I have a friend who is one year younger than me, but her
bra size is maybe 1 or 2 sizes bigger than me. She always makes fun of me for
having small breasts, and I say it isn't really my fault... is it? How can I
make her leave me alone?
Hey girl, I’m sorry your friend is being such a downer.
Growing up is hard enough without your friend making you self-conscious. Fact
is, everyone develops at their own pace, and it’s just as awkward to get boobs
early as it is to be a late bloomer.
It’s not okay for your friend to put you down, even if she’s
just joking around. You need to be straightforward and honest, and tell her
clearly that her comments are hurtful. It sounds like she might be working
through her own issues—having big boobs can be hard, especially if she’s
younger. She might just be embarrassed by her own figure, so be as sensitive to
her insecurities as you’d like her to be for you.
And as for it being your fault, don’t be silly! The way your
body is proportioned is entirely due to genetics. If your mom is flat-chested,
for example, you’re much more likely to have smaller breasts. And depending how
old you are, there’s still a big chance of boob growth later on. Unless you’re
not eating healthfully, there’s really not anything you can do to speed up the
process. Until you make it through puberty, try to become comfortable with your
body and develop high self-esteem by surrounding yourself with positive people
– and if you’re friend can’t be supportive, try and find some considerate
chicas. Good luck sweetie!
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BY SARAH GOLDBERG ON 8/8/2011 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN body image, puberty, my breasts are too small, advice, how to deal with a bully