You’ve seen that cutie in the halls, said hi, maybe chatted him up a
bit? Now, it seems you’ve got him under your spell and he’s said the
magic words: “Wanna hang out some time?” So, how do you know if he’s the
right one for you? Are you really into him, or just testing the waters?
Focus on Feelings
Do you think about him a lot? Do you
get butterflies when you’re around him? Think about how you feel when
you’re with him, whether you’re really into this guy or just playfully
flirting. Don’t say “yes!” just because you’re trying to make someone
jealous or you’re just itching for a boyfriend. But if you’re really
feeling the sparks, like you can’t imagine him being with anyone else,
this is your golden ticket!
Check, 1, 2, 3…
So you think you’ve found the perfect
hunny? Don’t agree to become full-out BF and GF until you know him a bit
better. If he’s just the new hunk you’ve seen around the halls, you two
may not be as compatible as you think. Figure out what you two have in
common--which means more face-to-face convos! While you don’t need a
twin, a guy who’s obsessed with lax and punk music may not be the best
match for a girl who loves ballet. But if you two hit it off during a
play rehearsal? Sounds promising. Only talked a few times? Keep your
options open, and don’t commit to a full-on date just yet--try a group
outing so you can really see how you two mesh.
Opposites attract?
Maybe this guy is a part of your
friend group, or he’s helped manage your b-ball team. Whatever it is,
you sort of know him and he seems interested in you. But, you two have
never really seemed to click just right. Whether it’s his jokes that
tend to be more immature or his obsession with Star Wars, something
about him has never really been attractive to you. Before you say yes,
spend a little more time with him. Is he really an immature jokester, or
do his crazy antics actually tickle your funny bone? Is his obsession
his life--or does he just love a good movie? Now, no one is perfect (we
all have strange obsessions and kooky humor) so don’t ditch him just
because of one quirk. Hey, that’s what makes people interesting! If you
can deal with or even come to like his personality, looks like you might
have a match. But if his jokes are just cruel, or he’s into the wrong
kind of stuff (drugs or alcohol), it’s def time to put the brakes on a
date. Steer clear of this bad egg, and you’re sure to find a golden
fella soon enough!
BY ANDI CWIEKA ON 8/1/2011 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, crush crash course