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My two so-called friends came over and hadn’t been in my house more than 10 minutes when they asked, “Can we go in your hot tub?” I asked my mom if it was OK, and she said something I had never thought about. She asked me if they were actually my friends or if they were just using me. Then I realized it was true—they were just using me so they could use my hot tub. This makes me feel so sad and lonely.

Dear School Is One Big Popularity Contest,

School is one big popularity contest only if you choose to buy into all that. So try not to. If these girls are never nice to you except when they want to have a soak, that stinks. But if you hang out with them sometimes outside of the hot tub, that’s OK if they wanna hit the tub now and then.

Think about all this before totally writing them off, but take advantage of the new school year to get to know different girls, too. Is there someone you can be yourself with and laugh with and confide in? She’s a keeper. And while it is possible to have dozens and dozens of very close friends, it is ideal to have many different friends along with a handful of true-blue ones.

BY CAROL WESTON ON 10/25/2011 5:38:00 PM

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So we have this dance at my school (the eighth grade dance). SO yesterday, after hours searching, I found this really nice dress and we bought it. I was really happy so I showed my best friend , who is like my sister but then she says that her dress is almost exactly like mine but it's one shade darker and the flowers on the strap (it's cuter than it sounds) aren't as much on mine. She ordered it like last week custom made and it cost her over a $100 while I went to JC Penney's at got it at 30 bucks. I really don't know what to do. I mean I'd get a new one (it would only be fair) if I could, but I rather kind of like it now. I told her that maybe if we accessorize differently and do our hair differently it would be okay. She doesn't seem convinced.. The dance is in 3 weeks. Please help! Sorry for blurting this out like this!

Hey babe,

You can always take it back and have her shop with you for a new one. Otherwise, it's really up to you, you can make it look like you two deliberately matched. Jordan S.

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There's this boy i like and his friend told me he liked me to. Now i don't know what to do! He likes me and i like him i still talk to him like normal but i feel like i should do something!

Hey girlie,

Definitely talk to him like normal! You want to show him you're laid back and cool about it, so don't act all freaked out. Instead, talk to him like a friend - just like you used to. Get to know him even better and, when the time is right, mix in some flirting to take it to the next level. Compliments, teasing, joking around - those are all great next steps!

Lauren C.

by kittylover_98 on 5/10/2012 10:17:36 PM

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Hey girl,

My personal advice for getting through embarrassing moments has always been to laugh it off. If it doesn't matter to you, nobody else will take it as an opportunity to get on you about it. Laugh, make a joke about it, show humility and you're set! Jordan S.

by annienax123 on 5/5/2012 6:43:46 PM

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I have a friend that calls me fat, tells me that she hates my handwriting, hates how I walk (sometimes when I'm in a really strong daydreaming phase she's just like STOP WALKING LIKE THAT!!!, and she tells me I wear too much makeup and I'm afraid if I tell her to stop or I don't want to be friends with you anymore, I'm afraid she'll punch me in the face, and I let her borrow my favorite pair of yoga pants that are brand new and comfrorble to work out in and I don't think she'll give them back because she like, NEVER GIVES STUFF BACK and shes making me very depressed and I dont know how to say that I don't want to be friends with her without her punching me in the face. So could you please help me?
Thanks !<3

Well you need to get away from her. Asap. I almost think its worth it to have her punch you in the face - as long as you can get away. Start hanging around her less and less. Shes a poisonous person to have in your life and you deserve better. If its really impossible for you to get away I suggest you go to your school counselor. Good luck hon! xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

by megan1220 on 5/2/2012 9:01:22 PM

by Angiecandy on 4/30/2012 8:07:05 PM

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My bgf told me he likes my best friend which is fine, but he says he's trying to stop liking her cuz things will be awkward so today she wanted to skip art club (which they do together) cuz she had a Latin project and more hw. We were walking to math when he walked up and gav her the outline or something for the project so she could go to art club. Later she told me she didn't want him to like her like that cuz it would make things awkward but I feel this is all my fault cuz I kinda got his hopes up I think cuz I HONESTLY believed she liked him back and couldn't admit it to herself. I know I have to tell him, but I dont want his feelings hurt or anything! Please help, I'm in tears thinking about this

Hey chica,

As hard as it may be, if you told him she maybe likes him, you probably want to clarify that she just considers him a friend and nothing more. While you did make an assumption, your situation would be better if you said you think she likes him, but aren't sure. He might know that you didn't know from talking with her, so hopefully he doesn't feel too bad after finding out. I'd say explain your side to him and he might understand. <3

Krupali D.

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