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My 'rents won't get off my case!

 
School just started and already my parents are pushing me to get straight-A’s and do a billion extracurricular activities. They’re driving me nuts. What can I do to make them get off my case?
 
Go easy on your parents. They only want you to do well and get into a good college. But, you should sit your ’rents down and tell them that all this pressure is freaking you out. Let them know that you’re gonna do your best, but their expectations are set way too high. Instead of creating an impossible standard, sit down with M&D and talk about some goals that aren’t grade-based. Discuss what you’d like to do better this year, whether it’s joining the soccer team (even though they’re pushing for tennis) or improving your PowerPoint presentation skills.
 
Remember, sweetie: This is your life. Doing everything your parents want you to do is great…if you want to do all of those things, too. But if they’re pushing you to be someone you’re not, you need to let them know and then start thinking about the person you want to be and how to become that person. Life is about doing—and succeeding—at what you love. 
 
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Okay, so my mom and I fight A LOT! And the last oe that just happened didn't end so well...I told her I hate her and she said that she's gonna take my door down, take my radio, not give me my phone back (they took it last week) and that she was gonna get me a therapist for getting mad (???) So anyways, how am I supposed to work things out with her and not get mad? OR get her to be mad? Cause this time she got in my face and I yelled at her not to get in my face and so she grabbed it....help! Please I don't want to always be fighting with her! MY dad and 2 sisters are camping so it's me her nd my lil sis! I don't want to be mad at her forever! Please help ASAP! Thanks <3




Hey chica, sounds like you need to make an apology. I know it's hard, but you've gotta show your mom that you're mature enough not to have your stuff taken. Not sure what exactly your argument was about, but just try to see things from her point of view. She's probably just trying to keep you safe. Don't be mad at her, and definitely don't try to make her more angry.  
Carrie R.

by Jaime98766 on 7/16/2012 3:44:05 PM

 
 



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So I really want to get a facebook account so I can connect with friends over the summer. But my mom keeps saying that it "opens a whole new level of drama". I have tried to talk through it with her but she just keeps saying that! How can I convince her otherwise?




Hey girlie,

Check out this article about reasoning with parents. Take baby steps and keep calmly talking about the subject so you can each see the other's point of view! The truth is though, your mom has the final decision. So if she isn't thrilled about you getting a Facebook right now, ya gotta trust that she's making the right decision. Maybe there's a way you can compromise - maybe you can agree to wait two years, or she can hang onto your password in case she's worried about your behavior on the site. Not sure what will help her feel more comfy, but that's why you have to talk to her and ask her - you'll figure something out if you stay calm, stay mature, and keep trying!

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/04/20/strict-parents-growing-up.aspx 
Lauren C.

by rachel_m on 7/10/2012 10:04:56 PM

 
 

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My mom has been bugging me about calories. I really want to lose weight and get lean and toned, but all she seems to care about is calories, calories, calories. She got mad because I had Special K cereal with Silk Milk and one piece of multi-grain toast. I didn't think that was a lot of calories. I mean she doesn't know what I will eat for lunch. I hate asking her for advice on almost anything, because I feel she doesn't understand and she doesn't speak in a soothing, enthusiastic, voice on something that is a fragile situation(my weight). She always says how skinny she was growing up and toned she was when she was 18. I am only 14 and I don't need all of that breaking me down. I honestly don't think she understands. I told her let me do my thing and she do hers. She got mad and stuff, so now I got to like lose a lot of weight to prove to her calories isn't everything. PLEASE HELP ME. Thnx. :/ I know my mom wants the best for me and loves me but if only you knew.




Hey Girl--

I'm sorry your mom is making you feel upset about your eating habits. Getting healthy is a wonderful idea but theres no reason you need to be counting calories-- diets never last. Instead, maybe you two could learn to cook healthy meals together-- lots of whole grains, veggies, protein and fruit. 




Try approaching her nicely and telling her that her tough criticisms and comparisons are doing you more harm than good. Can you talk to a nutritionist to help you plan a healthy meal plan and workout schedule?  




good luck!!  
simone s.

by andsothelionfellinlovewiththelamb on 7/10/2012 2:12:16 PM

 
 



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So lately, my parents have been getting WAY TOO overprotective. Sometimes they wont let me stay in my room, they tell me to come down and be with the family. I ask my mom why, and she says "Because I dont know what your doing. You might be doing bad things on computer." So apparently my parents dont trust me Frown Also, my parents dont let me wear tank tops or short shorts. And, I have been going for daily morning runs for a couple months now, but today when I came back they said "its not safe to go alone, either find a running partner, or dont go!" And I dont have any partner who would want to go with me>Frown I am so frustrated and just feel like crying. It seems like they are ruining my lifeCry HELP PLEASE!!

 

Hey girl!  Your parents are just looking out for your wellbeing.  If they don't feel like you're safe out running alone, try doing sprints in your backyard or running on the stairs in your house.  Or ask your mom to come running with you!  It will give you guys time to talk and she may start to trust you a little more.  If the computer makes your mom nervous, tell her that she can check out what you're doing on the web history or tell her she can block bad sites.  It might seem like they are babying you, but your parents want you to be safe and healthy. Good luck! xoxo  


Kate G.

by pinkcoconut on 7/10/2012 11:39:45 AM

 
 



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Okay, so my mom who has been a stay at home mom my whole life recently went back to work full time. This has been a HUGE change for me, but I know that my mom is really enjoying working again, so I have been really "go with the flow" (which is already really hard). But then today she sprung on me the fact that with the new insurance for her new job, I would have to switch doctors. She said she found a really good one, but I am really attatched to my doctor. I have had her my whole life and I feel comfortable with her. I am 16, so I will have to switch anyways in two years, but this was out of no where for me and it is freaking me out cuz I don't want to switch! I am a person who gets very nervous/anxious about medical visits and shots and stuff and usually end up in tears or on my moms lap. (it sounds bad but this is a HUGE issue for me). Help! I don't know what to do! I know I have to change, but how can I feel confortable with it?!?! HELP! PLEASE!




Hey girlie,

I totally understand where you're coming from but, like you said, you have to change the doctors because it would be a MAJOR expense otherwise. Try to keep reminding yourself just how much this will mean to your mom - she really loves working again and the whole process will be even better for her if there aren't any problems/she doesn't have any reason to feel guilty. You would've changed doctors in a couple years anyway, so try to challenge yourself to accept this change and learn from it - it'll make it easier to roll with the punches when you get older! The first couple appointments might feel awkward and it's ok to feel nervous, because it's an unfamiliar situation. But you WILL get to know your new doctor and, over time, you'll feel comfy around him/her. It's just like getting a new teacher at the start of the school year or making a new friend - it takes time to settle in! But that doesn't mean you can't do it. Take a deep breath, ask any questions you have (even if they seem silly to you), and it'll all be ok <3
Lauren C.

by emonroe26 on 7/9/2012 10:07:21 PM

 
 




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I have this weird feeling my mom's gonna die soon. The only thing is that she's perfectly healthy. I live with her and my brother in a different state than the rest of my family (we moved last year). Why do I feel like this and how can I stop it?







Hey girl!  I'm sorry that you're feeling this way.  You're dealing with some anxieties and worries that are probably making you over think things and only think about the worst possible case.  Why don't you try to connect with your mom more to remind you that she is fine and loves you.  Phone calls, Skype, anything will help.  




xxoo 
Maggie P.

by Sonnet on 7/5/2012 1:44:08 AM

 
 



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okay so my mom is WAY TOOOOO STRICT
she tells me that im always "pushing the limits". if the argument is about clothing she keeps asking me why i want to dress so sexy. will never let me wear any clothing that has sleeves shorter than a t-shirt. In fact,the only tops i have are t-shirts (not even in summer, ugh!)the shortest shorts i own go to my mid thighs. i have 2 racerback tank tops but i have to wear t-shirts underneath.my mom always wore a uniform and only cared about her grades when she was in school and she wants me to be the same. Plus, what makes it worse is that my school has a dress code which is no spaghetti straps and shorts have to be at your fingertips. so when i (calmly) tell my mom that is can still wear things that fit the dress code that arent t shirts she always says: "just because other people do it, does it make it right? most times she ends up yelling and i end up crying. We just cant compromise. that was a long message Smile. HELP ME!

 

Hey girl!  It might not seem like it, but your mom has your best interest in mind.  Try going along with her rules for awhile.  T-shirts and long shorts and skirts can still show your style!  Show your mom you accept her rules, and as you get older I'm sure she will relax.  Sorry, but for now, you might just have to stick it out!  xoxo 


Kate G.

by anikadandekar on 7/2/2012 11:49:11 PM

 
 



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My bFF is moving away since she is a military family. SHe has been the closet bff iv'e ever been too. I am so upset! I dont show it though. I dont want to look all weak. I'm so sad too because next year we were going to go to the same middle school! (7th) How will i make new friends like her at my new school? The girls in my class iv'e all been bffs with and 2 are opposites and the other one tried to controll me. What do i do in middle school? I'm afraid i'll be made fu of. I think I am alittle now.




Hey girlie,

The most important thing is to remember how many ways there are to stay in touch with the friend you do have! Texting, phone calls, Skype video calls, email, Facebook, instant message, regular mailed letters, etc. We're so lucky these days - I can't imagine what it was like before when you could only write or call someone! Use that as a way to stay connected and keep up with each other's lives. As for friends next year, embrace the fact that you're going to middle school. Since it's a new school, there will most likely be new faces in your classes - which mean more potential friends! Try to challenge yourself to be out-going and make small talk with your neighbors at your locker or before classes start, go up to a lunch table and ask if you can sit down (then chat with them once you do), join a new club or sport, and overall be confident, strong, and happy during your first days. You can do it!!! This will set a great tone for the rest of the year Smile 
Lauren C.

by chick987 on 10/21/2011 9:19:32 PM

 
 

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one of my best friends is very religious and she has an amazing family. her fathers a pastor her mom is awesome and she has 3 younger siblings. everyone likes her because she is so nice and her youth group friends threw her a surprise birthday party and everything. her life is almost perfect, the perfect family perfect friends and well my life isn't even close. i want her life so badly. she goes on family vacations to go apple picking or they go to a historical landmark for the day and i just want to be her! is that so bad! she doesn't have to worry whether her family will always love her, and if she will have parents next year. i just wanna trade lives. do you have any advice??? please.




Hey girlie!

I've found that the phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side," is very, very true.  You may think you want her life, but I assure you, she feels the same way about somebody else's (or maybe even yours!)  There's no use being jealous of what she has, when I know you have plenty of things to be grateful for in your life.  Make a list, or think up one.  I'm sure you'll feel much better when they're all out there.
Jordan S.

by ImJustMe96 on 9/29/2011 1:53:21 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMODMOD I have been on a community swim team for five years. I have not had one year where I have enjoyed swimming. My mom pushes me to participate, by signing me up and paying for the season without asking me first. She coaches for the younger kids. This afternoon, she told me that I could quit- only if I play basketball. I have never played basketball in my life, except for gym class, where I am known to be terrible at the sport. I am also not assured a place on the A or B team, where all of my friends play. I told my mother that I am not interested- so she said I could take the season off, only if I get straight As. I am not a straight A student. I am also super high anxiety, and am now struggling to keep myself from going crazy. I have no idea what to do. It makes me cry to think about. Help!

 

Hey chicky, I think you need to really sit down and talk to her. Let her know that all this pressure she is putting on you is making you feel bad. I'm sure your mom doesn't mean any harm, and only wants the best for you, but she needs to know her requests are really starting to affect you. Sit her down and be completely honest with her. Can you think of any things you do like to do? Ask her if you can participate in those activities instead. Hope this helps chicka!! Smile  Smile

Lynae P.

by Colierox on 9/28/2011 5:58:03 PM

 
 

Hey girls! I give advice on pretty much anything, so feel free to ask me anything on my advice page. "Foreverme!"

@Girloftheyear1999

Hey! Smile By saying "I'm not!" is a way of giving your parents attitude, because you are contradicting them, saying they are wrong. You probably just don't realize it, don't worry I've been through this too. Just tell your parents that you are not trying to have a bad attitude, and you are sorry if they were offended by what you might have said before. Your parents are just concerned about you.

Thank them for watching out for you, and tell them that you will pay attention to your attitude. Everyone in this world could do with a little self reflection. You could really discover some awesome qualities about yourself, or some bad habits you should work on breaking! Good luck!

by foreverme! on 8/30/2011 1:54:28 PM

 
 

Well at least we get to see our friends almost everyday..

@Tasmanianwolf I give advice Smile
Come to my advice page, or if you want I can go comment on your profile.

by foreverme! on 8/30/2011 1:32:11 PM

 
 

My mom says im always giving attitude!! I tell her im not and she says "Dont give me that". Frown is it me? my dad says he sees me giving atttude but i dont realize it Frown HELP!

by girloftheyear1999 on 8/29/2011 10:29:52 PM

 
 

someone help me!!
ok so my parents are totally against my independance. they want me to be and dress exactly like them and my siblings. but i cant. im not like them. recently i made the conclusion i am gothic.i have known this for a while just haven't made my choice till now. i feel best this way and im ready for everyone to know. but... how do i tell my parents?

by tasmanianwolf on 8/26/2011 10:22:00 PM

 
 

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my parents go away a lot like for 10 - 14 days usually and i always miss them so much and i worry about them, like if something bad happens, how can i help this sadness?? thanks!

 

Hey girl, you could call or text them every night just to check on them- they probably miss you too. You could even set up a video chat account so you could talk face-to-face when they go away.

xoxo Tory

Jess D.

by qwerty66 on 8/24/2011 3:27:24 AM

 
 

nesser98 is your skool a year round skool?

by lovetc247 on 8/22/2011 8:53:08 PM

 
 

Bye to the summer of relaxation and hello again to the crazy schedule. But I like both and Im happy to be back at school. But the pressure from my parents can be a little much at times.

by luckykel on 8/21/2011 8:24:50 PM

 
 

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by facebooker1240 on 8/19/2011 9:10:35 PM

 
 



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Hi, I heard that for the contest entries if you enter more than once you only actually get one entry. Is that true? Thanks!!




hey! no that's not true 
Helen S.

by purpleputty on 8/19/2011 6:54:10 PM

 
 

i start sept. 6th :p

by girlslifeluver on 8/18/2011 2:50:00 AM

 
 

So true!

by RaceTiger7 on 8/17/2011 10:50:41 PM

 
 

yeah I know how you feel. My parents are all obsessed with grades and school activities too.

by TiffanyThornton on 8/17/2011 9:32:40 PM

 
 

@lovetc247 i starte school on August 8th. And you think yours is early!!!

by nessar98 on 8/17/2011 6:42:42 PM

 
 



Mod mod mod! I take chinese and this year it interferes with band and choir, and since i can't quit chinese, i won't be able to take band and choir. I'm going into tenth grade and i have to take health at some point in high school. I was supposed to take it next year but i was given an option of a few other electives to take now that i don't take band and choir: DDP, studio art, and music appreciation. I need more music or art credits as well as the health credits to graduate, however, i can get them any year. So I can either take art, DDP (a class where you draw on the computer), music appreciation, or health. My dad wants me to take health, but my mom wants me to take art because she's an artist. My dad wants me to pick the class that would give me the best grade. How do i choose? i don't know what to do.




hey! what do YOU want to do? that's what's most important.  
Helen S.

by renee95 on 8/17/2011 5:42:28 PM

 
 



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I just started school today & it was terrible. My best friend moved away, and she was the main person I hung out with. We have a small class of 50 so there isn't alot of friends to pick from to hang out with. I only have one other friend to hang out with ans she annoys me. I also have no classes with any of the people I like. I just don't know what to do, it makes me very depressed and sad. Help?




Hey! making friends can be a struggle, but it just takes time. don't be afraid to be aggressive about it. introduce yourself to new people, strike up conversations, and be confident. then at least you'll feel like you're doing something to help yourself, right?
Helen S.

by sophiag97 on 8/17/2011 5:33:41 PM

 
 

I know what you mean!! I take a ton of extra stuff! I take:
Piano
Clarinet
Voice Lessons
Swim Lessons
Art Classes
AND i do an online math program (our school doesn't have a very advanced program) and I have to do that everyday

And I do have work I have to do!

by txtingirl on 8/17/2011 5:03:12 PM

 
 

i think my school starts WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY too early we started the 11th!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so aggravating! any 1 agree?

by lovetc247 on 8/17/2011 4:07:58 PM

 
 

thank god my parents dont push me like that!

by filaluvva on 8/17/2011 3:20:54 PM

 
 

I start the 25th... am freaked because new school... and am in Advanced math. I went from a private to public tho... but I have very good grades in private school, so i am pretty sure I will do just fine for public. Hopefully. Getting lost is my biggest fear

by hahaha2005 on 8/17/2011 3:09:29 PM

 
 

i start next monday and im already nervous about grades and stuff

by bubbles3956 on 8/17/2011 2:58:38 PM

 
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