My parents are talking about adopting a kid. I think it’s
a great idea, in theory. But I’m not sure how I really feel about it. What do
you think?
Adoption is a tricky thing, especially since it’s not just
one person that has to be considered. If your ‘rents haven’t talked to you
about it seriously, you should suggest a family meeting. This should be a
choice you and your family make together.
A new sib
Having a sibling is fun. While it does take some getting used to, it’s nice to have a
brother or a sister that you can talk to and hang out with. Depending on what
age child your parents are considering adding to the family, your
responsibilities could vary. An infant or toddler might mean lotsa babysitting,
while an older kid might tag around with you at school or on outing with
friends. Remember, though: When you bring someone new into your family, that
special someone will probably come with emotional baggage—and that’s not a bad
thing. Just something else to consider.
A stranger in the family
Ask yourself if you’re really willing to open your arms to
someone you’ve never met before. Having a guest for the weekend is one thing,
but adoption is for forever. Could you share the bathroom, the dinner table and
time with your family with a new person? Could you welcome this person into
your inner circle and treat him or her like a real member of the family?
Only child?
If you’re an only child, adoption can be particularly hard.
When you already have siblings, you know what it means to share toys, clothes,
space and your parents’ attention. But when it’s just been you for your entire
life, it’s hard to imagine what the changes in your household will really feel
like. Sure, it may seem selfish to ask, “What about me?”, but refusing to
consider the sitch until problems arise in the future is asking for trouble.
Give this one careful thought, sweetie, and talk it out with
your parents and adoption counselors and agencies. Adoption is an incredible
thing—giving someone a home and a family!—but it may or may not be the right
choice for your family. Don’t be afraid to sound selfish or mean when you ask
questions. This isn’t just about your parents or the child you guys might
welcome into your fam; it’s about you, too.
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 8/31/2011 3:53:00 PM
POSTED IN family, problems with my parents, adopt, how to talk to parents