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My 'rents won't get off my case!

 
School just started and already my parents are pushing me to get straight-A’s and do a billion extracurricular activities. They’re driving me nuts. What can I do to make them get off my case?
 
Go easy on your parents. They only want you to do well and get into a good college. But, you should sit your ’rents down and tell them that all this pressure is freaking you out. Let them know that you’re gonna do your best, but their expectations are set way too high. Instead of creating an impossible standard, sit down with M&D and talk about some goals that aren’t grade-based. Discuss what you’d like to do better this year, whether it’s joining the soccer team (even though they’re pushing for tennis) or improving your PowerPoint presentation skills.
 
Remember, sweetie: This is your life. Doing everything your parents want you to do is great…if you want to do all of those things, too. But if they’re pushing you to be someone you’re not, you need to let them know and then start thinking about the person you want to be and how to become that person. Life is about doing—and succeeding—at what you love. 
 
Good luck, girlie!
 

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BY KELLY MYSLINSKI ON 8/17/2011 2:41:00 PM

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I have this weird feeling my mom's gonna die soon. The only thing is that she's perfectly healthy. I live with her and my brother in a different state than the rest of my family (we moved last year). Why do I feel like this and how can I stop it?







Hey girl!  I'm sorry that you're feeling this way.  You're dealing with some anxieties and worries that are probably making you over think things and only think about the worst possible case.  Why don't you try to connect with your mom more to remind you that she is fine and loves you.  Phone calls, Skype, anything will help.  




xxoo 
Maggie P.

by Sonnet on 7/5/2012 1:44:08 AM

 
 



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okay so my mom is WAY TOOOOO STRICT
she tells me that im always "pushing the limits". if the argument is about clothing she keeps asking me why i want to dress so sexy. will never let me wear any clothing that has sleeves shorter than a t-shirt. In fact,the only tops i have are t-shirts (not even in summer, ugh!)the shortest shorts i own go to my mid thighs. i have 2 racerback tank tops but i have to wear t-shirts underneath.my mom always wore a uniform and only cared about her grades when she was in school and she wants me to be the same. Plus, what makes it worse is that my school has a dress code which is no spaghetti straps and shorts have to be at your fingertips. so when i (calmly) tell my mom that is can still wear things that fit the dress code that arent t shirts she always says: "just because other people do it, does it make it right? most times she ends up yelling and i end up crying. We just cant compromise. that was a long message Smile. HELP ME!

 

Hey girl!  It might not seem like it, but your mom has your best interest in mind.  Try going along with her rules for awhile.  T-shirts and long shorts and skirts can still show your style!  Show your mom you accept her rules, and as you get older I'm sure she will relax.  Sorry, but for now, you might just have to stick it out!  xoxo 


Kate G.

by anikadandekar on 7/2/2012 11:49:11 PM

 
 



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My bFF is moving away since she is a military family. SHe has been the closet bff iv'e ever been too. I am so upset! I dont show it though. I dont want to look all weak. I'm so sad too because next year we were going to go to the same middle school! (7th) How will i make new friends like her at my new school? The girls in my class iv'e all been bffs with and 2 are opposites and the other one tried to controll me. What do i do in middle school? I'm afraid i'll be made fu of. I think I am alittle now.




Hey girlie,

The most important thing is to remember how many ways there are to stay in touch with the friend you do have! Texting, phone calls, Skype video calls, email, Facebook, instant message, regular mailed letters, etc. We're so lucky these days - I can't imagine what it was like before when you could only write or call someone! Use that as a way to stay connected and keep up with each other's lives. As for friends next year, embrace the fact that you're going to middle school. Since it's a new school, there will most likely be new faces in your classes - which mean more potential friends! Try to challenge yourself to be out-going and make small talk with your neighbors at your locker or before classes start, go up to a lunch table and ask if you can sit down (then chat with them once you do), join a new club or sport, and overall be confident, strong, and happy during your first days. You can do it!!! This will set a great tone for the rest of the year Smile 
Lauren C.

by chick987 on 10/21/2011 9:19:32 PM

 
 

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one of my best friends is very religious and she has an amazing family. her fathers a pastor her mom is awesome and she has 3 younger siblings. everyone likes her because she is so nice and her youth group friends threw her a surprise birthday party and everything. her life is almost perfect, the perfect family perfect friends and well my life isn't even close. i want her life so badly. she goes on family vacations to go apple picking or they go to a historical landmark for the day and i just want to be her! is that so bad! she doesn't have to worry whether her family will always love her, and if she will have parents next year. i just wanna trade lives. do you have any advice??? please.




Hey girlie!

I've found that the phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side," is very, very true.  You may think you want her life, but I assure you, she feels the same way about somebody else's (or maybe even yours!)  There's no use being jealous of what she has, when I know you have plenty of things to be grateful for in your life.  Make a list, or think up one.  I'm sure you'll feel much better when they're all out there.
Jordan S.

by ImJustMe96 on 9/29/2011 1:53:21 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMODMOD I have been on a community swim team for five years. I have not had one year where I have enjoyed swimming. My mom pushes me to participate, by signing me up and paying for the season without asking me first. She coaches for the younger kids. This afternoon, she told me that I could quit- only if I play basketball. I have never played basketball in my life, except for gym class, where I am known to be terrible at the sport. I am also not assured a place on the A or B team, where all of my friends play. I told my mother that I am not interested- so she said I could take the season off, only if I get straight As. I am not a straight A student. I am also super high anxiety, and am now struggling to keep myself from going crazy. I have no idea what to do. It makes me cry to think about. Help!

 

Hey chicky, I think you need to really sit down and talk to her. Let her know that all this pressure she is putting on you is making you feel bad. I'm sure your mom doesn't mean any harm, and only wants the best for you, but she needs to know her requests are really starting to affect you. Sit her down and be completely honest with her. Can you think of any things you do like to do? Ask her if you can participate in those activities instead. Hope this helps chicka!! Smile  Smile

Lynae P.

by Colierox on 9/28/2011 5:58:03 PM

 
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