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Help! BGF going from good guy to bad boy

 
One of my best guy friends smokes pot and gets drunk sometimes. He is really nice and smart, and it kills me that he does bad things. I care too much about him to let him mess up his life. How can I persuade him to stop? I’m afraid he won’t listen to me. Please, don’t say I can’t change him. If I don’t do something, no one will.

 

Dear True Friend,

The fact is you can’t change other people. He has to change himself—but perhaps your concern will convince him to make some changes. Tell him, calmly, that you’re worried. Remind him that drugs and alcohol are super addictive and can only lead to problems—blowing off schoolwork, severe mood swings or, worse, failing grades, school suspension, getting kicked off sports teams, even arrest. He’s lucky to have a “clean” friend like you, and I hope your encouragement is a positive influence on him.
 
 

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one of my best friends ever was like this also, I told a trusted teacher and now my friend is grateful I helped her! You can totally help your friend out here.

by dagymnast on 11/29/2011 6:43:11 PM

 
 



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So at a church even in NewJersey, I got alll dressed up and met this boy. He gave me a rose and I gave him my number. Turens out he is 2 years older than me and lives in ..(city name edited out)... I not looking for anything serisous so we didn't mind the long distance. After weeks of him calling every night and us talking for hours, I think I relle relle like him, maybe even love. But now he won't even respond my fb messages! Last time I tlkd to him was like over a week ago and he was telling my cousin how much he likes me. I'm going to NJ for another church event, nd we had it planned we wud hav our first kiss together. How did it go from late nite sweet talking and roses to him totally ignoring me? What shud I do??? Please help




Hey babe,

Try not to assume anything - he could be super busy right now and not be able to respond. He could have also met someone who lives closer to his home who he can actually date which, even though he might have liked you a LOT, seems a bit more "real." And that's understandable! Long distance is tough when you're with someone you really love - it's even harder to start something long distance. Try not to bother him too much about it, even though I totally get how much this stings right now. Instead, focus on your own life - your friends, your clubs/sports/classwork, and the guys that you see every day. Try to meet them (or other new people through your activities/mutual friends) and put this behind you. You learned a lot about what you want in a guy, what you don't want in a guy, and how to deal with crushes because of this experience - and you got to enjoy communicating with a nice guy while it lasted. I know it's a bummer, but it wasn't a waste of time! Lots of love girl <3
Lauren C.

by emilyrm1903 on 11/25/2011 8:59:22 PM

 
 

I would personally tell him that he should stop because I wouldnt want to be around someone who smoked and got drunk its not a good enviroment to be surrounded by!! Just my opinion!!!!

by hearl on 11/24/2011 6:15:40 PM

 
 

how do u send a dear carol message?

by epsmisaacson01 on 11/22/2011 7:58:55 PM

 
 

In my opinion its better to stay away from bad boy types. For some reason we all are attracted to them, maybe even more than if they were just good guys. My parents are totally against me ever dating a bad boy guy. My friends who date them are always getting dragged into doing things, they end up hating what they did later. Stay away from them.

by luckykel on 11/21/2011 3:08:25 PM

 
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