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I have a strange problem (or so I think). Sometimes, I have a positive attitude about myself and feel great. Other times, it’s the exact opposite – I feel bad about myself and my attitude is so negative.

 
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Sounds human to me. Everyone’s confidence goes up and down, and everyone feels insecure at times. To strengthen your self-esteem, do things that make you proud. Deepen friendships, build skills, volunteer, be helpful, play sports, whatever you love to do. In the fall, get the best grades you can. And practice listening to the little voice that says, “Way to go!” rather than the one that says “That was lame.”

 

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Everyone calls me negative or goth because Im supa quiet in class we wear uniforms and so my attire is very limited but people still call me goth how do I change their minds IM NOT NEGATIVE OR GOTH

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by llamaglitz on 4/22/2012 5:58:30 PM

 
 

Mod!
I need to lose weight, and i know most of my weight is muscle, which I think looks like crap, especially on me. I always feel like if I work out, I'll gain muscle. How do I lose weight and lose muscle?? Side note, I've been struggling with an eating disorder, so restricting my food intake is probably not a good idea. Also, eating too much is a bad idea because then I want to purge. I need to know how to lose weight while being healthy. Thanks!



Hey babe,

If you want to make your body leaner rather than build up chunky muscle, start focusing on cardio and stretching/yoga.  Take a look here for food ideas:





http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/01/04/meal-makeovers.aspx


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by ickiemickie3 on 4/21/2012 7:52:09 PM

 
 

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sometimes i feel like i'm too fat. My mom says that it's because mussle wheighs moor than fat and I'm fit, but like I said sometimes I don't know :/

 

Hey girl! I'll let you in on an important secret: if you are healthy, weight means nothing. Because you are tall for your age, you are bound to weigh more than some of your friends.Your body is still growing so you need to properly fuel it with whole foods like fruits and veggies, whole grains, lean protein, and good sources of fat (think almonds, natural peanut butter, and avocados). Don't pay attention to the number on a scale, it's just a number! If you are active and exercising regularly, eating foods that are good for you, and limiting junk food (who can resist a treat every now and then?!), then you have nothing to worry about!

Colleen K.

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by raven.y on 2/27/2012 3:56:54 AM

 
 

Hey Madistar<3, just be sure you're constantly surrounding yourself with positivity. Your friends sound supportive, so continue hanging with them. Watch tv and movies that make you happy and listen to music that makes you feel good. Start doing hobbies and activities that you like too. Hopefully these will help your attitude! Xoxo



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I need help.Well, you see sometimes i feel like I'm free will, and love everything about life. Other days im not. Sometimes i feel im too fat, my friends tell me I'm not, and that i only wiegh 97 lbs, and that that is little for a 13 year old, but still sometimes i get "bad thoughts" about me, and i want them to stop but i don't know how! PLZ HELP ME Lynae P.

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by Madistar<3 on 1/6/2012 4:39:01 PM

 
 

Oh well, everyone is negative sometimes chica Smile

Please visit my Advice Queen page! I really like to give advice to peeps Smile just post a question and i will answer it on your profile as soon as i see it.

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