I haven't been able to get over my ex for the longest time, longer then a
year, and sometimes I just tell myself that it's impossible. I don't
want to like him. He has a GF, he's a player, he cheated on me and won't
admit it, and he is always cheating on his current GF. She and I are
friends, but he flirts with me all the time, and I flirt back. But he
also flirts with everyone. I want him out of my head, and I want to move
on. Any tips?
It’s definitely not
impossible – you’ve already taken the first step by admitting you want
to move on. You’ve already recognized all of the characteristics you
don’t like about him (reasons which are totally valid, by the way!), so
figure out what’s keeping you from moving forward. If you can pinpoint
what’s holding you back, you’ll be able to plan the best way to stop
dwelling on the past.
you having a hard time moving on because you two share a past together?
While it’s tempting to like someone because it’s comfortable or because
he already knows you, you’re still young, and you have so many more
people to meet. It’s better to move on now than to keep stringing
yourself along only to end up unhappy later. Do you find him
good-looking? Physical attraction is important in a relationship, but
trust is important too, and your guy sounds like he doesn’t deserve your
trust (or his girlfriend’s). And if you’re friends with his girlfriend,
you shouldn’t risk ruining that friendship for a chance at a
relationship with someone you know isn’t a good guy.
you’re still having trouble drawing yourself away from your ex, make an
effort to talk to at least one new guy every week. Your friends will be
more than happy to help you scope out some cuties at school. Once you
realize how sweet that guy in your chemistry class is, you’ll wonder why
you ever wanted to be with your ex in the first place.
BY MEGHAN DEMARIA ON 10/12/2011 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, GL's best guy advice, dealing with a breakup, ex boyfriend Q & A, cheating 411