets flustered when you're around. All of these things could be signs of a crush!

Lauren C.

by cutiepanda445 on 9/8/2011 11:04:46 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!! So it's my first year of high school and people change and I think I have changed too but for good as in like I'm more mature, I like my teachers, and it's working out good except my BGF/ex weird combo right but ya he's immature and he already hates his teachers and it's only been the 3rd day of school and he never really had any guy friends so it's hard for him to mix well I guess, but what I'm saying is that I kind of want to space apart from him, but anytime I think I'm good and alone there he is! And for some reason I feel kind of weird if I'm introducing my self to people around him... How do I solve this?!!

 

Hey girlie,

Remember that girls mature emotionally wayyyy faster than guys at this age, so there's nothing "wrong" with him - he's actually being pretty normal, even though it feels like he's totally behind. If you don't want to be friends anymore because you've grown apart, just try to ease off communication with him. Start texting and hanging out less, cut your convos to a shorter length in person, and be less "available" when he wants to chat. Make sure this is really your final decision though because, once you cut a friend out of your life, you can rarely undo it!

Lauren C.

by 1Polar_Bear on 9/8/2011 6:07:21 PM

 
 



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ok so my school merged and and we got six new kids, theres one girl, lets A i feel like shes taking my firends away, Frown , and i search ays to talk to her esides at shool, so i can b friend swith her so its like were all one big group, but she facebook and i cant have one cuz of wa tmy mom does and how my dad is ... longer story..... and she a twitter but she hasnt been on it since july. i cant tet her cuz i dont get my fone for a awhile ....longer story..... any suggestion?




Hey girl, why not try asking her in person if she wants to hang out and give her your home number: you guys can talk that way to plan out when you're chilling one on one. Trust me, there are ways to communicate beyond social networking sites and texting.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by kristadakota on 9/5/2011 4:42:47 PM

 
 

modmodmodmodmodmod!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i think im getting depressed.my bestfriend died in a car crash in october 2010 and after i saw that im less and less happy. my other friend was close to her to and that was when we were closest to confort each other but she starter to get meaner to me and others. i dont know what to do.HELP!
emily




Hey there!

Losing somebody who was close to you is always hard.  Whenever you have those bad thoughts, visit nineline.org and give that number a call.  Don't worry, your parents won't see it.  But always, always try to confide in your family that you feel this way.  They're the one's who can help you the most.  It's hard but it's worth it! 
Jordan S.

by goobergiri on 9/1/2011 10:01:34 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!! ok, so im going into high school, and last year there was a middle school marching band, which i was in and loved. this year i joined with the rest of my friends, only to be moved into pit (its like extra percussion, but no drums, just xylophones and stuff.). well, pit doesnt march, and im a drummer, so it was boring for me and i wasnt having any fun and never saw my other friends who play like flute and french horn cuz they are on the feild and im in front, so i quit and changed my schedule and everything. My best friend ally is in pit, and since i quit she has been like ignoring me and even told my other band friend kate "we need to find a replacement" (meaning replace me). i cant believe that she would be like that. I keep feeling like this year is going to suck becuz most of my friends are in the band and ill never see them, plus the fact that Ally like hates me right now......i feel so alone. any help?

 

Hey girl, sounds confusing- you said all of your friends were in the marching part, but then your best friend was in the pit with you? It sounds like she is hurt that you left her for your other friends. Did you quit band completely or change to the field? You should talk to your friend ally and explain to her why you quit. If you want to change your schedule back, you could go talk to your school counselor and she might be able to help.

Tory N.

by puppydogs101 on 8/26/2011 3:00:02 PM

 
 



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I used to have an awesome friend, lets call her L, and we were the bestest friends for 7 long and happy years. Well then a another girl came into the picture, we'll call her C.
Well C is a mean girl, that says whatever she's thinking, and no-one but one of my friends see's how mean she is. Like one time she said to stop sending messages from MY skype account. And she says in front of 7 people 'I never considered you a friend'. See what I mean, I am not even making this up!! But my old bestie sees right though it. And C has influcened L to get 3 ear piercings,and to always want to be texting. I want my old friend back, i mean I have other awesomely cool friends that I want to be with- but L was just a really good friend. can you help me cope with this?
thx.




Hey, Girl! Sorry for the “stock” message. We’re psyched you’re here but since this is a super busy time, mods aren’t able to answer personal advice or contest questions. We’re approving your comments now so the girls can start offering feedback right away! If you still have questions, please come back, we’re happy to help…or just let the other chicas answer now! (They give awesome advice, trust us!) Love and thanks! ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes 
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by buzzingbee on 8/23/2011 10:10:29 PM

 
 

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A few days ago, one of my BFF'S texted me asking to hang out, "prefferably at my house." (She invited herself over, to rephrase it.) I understood why she wanted to come over because I went over to her house the last time, so it was time for her to come over to my house.
So, I asked my mom if she could, and my mom said no because she wanted to relax, maybe on Friday. (She has said this before.) I told my friend, and my friend got mad at me after I said maybe Friday, saying "I'm done trying to put up with your stupid schedule which never wants to hang out with me." I didn't respond to the text.This has happened before, and even though I offered her Friday, she still got mad. How should I deal?
Thanks

 

Hey girl, Just explain to her that you still want to hang out with her, but your mom's rules come first. Let her know that you still want to be her friend. She may just be frustrated because she wants to hang out with you and you can't.

 

xoxo tory

Jess D.

by spazyjazy99 on 8/22/2011 8:35:05 AM

 
 

MODMODMOD little by little, my bestfirend been ditching me for other people, canceling plans last minute 'just cuz she feels like it', and when i dont follow her around im apparently mad at her. i decided i need some time for other friends besides just her. We recently got put on seperate sports teams for the first time. now she thinks im being stuck up because im on a higher age group and i like my team so i hang out with them outside of practice. Whenever she brings it up she gets all snotty like shes the one whos being ditched all the time by her bff. it makes me feel terrible because even cansidering all the stuff shes done to me i still feel like im doing something wrong by hanging out with other people! please give me some advice. thanksSmile

 

Hey chica, you have done nothing wrong. You're hanging out with people who actually treat you the way a  real friend would. Whenever you feel bad just think about all the mean things she did to you. Hope you feel better! Smile

Lynae P.

by baileybluu on 8/19/2011 9:48:12 PM

 
 

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I'm going into highschool this year..and I'm beginning to realize that I have such a wide variety of lots friends, I don't know who my really good friends are. I'm so confused, and I feel really lonely, because sometimes I feel like I have none. I don't know if anyone else has ever felt this way. What should I do? Frown

by Cloverr on 8/19/2011 1:10:25 PM

 
 



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Lately my best friend has become so attachy that i don't even want to talk to her anymore or hang out with her, but i don't want to not be her friend since we've been through a lot together and we r always by each side.




Hey girl!

It's okay to distance yourself from a bud if you feel smothered. But if you wanna keep her around, and it sounds like she's a good pal, just be honest (and gentle). Tell her you need to take a little time for yourself when she asks to come over again or spend time with other friends too.  
Sarah G.

by soccerpal5 on 8/19/2011 9:43:50 AM

 
 



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Ok so recently, especially since it is summer, I have been worrying about my weight. I would honestly say that I am middle sized..not overweight and not underweight. Sometimes though, especially when I am in a swimsuit, I feel like I need to lose weight, because when I look down I look fatter than I do in a mirror. I don't know if I do or not and even though I am the same size as most girls my age, I can't help feeling fat sometimes. How do I get this feeling to stop?




hey! don't think about dropping pounds to be trendy. instead focus on having a healthy lifestyle year round with moderate exercise and a balanced diet. That's the way to maintain the right weight for your body. at girl's life we promote the idea that a healthy you is the most beautiful you there is. 
Helen S.

by hawaiigirl624 on 8/17/2011 5:36:41 PM

 
 



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Sence my friend moved here we have been hanging out all the time. Now that somebody pread a roumer that I was talk bad behind her back she hasent been talking to me. She says that I'm not her friend anymore. I have done everything for her.
What I do for to be my friend again




Hey girl, tell her it was a rumor and you would never do something like that to hurt her. Let her know how much she means and that you'd hate for a misunderstanding to ruin your friendship. And from there, give her some space. She'll cool down and things will go back to normal eventually.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by miss kenzie on 8/16/2011 11:40:11 PM

 
 

I wanted to be best friends with a girl ut not her other friend. Now her friend thinks we are BESTIES! How do i tell her no?

by tangey101 on 8/16/2011 5:53:00 PM

 
 

Everyone at school always says, "you have long hair" I cant tell if its a compliment or them hinting me to cut it shorter. I have long straight brown hair but it always get puffy when the wind blows. They dont say, "i like your hair" or "nice hair" they just say, 'wow, you have long hair" Im confused. oh plus, some of my friends sometimes say that i should cut my hair. Its long and i do want to cut my hair. so is it a compliment or them hinting?

by isabella4 on 8/14/2011 6:38:10 PM

 
 



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School is coming up soon, and I need your help. Do you have any tips or ideas on how I can balance school, family, friends, work, and a boyfriend this year?




Talk to your family, friends and boyfriend regarding the need to balance your time equally. As far as school, make sure it comes first and schedule work around it




Brittany G.  
Brittany G.

by jayhawk94 on 8/12/2011 10:24:21 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD Okay so my best friend (lets call her B) has this REALLY annoying babysitter who has been getting on my nerves lately. She cant really stop her from coming because shes kind of their nanny and her youngest brother is still young. My other good friend (lets call her M) and I have been sharing how much we both dislike her babysitter lately: Just a few days ago, after B invited me and M over, we went to her house with the spare keys. Apparently I wasn't supposed to lock the bottom lock but at the time I didn't know that. So one minute later, her babysitter comes barging into the door and kicks me and M out of the house, as if she owned it! She also said that I am in big trouble (???) and she will call my dad. I REALLY hate her now, as you can see, plus I don't want to get in trouble for no reason, so HELP!!!!!!

Hey girly,
Unfortunately, there really isn't anything you can do in this situation. Because B's parents have hired this babysitter, she is in charge of the house and what she says goes in terms of what goes on when the parents are out. Just tell your dad what happened and see what happens.


Catie C.

by decklandog on 8/12/2011 10:50:51 AM

 
 

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My best friend ever moved away this summer and so we only communicate through text. i feel like she kinda changed and she bothers me alot so i dont really want to be as close as we were. but she wants to still. she doesnt take my hints and i dont know what to do. i dont have a problem being friends i just dont want to be best friends. what can i do?




Hey girl,

You should keep in mind that the move might have been really hard for her so she probably needs you as her bff right now, even though you don't really wanna be.  SInce you only communicate through text, you can try to limit the amount of time you talk to her, by saying stuff like, "i'd love to talk about this now, but i have to help my mom cook dinner" or something like that. Hopefully after a while she'll get used to her new town and make new friends so she won't have to rely on you as much. x0x0 
Casey L.

by brummitt06 on 8/11/2011 1:10:47 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!! I hang with three main friends Sam, shagina, and kiley. Me Samantha and shagina all get along but when ever kiley is around with all of us she will try to start things between us. Then when one of us isn't there she talks behind no only our backs but our family's backs. A few months ago we had our yearly talk that's when we get together and discusss some issues. I told every one there that I ws sick of all the talking behind pples backs and I told them that if someone talked behind the other persons back I would tell the other person. I kept my promise and she still does it and now sheblames all her fights on me. Were really getting sick of all her drama and we need a long break. I am even thinking about cutting her out of my life completely, since I have lost all interest in hanging out with her at all. I am not trying to blame it all on her but we get along just fine when she isn't around. Do u think cutting her out of my life is such a good idea?????

 

 

Hey girl. Sounds like you got a toxic friend on your hands. Try talking to her one more time and then drop her.

mary h.

by star23 on 8/11/2011 9:26:00 AM

 
 

Mod Mod MOd PLEASE HELP! URGENT!
So my friend (we'll call her K) and I are starting 7th grade in a few days. Well we were texting yesterday and she told me she had a bf. She said she met him on FACEBOOK and he lives in ALABAMA! We don't live CLOSE to alabama! It's 4 states away AT LEAST! She hasn't told her mom that they are dating, but her mom knows they talk on the phone like every day. K is afraid to tell her mom bc she thinks her mom will make fun of her like she did with her last bf. I am nervous about k's relationship and I am kinda mad at her for doing something so stupid. Especially since she won't be 13 until december and he is 14!!! What should I do?




Hey girl,

You should encourage K to talk to her mom, because her mom really should know what's going on in K's life. And tell K that you're really concerned about her, and give her specific reasons why you're so concerned, to help her understand. If you talk to her and she sees how much you care about her, I'm sure she'd be willing to listen to what you have to say. x0x0 
Casey L.

by minkymouse on 8/10/2011 4:35:45 PM

 
 

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I have this friend that used to go to church with me then she quit and now its only been her mom. I want to hang out with her sometime but theres 3 probs... 1.Im afraid that when i ask if she wants to hang out it will come across that i like like her.(which i dont) the second prob is im friends with her sister too and im afraid that she will be offended if i just hang out with her older sister. and the third prob is where are we supposed to hang out? in the past i've gone to peoples houses and they've gone to myine but pretty mutch thats all we do.im 13 and shes 14, isnt there someplace we can hang out and talk? thanks and sorry its so long




Hey girl,

1. If you wanna hang out with her, just ask her! I'm sure it won't come across as something other than the fact that you miss her and wanna be her friend. 2. who says you can't hang out with both sisters at the same time? that way nobody gets left out. 3. see if a parent can drop you guys off at the mall, a park, or a coffee shop, and then have a set time to pick you up. it gives you some freedom and somewhere new to talk, but your parents will also feel like they can still monitor you. x0x0 
Casey L.

by Ndadgirl on 8/10/2011 1:37:01 PM

 
 

Hey girls! If you like to read, write or both could you please join my club "Bookworms & Writers"? I am trying to reach at-least 55 members by the end of the week and right now I'm at 43. I would really appreciate your help! Smile
~Lexi♥

by LexilicousCandy on 8/9/2011 10:26:31 PM

 
 



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on monday i worked out harder and longer than usual, and i didn't think that it would leave me as sore as it did, but my legs are really sore. i have volleyball tryouts tomorrow and i'm nervous that it'll impact how i'll play and especially when we run. i'm not really sure what i can do or if i can do anything about it, i'm just nervous about what i should do if it starts to impact how i play. helppp!!!




Take a hot bath and relax--talk to your mom about taking anything for pain




Brittany G. 
Brittany G.

by smileysevvie on 8/9/2011 8:21:16 PM

 
 



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so i have had one really close best friend and we have been friends for five years, but we have gone to different schools for 3 years. I feel like the flame of fun in our friendship is running out! please help me add more fun to our relationship! thanks so much!(:




Try spending more time together and coming up with different activities that you guys can do together like sleepovers, movie nights, cooking nights, etc




Brittany G.  
Brittany G.

by Gigilove321 on 8/9/2011 7:13:30 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!! i am going back to school next week. one problem-- i am not tan!! i used to be really dark, like last summer. but i havent really spent any time outside this summer. what will people think?!




Hey girlie, no one's going to think anything! You're the only one who's really worried about that, I promise. If you're self-conscious about you can use a self-tanning lotion.
Lauren T.

by daughtry60763 on 8/8/2011 11:00:49 PM

 
 

MOD MOD !!! Well for the giveaway prize today I thought it was the Ammy tote from Galian that is 6O dollars.. But on the computer I am on the giveaway for today is the grand prize from Sherry Wolf ... Since I want the Ammy tote I wanted to find out which item is up for the Bags 4 Babes giveaway...I saw it in my Aug/Sept magazine.. Many Thanks , Jessica Smile

 

 

Hey girl. It is the Ammy Tote for today. You probably just clicked Grand prize instead win today. Here is the link to enter: http://www.girlslife.com/giveaway/ammy-tote-from-galian.aspx

mary h.

by Jessy4132001 on 8/4/2011 8:53:56 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!! So I have 2 BFFs and the three of us are really close. But sometimes it seems like the two of them are leaving me out of things! IDk what to do plz help. Thanks!




Hey girl,

Just have a talk with them and tell them that you feel like you're being left out for no reason. They might not even realize they're doing it, so if you let them know how you feel, they'll stop. x0x0 
Casey L.

by LittleRockstar on 8/3/2011 4:26:34 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD! I have a best friend who's two years older than me, but we're really close. But she has lots of other friends who talks to a lot, and i barely have any. I havn't seen her in a long time since she's on vaca, and i just worry so much that she thinks i'm annoying or we'l sto being bet friends. I'm so stressed out!! Please help!




Hey girl, relax and know your BFF is friends with you because she likes and cares about you. Don't doubt yourself or what you mean to her and don't question it. Enjoy her friendship and just focus on being you. She likes that person.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by MadiLove on 8/2/2011 11:14:36 PM

 
 

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come join my club health cuties, for everything to do with getting healthy, and fit, from exercising to having healthy skin and hairSmile everyone is welcome, and we will be electing officers soon, so join in on the quest to getting healthier!!
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by cutie_pie54 on 8/2/2011 11:01:31 PM

 
 



mod mod mod! i tried to find new friends when mine ignored me for others but no one was like her! we used to be best friends and i miss her a lot! what should i do???




Hey girl, try reaching out to her again and telling her you miss her. You may just be able to go back.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by esk8 on 8/2/2011 10:05:25 PM

 
 

This happened to me! At first I didn't know what to think of it, but then I starting strengthining friendships with other girls, and then I finally found out that my other friend that abandoned me wasn't a very good friend anymore.

by applea123 on 8/2/2011 8:10:20 PM

 
 

Okay, admit it: Life isn't cake. And sometimes, you need some chica to chica advice. Smile

Well, I'm your girl. I give advice on everything. And yes, this includes the topic you're wondering on.

So if you don't know what to wear that weekend, what to tell that guy, or how to fix that family problem, contact me Smile

Holla! Peace out.

by naturallywonderful on 8/2/2011 7:55:20 PM

 
 

i feel the same way.

by j4zm09 on 8/2/2011 3:16:47 PM

 
 

MOD! Mod! mod!
I have these two girls who used to be my best friends, well now we are fighting, & they turned my other friends/ all the girls in my class against me, the only girl I have left is my bff who goes to another school. What do I do?




Hey girl,

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Is there any way you can pull your other friends aside and just tell them how hurt you are by this whole situation, and how you could really use them as friends right now? You could also try talking to the two friends with a guidance counselor, or someone to act as a mediator, to get the situation resolved. I hope this works out for you. x0x0 

 
Casey L.

by candyqueen.simps on 8/2/2011 2:24:51 PM

 
 

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One of my best friends lives in the same town as me (M) and my other bestfriend lives 12 hours away (T) and we only see eachother in the summer. Lately T has been acting like she doesn't want me there and M has been a little absent as well. I guess I don't really fit in with them as they are both gorgeous and I'm average and they're both really popular and I'm not. We all have the same interests though. What can I do to patch this up and make it like it was at the beginning of summer? Thanks in advance xoxo




Hey girl,

I would just call each of them or write them an e-mail and say that you're not really sure why your relationship has changed, but you really liked the way things were and would love to get back to that place. Also, since one of your bffs lives far away, you could try to make more friends this year, so you don't just have to rely on those two as your besties. Good luck! x0x0 
Casey L.

by lova1<3 on 8/2/2011 1:35:31 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD last night i dreamed my mom told me she was going to die in the next week. I woke up crying. Im scared. I read online that dreaming about a loved one dying means that you are worried about them and dreaming about your mother dying means your relationship with them is changing or you are afraid of growing up. Our relationship is kinda changing. things are more awkward between us we are still close but not as close. I am also 15 and going into high school and sad about growing up. I am just afraid my dream means something. I know that sounds silly but i am afraid my mom is going to die in the next week I worry about my mom a lot. we are going to six flags on friday with my mom and my friends and i was sooooo excitedand now im just scared she is gonna die. she i pretty healthy just high blood pressure but she takes meds and a little out of shape. What do you think my dream means? is my mom going to die. I knowits a silly question but i am a worrier and have a wild imagination

 

 

Hey girl. A lot of people think that dreams are just random electrical impulses in the brain while others think they predict the future. My opinion is that its somewhere in between. Yes, our dreams sometimes try to tell us things (like you say you are growing up), but I highly doubt that your mom with die. I've had horrible dreams before too and you know what? They didn't come true. Have fun a Six Flags!

mary h.

by rockerchick411 on 8/2/2011 12:17:41 PM

 
 

My friend started to act strangely and wear make-up suddenly in 6th grade. I decided to patch up old relationships and make new buds, and she cleaned up her act pretty quickly!!! :p

by RaceTiger7 on 8/2/2011 12:05:58 PM

 
 

This is your opportunity to burst your social bubble and
make new friends! Put this situation to your advantage.

by colorqueen101 on 8/2/2011 10:19:40 AM

 
 

Frown

guys come check out my club "use your ropes" and my advice queen page! ask me any questions and I will for sure answer them within hours.

by hahaha2005 on 8/2/2011 9:15:58 AM

 
 

dont worry there are always people to meet youll get over it Laughing

by jollymoemoe on 8/2/2011 1:46:06 AM

 
 

You need to make more friends, find a new best friend. Maybe this BFF of yours needs a break.

by thetruth on 8/2/2011 1:44:09 AM

 
 

Hey chicas,If you need advice on anything really I'm here 4 u!I answer questions on topics from boys to hair styles to drawing and much more!!!!!no question is too embarrassing or humiliating so come on down to my advice queen page and you wont be dissapointed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by artistchic99 on 8/2/2011 1:13:48 AM

 
 

I know how you feel...

by LexilicousCandy on 8/2/2011 12:19:19 AM

 
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