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My two so-called friends came over and hadn’t been in my house more than 10 minutes when they asked, “Can we go in your hot tub?” I asked my mom if it was OK, and she said something I had never thought about. She asked me if they were actually my friends or if they were just using me. Then I realized it was true—they were just using me so they could use my hot tub. This makes me feel so sad and lonely.

 

Dear School Is One Big Popularity Contest,

School is one big popularity contest only if you choose to buy into all that. So try not to. If these girls are never nice to you except when they want to have a soak, that stinks. But if you hang out with them sometimes outside of the hot tub, that’s OK if they wanna hit the tub now and then.

 

Think about all this before totally writing them off, but take advantage of the new school year to get to know different girls, too. Is there someone you can be yourself with and laugh with and confide in? She’s a keeper. And while it is possible to have dozens and dozens of very close friends, it is ideal to have many different friends along with a handful of true-blue ones.
 
 

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ok so anyways i really need help on how to make friends. im kinda shy but around my only 2 bffs im CRAZY ok so theres a girl in my scince (lets call her ally) and a girl in my la class (aubrey) ok so ally is in my science class and sometimes we talk. she isn;t mean to me but sometimes she doesnt seem like she wants to be around me... even though she sits by me a lot. she also asked me to see a scary movie this weekend.sounds fun but idk her that well . aubrey-shes hilarious nice ok so i have a ton of inside jokes with her but one thing.shes popular.. in my school thats a big deal. i would love to hang with her but idk if she would like me that much ir if her "popular" friends wouldn't like me. what would we do when we hang too? ok sorry this sounds lame... sorry. do u think i should hang with aubrey? and idk if i should go with ally since idk her that well. what are things to do when hanging with new poptential friends?? thanks! PLEASE POST THIS!!




Hey girlie,

You gotta go for it! Ally asked you to see a movie this weekend, so take advantage of that and go! You don't know her that well right now, but the only way to get to know someone better is to talk more, hang out more, and grow closer over time. You'll feel more comfy around her after you hang out more! And definitely ask Aubrey to hang out too. You can't have too many friends Smile If you already get along, ask her to do something you'd both enjoy - go shopping at the mall, see a movie, try a new restaurant, go to a concert, go bowling, have an Oscars party, or even just do homework after school. Give it a try and put yourself out there!! <3 
Lauren C.

by bluedevils5 on 2/16/2012 8:52:28 PM

 
 



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my best friend is super dramatic...she cries everytime any calls her stupid or fat..which yes, i would probably too...but its soooo annoying she always follows me and gets super annoying!!!!!!! She recently got mad at my boyfriend and he said hes sick of her and doesnt really want to talk to her anymore because shes so dramatic. I need to stop being friends with her ASAP because she always gets really PMS-y and gets mad at me...it annoying. i need her to stop. but how?

 

Talk to her next times shes dramatic. Sit her down and just tell her whats up. If youre honest with her she may realize what youre saying and change her ways. xoxo kerra 


Kerra S.

by jazziesgirl on 2/12/2012 7:03:06 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD-- we got a new girl and I really want to make friends with her but we have no classes together, but she sits at the table behind me at lunch, but not for long because we r moving seats again at lunch on Thursday... HELP?!? PLEASE?!? B4 THURSDAY?!?




Hey girl,

Try going up to her at lunch and saying "Hey, welcome to __(your school's name)__!" Introduce yourself to her and shake her hand. Ask her how she's liking it so far, if she's joining any clubs, where in town she's living, etc. Just have a friendly and fun convo about her. It'll show her you care and are interested in her story. And the end of your convo, try saying something like, "If you ever want to hang out or have questions about anything here, let me know." Leave with a friendly smile. She'll be happy someone talked to her and showed that they care! Then after a few days passes, you could text her to ask her to hang out (get her number from a friend or ask for it during that convo), add her as a friend on Facebook, etc. Smile
Lauren C.

by softballismyBFF on 2/12/2012 9:11:00 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD im so confused i liked this boy since last year and now this year we started dating and now his EX Gf is doing mean things to me like today she dared someone to ask me if i have any sweaters ..i said yes and they laughed and said so u wear this sweater everyday and whats worst is she had it recording on her phone when i went back to my friends they followed me and she kept putting the phone in my face and telling me to smile so i slapped it out of her hands and now shes going to get suspended for it and everyone is telling me shes going to beat me up i told them she wouldn't and people told me that when i get beat up don't complain! whats worse is she's Older then me!! I told her friends i didn't nothing to her and they said well u did make them brake up ... (My New bf and his ex) and then My bf Agreed With her friend. im so upset that he would believe i made him and his ex brake up now i wanna brake up with him what should i do!!! im scared and upset!

 

Hey mozilla10, oh man you have a lot going on. If she does try to fight you when she comes back to school (which I hope she doesn't), you'll just have to defend yourself. She's a bully so standing up to her once will stop her from being mean to you. I'm not sure if you should break up with him. I would just talk to him about the situation and see what else he thinks about it. Hope this helps! Xoxo 

Lynae P.

by mozilla10 on 2/10/2012 5:42:33 PM

 
 



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I have this friend. in my school, we have three categories from achieving a certain percentage of grades (credit roll, honors, high honors). She is on the high honors list while i am on the honors list. if i get a bad grade, she tells me i got a better grade than you and tells of my other friends. when, she tells all of my other friends, i feel really embarrassed. i don't want to hurt her feeling because she is a really good friend of mine and is nice but when she does this, i get sort of mad. what do i do?




Hey girl,

Your grades are no one's business but your own! If this bothers you, next time tell her so - say that you told her because you trusted her and you really don't appreciate her telling everyone else/making fun of you for it. If she keeps it up, stop telling her what grades you got. It might be awkward at first, but you can be honest - tell her you already said how much it bothered you and now you just don't feel comfortable sharing it with her. Shrug and walk away calmly. I know it's tough, but you gotta be strong here! <3
Lauren C.

by bookworm807 on 2/9/2012 5:09:23 PM

 
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