One of my best guy friends smokes pot and gets drunk
sometimes. He is really nice and smart, and it kills me that he does bad
things. I care too much about him to let him mess up his life. How can I
persuade him to stop? I’m afraid he won’t listen to me. Please, don’t say I
can’t change him. If I don’t do something, no one will.
Dear True Friend,
The fact is you can’t change other people. He has to change
himself—but perhaps your concern will convince him to make some changes. Tell
him, calmly, that you’re worried. Remind him that drugs and alcohol are super
addictive and can only lead to problems—blowing off schoolwork, severe mood
swings or, worse, failing grades, school suspension, getting kicked off sports
teams, even arrest. He’s lucky to have a “clean” friend like you, and I hope
your encouragement is a positive influence on him.
BY CAROL WESTON ON 11/18/2011 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN good friend, bad friend, dear carol solves BFF probs, growing apart, guy friend Q & A, advice from Carol Weston