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There is someone in my class who is mental but the teachers treat her with tons of special treatment cuz shes the principals daughter but i think she should go to the isd or something but i cant say anything else ill get in trouble

by bethylove on 3/12/2012 6:51:30 PM

 
 



MODMOD!! I'm worried about my friend! She tells me that her parents fight a lot and last year she told me she thinks her parents are going to get a divorce! She used to joke a lot about cutting herself and stabbing things but thankfully she doesn't anymore. Please help!

 

Hey! Just remember to be there for your friend. Listen and be a shoulder to cry on, and help her find counseling if she needs it. One place to go is here: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2008/08/04/HELP!2.aspx 


Helen S.

by KXjqu238 on 3/2/2012 8:33:24 PM

 
 

Hey Hannibe, the only thing you can do is be there for her. Offer her advice and helping she needs it. Hope this helps! Xoxo



ModMod! I think my friend is pregnant! She is always talking about who will get pregnant in high school and how someone can get pregnant if toilet water with sperm splashes up there. And her stomach is getting larger. What should I do? Lynae P.

by Hannibe on 1/21/2012 7:50:43 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMOD!!!! I have been really stressed lately and I dont know what to do! One, my dad is deployed and two, my best friend just told me yesterday that she might be pregnant... I dont know how to deal with that. On top of that, I've been really crabby tongiht and i dont know why. I just dont know how to deal with all this. My friend has put a lot of stress on me lately....She has told me not to tell anyone about the stuff she does, but i broke and told my mom about her might being pregnant. I just cant deal with this any more!

 

Hey girl, I completely understand. I think you need to take a break from everyone. Tell all your friends and anyone else who come to you for advice, you need some time to yourself. I understand you want to help everyone, but you can't put your needs and life after other peoples. Take one day and treat yourself. Start with a hot bubble bath, get your hair and nails done, maybe go shopping or relax and watch some of your fave movies. I'm sure you'll feel better. Hope this helps! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by crush2010 on 12/3/2011 7:38:35 PM

 
 

I have a bad mouth bff. she is always saying bad words. she disrespects her grandma. I dont like it when she talks like this. i ask her to tone down her language but it never works. my other friend says she doesnt think she should talk that way. i dont know what i should do. should I just lay off and ignore it?

by anniboo01 on 12/1/2011 12:50:53 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!! Heyy I love hanging out with my besties, but my mom thinks they're a bad influence. But they don't do anything!!! She just doesn't like them, or their moms. Now she doesn't even wanna let me hang out with them!!! What do I do???

 

Hey girl, oh this is a tough sitch. Maybe you could plan a mother-daughter day for you, your mom and all your friends and their moms. That way your mother could meet everyone's parents and get to know the people you're friends with. It could be something as casual as a dinner at a nice restaurant or bowling. Hope this helps!! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by yelhsa2198 on 11/9/2011 5:52:20 PM

 
 

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by cindy5218 on 10/25/2011 8:50:23 AM

 
 

I know this sounds really kiddish of me but I am kinda mad at my friend. Last year, in 6th grade, I told her that I liked this one really cute guy! She always said how ugly he was before then. But you can probably guess what happened, she fell in love with him. Then, two days later, they were BF and GF. I was so MAD!!! She seriously went behind my back and asked him out. He had (I mean... HAS) a crush on her so of course he said 'yes'. They are still going out! Over the summer when we were hanging out she was telling me how great he is. The thing is now I think he likes me. I mean he always flirts with me and laughs at anything I say (in a nice way). I think she is jealous of me because since me and him are friends, I talk to him alot. She actually took his hand and dragged him away from me today!!! She also told me, and I quote, "Stay away from him! He is MY BF not yours." Then I overheard her say to him " I can't believe you actually dated her." Me and him dated for a while BTW. Help

by hitthemall#1 on 10/24/2011 7:30:52 PM

 
 



MOD! MOD! MOD!
okay so me and my friends think tht a guy likes my BFF..all the clues r there and when some1 shouted tht he liked her in class his friends and his cousins were just kinda keeping silent agreeing.. last year his friend was lke Luke stop flirting with Amber!!! adn he got all red adn embarressed cuz he likes her...but even when she knows all these clues that he likes her she doesnt belive it!! its not lke she doesnt hav many friends a ton of ppl r her friends and talk to her.. we tell her all the things he does adn how he is so kind to her adn likes her but she doesnt think any guy would like her..she says im sure he likes some other girl thts prettier funnier etc...i keep telling her shes awesome and shes pretty funny kind caring and everything but she still doesnt understand shes rlly great! other ppl hav tried to tell her too...but i was just wondering what r ways i can try to boost her self confidence and let her know and understand she rlly is great!! thanks!




Hey girlie,

Definitely be there to support her and tell her she's great, just like you've been doing! You're amazing friends to stand by her like that! But unfortunately you can tell her all you want and yet, if she's insecure and really critical of herself, she won't hear it. Try asking HER what her greatest qualities are - her fave physical and personality traits in herself. Force her to compliment herself and acknowledge the amazing person she is inside. Ask her to list her accomplishments/talents/skills. By making HER do this (and you can do it as a group so she doesn't feel singled out), she'll definitely see herself in a new light <3 
Lauren C.

by dance22lover on 10/13/2011 9:30:50 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!!!
My friend's mom overreacts at everything my friend does wrong. for example, she pulled the cord of the headphones out of the itouch of another "friend." And the "friend" totally lied and said that my friend broke her headphones. Today, the "friend" admitted it and my friend was really pissed.
Anyway, the point is, pulling a cord of a pair of headphones isn't that bad. But my friend's mom was really mad and angry and now she doesn't trust my friend to touch anyone's stuff now. Help?




Hey girlie,

This woman sounds judgmental by nature - it sounds like she'll find fault with your friend because she wants to. And I don't think there's much your friend can do to change her opinion of her, even if she was the most mature, responsible person from now on. Try to convince her not to let it bother her - she knows in her heart that she isn't destructive or irresponsible <3 
Lauren C.

by Emilicious on 10/13/2011 8:00:14 PM

 
 

I have 2 best friends, and they're both depressed. One of them goes to my school, and she is the most messed up one. she has a messed up family life, and a terrible boyfriend. She's told me she's wanted to kill herself for a long time, and she once got really close to doing it. She's cut herself and everything. The other friend is depressed because she thinks she's ugly and doesn't have a boyfriend, and has also alomst died. I really want to tell my teacher what's going on, because this whole thing is stressing me out and I want it to stop. Should I tell my teacher or keep my friend's trust? Please answer I'm so lost!!




Hey babe, 

Whenever a friend tells you they've thought about suicide, tell a trusted adult fast - a teacher, a guidance counselor, a parent. Your friend might think you're betraying their trust, but it's more important that you save their life, right? I'm so sorry you're going through this, I can only imagine how difficult of a situation this must be for you. Be sure to talk to someone about how you're feeling through this entire process, too. xoxoxo 
Devin A.

by dagymnast on 10/10/2011 3:29:34 PM

 
 

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by coccobello on 10/9/2011 5:54:43 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD EMERGENCY !!!!!Ok so my good friend is going through therapy because she told me and my other friend she considered killing herself and so we told the counseler and ya but she started dating my recent ex. I mean we went out for about 2 years so we were pretty deep and we broke up before school and she insist it's helping her but it's hurting me so I got I to an argument with her and told her I didn't want her to talk To me anymore bcuz she's scarring me and so she threatened to kill herself and I didn't say anything back.....what do I do?? Emergency!!!!




Hey girlie,

This is so tough, because your friend is obviously going through some serious business as she tries to get her life on track. So you don't wanna upset her, but at the same time you want to make sure you take care of yourself, too! If she ever threatens this again, you need to make sure you tell someone, preferably one of her parents or the counselor in charge of her therapy. It's a serious statement to make! I think, unfortunately, that she might have said this in order to just get you off her back - and using suicide as a way to do that is  so wrong. So while she's going through this rocky time, try to avoid any serious conversations like this. Wait til she's a lil more stable before you conquer big topics - you're on a straighter road right now than she is, so just try to be understanding <3
Lauren C.

by tigerlily12 on 10/8/2011 12:17:37 AM

 
 

MOD:MOD:MOD: Do u know the website Girlsense?? There is always an add in your magazine for that. Anyways I note this girl on there who is really nice. We give each other advice and We even have an advice group on there together. I am even friends with her little sis. Anyway We think we wanna meet in real life someday which we both think would be fun and cool. She agreed with me to ask you if you thought it would be a good idea. We both wanna even have the same job! and im positive that she is not a bad person. she is MY best friend on there! Thanks!! I LOVE your magazine! Smile ;) Smile

 

Hey chica, this girl does sound really cool and great, but you have to be careful with these internet sites. Who knows who she could really be? So I would defintely wait until you're older and have a parent or friend go with you. She could be okay, but just to be on the safe side. Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by taylorswiftfan1233 on 10/1/2011 5:31:31 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!
Ok,my best friend(who is a guy),is a hispanic.They just put an immigration law in our state,and he has to move away.It has made me very depressed,and I am already starting to miss him,even though he hasn't even left yet.How can I beat the depression and still remember him when he is gone and not cry.=[

 

Hey babe,

This is a total bummer, so it's ok to be sad sometimes! But don't let it consume you. Try to remember how EASY PEASY it is to stay in touch these days! You have texts/phone calls, emails, Facebook, Skype, and ol' snail mail to swap stories and stay close friends. It's going to take more work and you'll miss him lots, but these definitely help get you through <3

Lauren C.

by mathgeek221 on 9/29/2011 5:43:59 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMOD! I've been bullied since Monday and it's already started to affect me. Before it was just words. It hurt, but I survived. Then it got physical today. It's to the point where the nasty things these guys say, make me want to transfer schools. What do I do? Reporting to an adult doesn't work. My school sucks with that. How do I seriously fix it without others being involved?

 


Hey chica, I'm super busy right now trying to answer all you guys! Hit up some of your gal pals on here like facebooker1240 for help! I'm sure they'll be willing to lend a helping hand! Smile Smile Smile


Lynae P.

by TheMentalistgurl on 9/14/2011 7:43:11 PM

 
 



MOD
A close guy friend of mine recently told me that his girlfriend wants to have sex with him, but he does not feel ready. She is a forceful girl and may not take his feelings into consideration, but I know he still likes her. What can I do to help him avoid getting hurt or have something even more tragic transpire?




Tell him to talk to her about how he feels and if she doesn't respect his feelings, he may have to find someone else who will.




Brittany G.  
Brittany G.

by kewlgirl13 on 9/13/2011 10:34:07 PM

 
 



MODMODMOD!
I feel like my best friend always lies. It just feels like half she says just doesn't seem legit. And I have that feeling. What should I do?




Hey girl, why not prod her a bit to see if you can get a better sense of the truth from her. Your intuition may be on to something, but try to stick to the mentality she's innocent until proven guilty.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by TheMentalistgurl on 9/12/2011 7:58:49 PM

 
 

Ok. I have sent my question 3 times!!! And it won't go through!!! Dx What's going on?!




Hey babe! 

Unfortunately, I don't know what the sitch is. Another mod might be answering right now, since comments aren't automatically posted. If you don't still don't see your question, try asking again right now...I'm here to help! xoxox 
Devin A.

by TheMentalistgurl on 9/12/2011 4:14:22 PM

 
 

hey! tell your friend that councelling is for anyone who neesd it. tell her that you love her, and don't like to see her upset and confused like she might be. i tried that with a friend in a similar situation, and she totally listened to me!

by emmy-sue97 on 9/6/2011 10:19:06 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!! My Friend hits on a lot of guys I want to tell her that 2 or 3 is enough but I don't want to loose our friendship! Also I'm starting to hear rumors about her and let's just say it's nothing nice!! How can I tell her?!




Hey babe,

Try to approach the subject in a way that makes it seem like you're on her side - that you're supporting her, on her team, etc. Say something like "Hey it's not a big deal, but I wanted to tell you something that I heard about you today." Share it with her, make sure she knows that it disappointed you to hear people gossiping, but then try saying "How can we get them to stop talking like this? Maybe we should tone it down a little?" Try talking through it as a team - that way, you're suggesting she stop flirting so much without attacking her <3
Lauren C.

by 1Polar_Bear on 9/4/2011 11:00:15 AM

 
 



MODERATOR
i always feel really left out and it stinks. Today i had a sleepover with two of my close friends and one of them always talks about how they are so close and how no matter what they do to each other they will always be friends. and i feel so left out of their little 2 person love fest sometimes. i have 2 other really close friends but they say " we have really deep conversations where we cry" and i don't do that with my other two friend. and after we had a sleepover they left and had another sleepover together while i did nothing all night. and i couldn't go because i have plans tomorrow but now those plans might be cancelled! just please help me not feel jealous of their relationship!




Hey girl,

Try to remember that your friendship with these people will naturally be different than their friendships with anyone else - because everyone is different! Don't compare how close they are or whether they make each other cry! Instead, remember how "left out" you feel sometimes and do some work in order to make that go away. Reach out to your friends to make plans so you have something to do when you're free. Any friendship takes work, and you won't become very close "best friends" with someone if you don't hang out, share secrets, ask for advice, and work through tough times together. Try to be patient and connect with them the best you can! And don't forget there are always people out there to meet - a new classmate, a person in your new club, etc. Reach out to other people as well to get to know them!
Lauren C.

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by facebooker1240 on 9/3/2011 1:11:36 PM

 
 

i think you should try to see what is causing all of these emotions then when you see wat is doing that try to resolve it

by zepper on 9/1/2011 6:21:54 PM

 
 

2cool2bark,

Sit down with your friend one day and go to nineline.org.  Call that number (don't worry, your parents won't see it) and somebody on that hotline will help you two decide what to do.
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by 2cool2bark on 8/31/2011 3:45:09 PM

 
 

Personally, I wouldn't push it too much. I mean, therapy is still a touchy subject, and she might feel like she's not "crazy" and doesn't need it, or she might feel like her problem isn't important enough to go to therapy about.

Just lay low on that subject for a while, and be there for your friend.Smile

by OMGabi on 8/31/2011 10:31:56 AM

 
 

We need to help people when they need it. You never know when you may need help, things can happen to anyone. It seems like most of the problems with people I know are related to drugs and pregnancy scares. Sometimes we just need to listen and then try to help and encourage them to get counseling.

by luckykel on 8/30/2011 10:21:32 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
Please answer my question about my friend and her mom. I really want to help her through this. Please answer as soon as possible. Thanks.




Which question love?




Brittany G.  
Brittany G.

by 2cool2bark on 8/30/2011 8:12:21 PM

 
 



MOD: sorry, I didn't remember this Q b4 i hit "post comment"... anyways, I think I have a delema. I a lot of times feel low, and have cut, and have had suicidal thoughts (none where ever really serious. I didn't attempt or anything)but then other times, I am so happy. I feel like a rollar coaster! this has been going on for about 1 1/2 years. what should I do? Any illness I could run. (I have a family history with depression and things of that nature)




You should speak with a trusted family member or friend, or even try talking to your school's counselor about your thoughts.




Brittany G.  
Brittany G.

by hahaha2005 on 8/30/2011 7:25:39 PM

 
 



MOD: so, I have to wear a bigger pants size because of my butt/thighs, and it gets me kinda low. I know that I am super fit (cross country, A team for volleyball...) and I know they are mostly muscles. Anyway to help boost my confidence?




Remember you're healthy, fit and awesome at sports Smile




Brittany G.  
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by hahaha2005 on 8/30/2011 7:20:56 PM

 
 

That's tough for you and her, because I think she needs to let it all out but you don't want to force her into anything because it'll make her feel pressured. let her know you are there whenever she needs someone to talk to or even a shoulder to cry on, and you won't judge her when she needs to vent. Good luck girlie!

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by thecupcakequeen on 8/30/2011 6:03:04 PM

 
 

Alexa<3 anorexia is when they starve them selves blumia is when they puke. and also you should talk to a teacher parent or some one cause thats unhealthy.

by madsterw1 on 8/30/2011 5:38:46 PM

 
 

hey Alexa <3 if she pukes her food up, she probably has bulimia

by iRokkin on 8/30/2011 3:45:18 PM

 
 



MOD
i think my mom needs help. my dad died almost a year ago and i am an only child, and she excludes herself from everything, sleeps a lot, and is always in a bad mood. it is getting really bad, today she yelled at me because my friend didn't give something to my other friend. she was yelling at me because she said that i shouldn't have stayed home from school sick and i should have given it to her myself. she acts like this a lot, and i am scared to tell her that i think she might need help because she has a temper (she wouldn't hit me or physically hurt me though)and i don't have much other family. please help me




Are there any times in which the two of you enjoy yourselves together--like watching a certain show or going out? If so, use this as an opportunity to broach the subject. Tell her you miss having fun together and it worries you that she seems sad.




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by volleyballgirl7799 on 8/30/2011 3:38:37 PM

 
 

Alexa<3 - if u need help then write MOD at the top.

by sweetpea185 on 8/30/2011 1:36:28 PM

 
 

I need help,too !
My bestie is Anorexic . She doesnt think she is .
Her mom is always at work and her dad lives in Florida .
We both play soccer on a champion travel team. So we only get one day off and pressure builds to be great.
Her sister is an A+ student in college so she has NO ONE to talk to . She never eats and me and my friend were with her yesterday , eating chips and she went up to the bathroom and puked it all out Frown
Im really worried that she might pass out at a game/practice ! HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Alexa <3 on 8/30/2011 12:36:26 PM

 
 

haha first comment! anyways yeah i get what your saying but just having her friends tell her over and over again is not going to help. And plus it depends what you think she needs to go to therapy for. Just because she's angry all the time for no reason? If that's true, theyres no reason for her to go to therapy. Shes just being a teen. But if her parents abuse her or something like that, then yes, she should go to therapy but if she seriously feels like she doesnt need to, it's her choice. What's the point of going to talk to someone if you won't talk? Sorry for the long comment lol.

by lizziefizzie on 8/30/2011 11:13:24 AM

 
 

Do not force it. It is up to her and her family if she needs/wants to go to therapy. Did she go thorough a tough time recently, like a divorce/loss of family member, or something else that is tough to deal with? Did she recently struggle with something like an eating disorder? Offer an ear anytime she needs to vent, or just help her by letting her talk. She might not want to go to therapy, because to her it could mean she's messed up, or not "normal." just support her. In the end, its her choice.

by basketballcutie11 on 8/30/2011 11:04:01 AM

 
 

i don't get it
first comment?

by colorqueen101 on 8/30/2011 10:08:41 AM

 
 

MODMODMOD!
I'm going into 7th grade and i'm not sure what to wear for the dances and good places to get the outfits-thanks!
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Hey girl! 

Dresses with ruffles, floral prints, and frills look great on athletic girls. Try pairing these dresses with a belt to draw attention to your waist! I'd try looking for dresses like this in department stores, H&M, and Forever 21. Have fun at your dance Smile

Devin 

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by RaceTiger7 on 8/30/2011 9:28:44 AM

 
 

Omg I basically have the same issue with a new girl at my school! My bestie and I are going to the guidance counselor today. She told everyone that she cuts, does crack, gets a abused by her dad and step-brother. Her step brother threatened to rape her, and a bunch of scary stuff. She has also tried committing suicide numerous amounts of times. I think it is the right thing we are doing.

by nerdisthewurd26 on 8/30/2011 7:36:06 AM

 
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