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I think my friends are talking about me

 
I have three best friends. I’m closer to one than the others. Sometimes she and I talk about the other two. But she and one of the others always ride bikes to school and hang out at each other’s houses. And I’m worried that they talk about me, too.

 

Dear Upset,

They probably do. But, oh well, you can’t have it both ways. And while they may indeed gossip, I doubt they’re vicious. Don’t worry. As Oscar Wilde said, “There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.”
 
 

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 9/27/2011 4:13:00 PM

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MOD MOD I asked this before but i dont think u got it so im gonna ask again my so called bff's has been being rude to me lately i was playing soccer at school and i fell in the mud and i needed to go to the washroom (To clean myself up) when i asked all my''BFFS''they said "oh sorry we already went" Then i Told them to look at me and when they saw the mud on my pants they still wouldn't go.i told them they only cared about themselves (also i had to go with someone)and they just ignored me and walked away then in class all the girls rolled their eyes at me and laughed i told them im sorry for whatever i did to u but i need an apology cuz i dont think what u guys are doing is fair and they didn't say anything so i said now who's being rude now and they said Um u are And they all laughed at me.I dont understand why their doing this Any advice PS i tired to get new friends but they weren't the same

 

Hey girl,

 

Maybe they just didn't want to embarrass you by watching you clean yourself up! A girl can go to the bathroom by herself, right? Tell them you may have overreacted, but that you want to be included in their group. If it was just a misunderstanding, you can both apologize for being rude and move on -- that's the great thing about friends!

Meghan D.

by mozilla10 on 12/31/2011 9:50:15 AM

 
 

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Ive got a problem. My best friend since kindergarten is changing... and for the worse. She was extremely helpful, fun, and always there to talk. But now, her neighbor rides her bus, (I dont take the bud anymore) so they've been hanging out a lot. Her neighbor, 'K', is terrible. I trusted her once, and she blew it. She swears, she wears clothes that her butt look good (she told me) and she dates every boy possible. My best friend has been hanging with K more and more. She swears more, she lies (parents), she lets K cheat, and when I talk to her, she 'accidentally' gets distracted. She keeps secrets from me, and has completely lost my trust. Frown When K wanted to talk to me personally, my bff tagged along and listened in. My bff thinks she's the peace keeper when really, she's overprotective of anything bad happening that might affect her.
Bottom line, how do I tell my best friend that she's not herself anymore? How can I tell her that K is a bad influence? Please help
<3

 

Hey Girl,

 

You need to be straight-up with your BFF and tell her exactly what you told me. The truth might hurt her, but hopefully she will try to see things from your perspective and realize that she has indeed changed for the worse. She might be angry with you at first, but if she is truly your best friend, you will not lose your friendship with her over this. 
Kathryn S.

by novlist1307 on 12/29/2011 10:30:42 AM

 
 



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so a few weeks ago my friend's friend commited suicide. and i am now worried about my friend because she didn't see it coming at all. today she showed me and four of my other friends a video that a boy from her town posted on Facebook. (And even our local news broadcasters featured the video on one of their broadcasts.) It was soooo sad and the guy mentioned Nyree (my friend's friend) and my friend looked like she was going to cry. Is there anything i can do to help her through this? and i would recomending anyone to check out the video it is posted on Nyree's page,if you knew her.




Hey girlie,

Grief is a really tough thing to suffer through for anyone, especially when you lose someone so close to you, so young, and so unexpectedly. She's going to be pretty fragile right now - she's going to be angry, she's going to cry, and she's going to have mood swings. She might even try to push you away, since she might think being alone is the best medicine. There's nothing you can do to press fast forward on all these emotions - she has to go through the process and feel it all. But you CAN let her know you're there to listen whenever she needs you and, if she wants to do something fun to take her mind off it, you'll be there for that too. Just assure her that you love her and support her. That's all you can do - and that will mean so much <3 
Lauren C.

by Prettytough14 on 12/15/2011 5:30:46 PM

 
 

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People and friends think im weird =(?
every sense 7th grade ive always been kind of a goofball, its just me. I like to be loud and silly and crazy. But im in high school now so i guess its too much =/. I recently found out that some of my teamates have been saying oh she acts like shes still nine and shes soo weird and other people not on my team say the same thing. I feel really bad about myself and i wanna change myself but then i dont cuz its me what can i do to feel better this is the worst feeling =(




Being outgoing and loud is never bad! It may be what youre saying. If you try your hardest to be a nice person and not say anything mean about others - then they will have no reason to talk bad about you. If they continue to then theyre the ones at fault and you should just ignore them. Good luck hon. xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by _Sunshine_101 on 12/13/2011 8:38:37 PM

 
 

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I was sick last Wednesday and didn't go to school, and ever since that Thursday, one of my friends has BARELY been talking to me at lunch (which is the only time we see each other). She talks to our mutual friend (who sits at out table) just the same. So I talked to our mutual friend and said, "Hey, have you noticed that ______ hasn't been talking to me a lot lately?" and she's like, "Yea, kinda," and I was like, "I'm kinda mad. It's been bugging me since Thursday!" and so she talked to my friend and tried to get her to sit next to me and talk to me, but my friend was like, "I'm not talking to her!" So I talked to one of my other friends and she was like, "She's being a bad friend! You should talk to her and see what's going on," Then I talked to one of my other friends (who's also a mutual friend of the friend I'm having problems with) and she was like, "She has a very stressful life. You wouldn't understand," I HAVE A STRESSFUL LIFE, TOO! What should I do? :/

 

Hm, stay away from these kinds of chains.  You never get proper information by going from person to person who heard something from somebody else, etc. Gotta' go right to the source! Your best bet is asking your friend what's up.  If she refuses or avoids the question by saying "it's fine" or something, then make it clear to her that the problem will never have a solution if you two don't work it out. And awkward tenseness between people is never fun.

Jordan S.

by ILoveBigTimeRush1 on 12/7/2011 2:55:45 PM

 
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