My ex-boyfriend used to call me ugly, stupid and weird
behind my back while we were dating. Now when I look in the mirror, all I see
is that ugly, stupid girl. My family and friends tell me I’m beautiful, but I can’t
help what I see. What should I do?
Oh, babe, that’s awful! Your ex-boyfriend was an emotional
abuser. For whatever reason, putting you down—calling you ugly, stupid and
weird—made him feel high and mighty. The good news is that he’s out of your
life. Now it’s time to get him out of your head.
What you need to do is rediscover your beauty, inside and
out. Every time you look in the mirror, I want you to take a moment and find
something beautiful in what you see, whether it’s the quirky gap in your teeth
that only shows when you really smile,
or the glint in your eyes when you’re up to no good. Bit by bit, you’ll regain
your confidence and your realization that you really are beautiful.
When it comes to the inside, you need to start recognizing
your triumphs. Proudly post your A+ papers in your locker or on a bulletin
board at home so you can see that grade clearly every day. Keep sweet notes
from friends and family and achievements from extracurriculars in sight.
Surrounding yourself with reminders of how awesome you are will help you take
heart in your accomplishments, and come to the understanding that your jerk
ex-BF is the dumb one, not you.
Good luck, girlie!
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 9/5/2011 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN body image, Love your bod, advice, ex boyfriend Q & A