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I have a strange problem (or so I think). Sometimes, I have a positive attitude about myself and feel great. Other times, it’s the exact opposite – I feel bad about myself and my attitude is so negative.

 
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Sounds human to me. Everyone’s confidence goes up and down, and everyone feels insecure at times. To strengthen your self-esteem, do things that make you proud. Deepen friendships, build skills, volunteer, be helpful, play sports, whatever you love to do. In the fall, get the best grades you can. And practice listening to the little voice that says, “Way to go!” rather than the one that says “That was lame.”

 

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If you didn't feel bad about yourself at times, you'd be incredibly narcissistic. If you didn't feel good about yourself at times, you'd be suicidally depressed. You need a good balance of both. Confidence, but a reality check every now and then.

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My best friend and I like the same guy. This has NEVER happened before. She's really shy and I'm really outgoing when it comes to guys. She has a crush on a lot of boys and I'm sure she could get any one of them. She always freaks when I talk to him because she says neither of us should make a move. But the thing is, I only like him. What should I do????? Thanks in advance. You guys are always helpful!




Whatever you do, don't let this guy come between you two. If you really like him, try talking to your friend about your feelings and take things from there Smile




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