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It seems the only way to be popular is to be someone else, and I don’t like that. When I try to be someone else, that someone is usually rejected too. I just don’t fit in with others in the right way.

 

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Instead of struggling to be popular, strive to have one or two real friends. Which girls besides the popular ones would you like to befriend? Your next-door neighbor? The girl behind you in English class? The new kid in school? Develop your own strengths (academic, athletic and personal), and join an after-school activity to meet new people. Then be yourself. Ask girls questions like, “How was your weekend?” or “What was your old school like?” Then listen to the answers. If a girl says, “My weekend was fun. I went to my dad’s,” don’t just say, “Mine was fun, too.” Ask her where her dad lives and what he’s like and when she’ll visit him again. Don’t be pushy or nosy, just friendly and relaxed. Being nice and interested is always popular no matter who you are.

 

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 8/20/2011 12:00:00 AM

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Okay, so last year I had to transfer schools and I met a couple of girls, and they're like HUGE Directioners and I am too but not just as much as them. So I pretended to be a huge Directioner just like them. But Iam truly in love with the 50's. I have since I was 5, and I put Elvis Presley magnets in my new locker, and one of the girls came up to me and said "You should take down those old guy magnets and put up 1D stuff!" And I did. I also wear my saddle shoes everyday because I love them so much, but I started to be bullied because I wore them. So I like didn't wear them for the rest of the school year. But with this new school year (at the same school) I just want to fit in, but not be bullied, and be myself. I want to decorate my new locker with a 50's theme but scared I'll be picked on. What should I do? Please help!
-Saddle Shoes in Hiding

 

Hey! Personally, I think your sense of style sounds awesome! (and way cooler than 1D anyway ;)) It's tough when you want to fit in, but if you feel bad about yourself, then you're letting the bullies win. Stand up for yourself, and if you feel uncomfortable, tell someone. The fifties rule, all us grownups think so ;)!  


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by 50sfan1234 on 7/30/2012 6:37:02 PM

 
 



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PLEASE HELP! i so want to be popular with my friends! the popular girls seem so nice and not mean.




Hey girlie,

Popularity usually means being liked by a lot of people. To get that, you don't need to be mean! Get involved in activities, speak up in class, talk to all different groups of classmates, and be nice/friendly to everyone ... and check out this article about becoming friends with the popular crowd Smile It's really as easy as it sounds!

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/02/15/friends-with-popular-girls.aspx?cp=all
Lauren C.

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by kyra678 on 4/19/2012 6:03:44 PM

 
 

sometimes that really doesn't work tho Frown

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by whildchic98 on 1/21/2012 10:47:33 PM

 
 

Popularity doesn't matter that much. Its only the opinions of others that are deemed "popular" that makes you popular. If you find some true friends it doesn't matter if you are "popular" or not.

Please visit my Advice Queen page! I really like to give advice to peeps Smile just post a question and i will answer it on your profile as soon as i see it.

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by basketballcutie11 on 12/23/2011 5:31:30 PM

 
 

Well you don't have to be popular. Just who you are is great and if people can't accept that who cares?! I used to be like that, then that led to insecurity. Then, one day a little voice told me "BE YOU!" Smile

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by SmallStepsFirst on 12/21/2011 7:30:29 AM

 
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