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My friends are using me!

 
My two so-called friends came over and hadn’t been in my house more than 10 minutes when they asked, “Can we go in your hot tub?” I asked my mom if it was OK, and she said something I had never thought about. She asked me if they were actually my friends or if they were just using me. Then I realized it was true—they were just using me so they could use my hot tub. This makes me feel so sad and lonely.

 

Dear School Is One Big Popularity Contest,

School is one big popularity contest only if you choose to buy into all that. So try not to. If these girls are never nice to you except when they want to have a soak, that stinks. But if you hang out with them sometimes outside of the hot tub, that’s OK if they wanna hit the tub now and then.

 

Think about all this before totally writing them off, but take advantage of the new school year to get to know different girls, too. Is there someone you can be yourself with and laugh with and confide in? She’s a keeper. And while it is possible to have dozens and dozens of very close friends, it is ideal to have many different friends along with a handful of true-blue ones.
 
 

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MOD MOD MOD MOD My best friend moved away yesterday. I don't know what to do because she knows me so well, and really understands me. The rest of my friends aren't like her. Whenever I need to vent I go to her because she will listen to me, while my other friends just tell me to get over it, and say that it is my fault and I brought it on myself. I really miss her, and will never be able to replace a friend like her. I know that know that I can't see her everyday school is going to stink for me.

 

 

Hey girl, just because she moved away, doesn't mean you guys have to stop being friends. You can always call, text, facebook, skype, email, and write her. The distance will probably make you guys grow closer. I moved to another state to attend college, and my best friend and I are still tight as ever. Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by proarchergal42 on 11/5/2011 8:32:57 PM

 
 

okay just cuz your friends want to go in your hot tub doesnt mean they're using you

by haleyhay3 on 11/5/2011 9:40:20 AM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD So my best friend got her first boyfriend not too long ago, and I'm really happy for her, but I'm really getting left out. I mean, yeah, I'm a little bit jealous, but I can look past that. It upsets me when she doesn't ever talk to me or spend time with me. She's ignores me now. What should I do?




Hey girlie,

This is totally normal - a girl gets a BF and, especially if it's her first one ever, she kinda gets a little obsessed. It's all new, exciting, and fresh, so she throws all of her time into him and forgets about her besties. But as we get older, we learn that we need balance between besties and boys if we wanna stay happy - and if we actually wanna keep our friends after our relationships fizzle out. There's not a whole lot you can do, but remind her that you like having her as a friend and you don't wanna drift apart just because of some guy - even though you totally understand why she likes him so much! (Be on her side...even if you aren't actually.) Then, if she doesn't want to hang out, her loss. Move on with your life, work hard in school, do your activities, and hang out with your other friends. When she breaks up with this guy, she'll realize that it's not easy to reconnect with your friends once you've pushed them away/forgot about them...and she'll learn her lesson!
Lauren C.

by caseyf13 on 11/3/2011 6:04:27 PM

 
 

Mod Mod I just tod my so called friend that i did not care for anymore,because shes inapropriate,rude, brags about herself and calls me fat. i have told her to stop but she just laphs and calls me a baby!so anyway after telling her this i felt soo guilty and i still do. i know it was the right decison because people who have been friends with her agree. but the guilt is killing me!mwhat should i do?

 

Hey girly, don't feel guilty. If you're feeling guilty because you think you hurt her feelings, think about how much she was hurting your feelings. No one deserves somebody who is going to treat them mean and laugh at their emotions girl. You have nothing to feel bad for. No matter how much she begs, unless you see a huge change in your friendship, don't allow her to be your friend anymore. Hope this helps! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by mickyabc on 11/2/2011 8:16:06 PM

 
 

Wow, I can relate so much its scary, except for the hot tub thing, yeah, I wish I had one but I'd never use anyone for their's, that's just awful!

Hey girls!
Check out my profile, I'm on GL every day as soon as I get home from school till late at night, I give advice on just about everything and anything, there are no stupid questions and absolutely none will go un-answered, that's a promise
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by clem10 on 10/27/2011 5:56:55 PM

 
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