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Whoa! An 11-year difference? One or two
years is fine for someone your age, but a guy that old dating someone
your age is eyebrow-raising at best and law-breaking at worst.
Depending on the state, it's illegal for a person 18 years or
older to be involved with a person younger than 18.
issues aside, it also raises another question: Why isn't he dating a
girl his own age? That seems pretty strange in my opinion. Think
about it, girlie, when you get to be his age, would you ever consider
being with somebody 11 years younger if you didn't have some creepy
ulterior motive in mind?
Not only is it odd and illegal, but a
lot of things change the situation when a person is that much older
than you. He will undoubtedly expect a lot of you at some point,
perhaps more than you're ready to give. Though he may not pressure
you for it, he very well might.
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BY JORDAN SARNOVSKY ON 11/23/2011 3:00:00 PM
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by Unicorn puke on 4/10/2013 4:16:39 PM
11 YEARS (thats major)!!!!!! How old are you now??
by Sarah1011 on 12/11/2012 8:57:43 PM
by enstana on 8/17/2012 10:29:02 PM
This guy and I text and we sat next to each other in class. I've liked him since the bginning of the year and he asked me what I would say if he asked me out!? And i said idk to not sound too desperate lol so what can i say to get him to ask me out?
by haker13 on 7/25/2012 1:16:46 AM
by Dragoness on 3/8/2012 8:48:13 PM
woah people find it weird that my boyfriends the year younger than me, sorry but 11 years difference is quite weird
by twilightfan2459 on 2/13/2012 4:38:21 PM
Just to let you know, my parents are 11 years apart too and theyre soul mates maybe its a little risky at your age but as you get older its not as risky!
by madie5480 on 2/5/2012 7:01:33 PM
Whoa chica! That sounds a little crazy. I'm sorry i get where you're coming from but seriously 11 years!? I can understand like 2 or 3, but wowza!
by lalalinds on 2/4/2012 8:13:56 PM
Whoa chica! I wouldn't get involved in this guy too much. He could very well bring trouble in the future.
by lalalinds on 2/4/2012 8:09:07 PM
Hey mathgeek221, how do you know he likes you as just a friend? Flirt a little and try to make a move and see what happens. Xoxo
MOD MOD MOD!!
Ok,so I like this guy in my math team.He likes me to,but only as a friend.My friends all said we would look cute together,and I want to make that possible.How could I do it?Should I just keep being friends with him,or try to make a new couple in school? Lynae P.
by mathgeek221 on 2/1/2012 5:16:16 PM
BUT!!!!!!!! in some places you are allowed to be involved with someone if your 16 and they are between 16 and 24
by kaylablaze33098 on 12/23/2011 9:34:50 AM
by Mimzy0717 on 12/22/2011 4:04:53 PM
i think that its too much for a girl your age, but i can understand that you have feelings for him. srry
by Thefrayfan on 12/20/2011 10:11:53 AM
wow, you must love him a LOT! wow im sooo sorry u have to go through this desision. my boyfirend is 2 years older and 1 grade above me. and people ven think thats weird. hope you make a goood desision and make it through. <3
by jade423 on 12/19/2011 6:42:50 PM
I found out one of my friends was dating a guy 6 1/2 years older than her. I am kind of amazed about it because she has kept it a secret for so long. They are serious and she has no plans to stop dating him even after a few of us questioned it. Part of me thinks she did it to get back at her ex and now she is in a serious relationship.
by luckykel on 12/18/2011 12:26:23 AM
I'm the only one of my friends that DOESN'T have a boyfriend. I want one but I want someone who cares about me. All my BFF's boyfriends are jerks! Not to them though. I want someone completely opposite. I just need help. I found a guy and I think he likes me too. He's really nice but his friends aren't. Should I still ask him out?
by hitthemall#1 on 12/13/2011 5:57:24 PM
by carolinerr on 12/3/2011 9:30:31 PM
by JaliceFan01 on 12/3/2011 9:58:32 AM
i dont see what the problem is tho
by hotstuff98 on 12/2/2011 7:23:57 PM
by pinkguitar98 on 12/1/2011 8:52:34 PM
boycrusher, I dont think 3 years is a problem. I would think you can be happy if the both of you are ready to be in a relationship and understand what comes along with it.
by luckykel on 11/30/2011 9:42:33 PM
Okay I like this guy but hes 3 years older than me and my friends dont have a prob but should we?
by boycrusher191 on 11/30/2011 8:38:44 PM
by chocofeet on 11/30/2011 7:55:14 PM
I don't get this. My mom and dad are 13 years apart, and they have been together for almost 21 years. And my cousin and her boyfriend have a 9 year age difference
by Lisalee on 11/28/2011 8:52:06 PM
by inluvwithboyz on 11/28/2011 7:48:03 PM
I agree with the others, if you are adults it doesnt matter what the age gap is but 11 years is too much if you arent. Thats not to say we dont have crushes and cant love older guys but they are into doing their thing and we are into ours. And even if its illegal only if you are doing sexual things with each other, I would think by his age guys would need to have that to be in a relationship.
Just try to find a guy closer to your age, yes they are not as mature and may not be ready for things like we may be but at least our parents can accept them.
by luckykel on 11/28/2011 3:02:45 PM
Wow that's a really big age difference! If its illegal he should know it and he still wants to be with you? Sorry but that is weird
by sharkheart4ever on 11/28/2011 9:02:54 AM
There was a book i read that was just like this, only the guy turned out to be a vampire...... 0.O
by broadway97 on 11/27/2011 8:29:37 PM
11 years OLDER WOOOOOOOOWZER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by merrymerry22 on 11/26/2011 10:19:57 PM
Wow, that is crazyy;!! If I were u I would definitely be careful! :/
by AliKatt on 11/26/2011 3:48:07 PM
@tori1016- Yeah, it's OK if their adults, but at her age...
by e2000 on 11/26/2011 2:41:12 PM
thats kind of crazy to be dating someone 11 years older than u. thats like me dating a 24 year old and a 13 year old dating a 2 year old, thats just plain wrong
by luv798 on 11/25/2011 7:22:38 PM
im sorry but yeah i think that is way too big of an age difference i once dated a guy 4 year older then me and even then it was way to much, i ended up doing some stuff that i ultimately regret, and for what? we dont even talk any more. whats worse is everyone told me that it was a bad idea but i didnt want to listen to them because i really liked him, but now i cant stand how obnoxious he is and he basically used me and im thinking this is what your guy is doing to you, it might not look like it at first but it will soon get to that point, so i suggest ending ASAP! (if i had the chance to go back i would have done that too)
by beliayazmin on 11/25/2011 5:48:12 PM
ok, girlie, i would seriously consider dumping him!!!!!! this could cause some problems for you, plus, it's kinda strange (not to mention ILLEGAL!!!!!!). It's your choice, but I HIGHLY RECCOMMEND you go find someone your age! There are plenty of other fish in the sea...fish that aren't 11 years older! Devin A.
by sweetpea185 on 11/25/2011 3:07:03 PM
by nycutie786 on 11/25/2011 2:27:27 PM
No offense, but I honestly just don't understand how some girls could be so niave like that. I mean, seriously. Come on!! How do you even think he likes you? Not to be hateful, but I'm going to assume you are about 15 or 16. So eleven years, he would be...27?!!?? Oh yeah, that IS
crazy. If you are older, like well out of your teens and you marry someone 11 years older, sure go right ahead. But thats downright wrong and quite frankly, just a bit illegal. Just break up with him. Is it that hard to find a guy you age or with a 1-3 year difference?
by jennifer0709 on 11/25/2011 12:03:49 PM
to be honest... he is using you. not to be mean or anything.
by mileyluverxx on 11/25/2011 10:38:00 AM
My parents are happily married and they are exactly 11 years and 6 days apart. it doesnt seem like such a big deal when you are older because my dad is 48 and my mom is 37
by tori1016 on 11/25/2011 8:56:44 AM
um 11 years my sister liked someone 4 years older and i was against it thats insane and to be honest what guy truely likes a girl 11 years younger i find that downright disturbing its nasty!!!!!!! how old are you!!!!! does your mom know???!!! this is insane beyond words!!! good luck with that relationship!
by sparrowchavez on 11/25/2011 1:05:57 AM
Omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that dude should be ashamed of him self! does your mother know about this?!! come on 11 years!!!!!??????? my parents would kill me even if i was dating someone 3 years older me! omg girl seriously this guy should know better. most likely he is using you no offense. but this is crazyyyyy.
by j4zm09 on 11/24/2011 11:39:46 PM
woah! so illegal. and i dont even understand that caz the maturity levels cannot even be close at all to each other
by artsgurl983 on 11/24/2011 10:53:53 PM
by cutiegurlxo on 11/24/2011 10:26:20 PM
How Old Is That Chick? That Dude Should Totally Know Better!
3 Years Older Or 4 Is Totally Understandable But 11 Years Age Difference That Dude Was Like In 5th Grade When She Was Born.
by EddyKala on 11/24/2011 9:41:11 PM
It's a tough spot...I myself am dating someone who is 4 years older than me, and I absolutely adore him. And I know for a fact that he loves me, too. He doesn't expect anything of me, he is respectful, and he never pressures me. However, that's 4 years, as opposed to 11 years. I'm not saying this guy's bad. He could be just as amazing as my guy, for all I know. Love is love, and there shouldn't be an age limit set on it. That being said, men are also men. Most want women at the same maturity level as themselves. If he is 11 years older than you, then that means that when you were 5, he was 16. When you were 10, he was 21 and could legally drink. He'll be almost 30 by the time you graduate. It's a big stretch. Personally, I would suggest backing off this dude until you're at least 18. If your love is meant to be, it will find a way to reconnect you two, and until then, try to find someone who maybe doesn't have back pains yet. ;)
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by facebooker1240 on 11/24/2011 8:25:59 PM
by dancer1846 on 11/24/2011 8:05:02 PM
by chicacherrycola on 11/24/2011 6:27:39 PM
by kaylarocks2000 on 11/24/2011 5:27:11 PM
by clairebear694 on 11/24/2011 5:04:05 PM
by caseyf13 on 11/24/2011 4:59:57 PM
i think 11 years is too much of a difference. i can see 4 years tops, but even that is pushing it. try someone with a closer age.
by Fritz on 11/24/2011 4:45:49 PM
i'd break up with him
by unicornninja on 11/24/2011 4:02:15 PM
my parents are about 10-11 years apart.....but my my mom weas 18 when they met so its okay but everytime my friends find out they think its weird or something.i think these age differences are awkward when youre younger lol plus its illegal
by oreo9347 on 11/24/2011 3:03:05 PM
I really hope this girl made a typo and actually meant 1 year. 11 years! Stay away from that freak! Break up with him asap!
by ptelthorst on 11/24/2011 2:17:45 PM
11 years? ew sorry thats kinda gross!
by fearless;) on 11/24/2011 1:40:12 PM
by eco_chica on 11/24/2011 1:33:15 PM
by jayhawk94 on 11/24/2011 12:51:33 PM
I really like a guy who is 4 years older than me and we get along fine
by ChloeClara on 11/24/2011 12:37:00 PM
my parents are 11 years apart but that's parents. If its illegal,which you probably didn't know at the time, if your under 18, then you need to do whats right. About the parents thing my mom was 20 so it was legal.
by Cutesweetie2017 on 11/24/2011 12:29:10 PM
My parents are 11 years apart and they're good together most of the time
by Sheyenne on 11/24/2011 11:33:40 AM
Breaking up with him with save you and him alot of trouble and it will save ur reputation.
by scamp24 on 11/24/2011 11:22:01 AM
I'm sorry girlie,but 11 years is TOO big of an age difference. It's honestly creepy. It may not be illegal to just date(like holding hands and hanging out),but it is illegal to not be abstinent with him,(which you shouldnt be doing at all until ur married or at least can drink legally). Sorry,but you need to break up with him.
by scamp24 on 11/24/2011 11:21:26 AM
my friend had an issue like this, although it was 15 and 18 which isn't horrible. an 11 year difference would be like a 14 and a 25. that's a really big age difference (though now that i think of it, my other friend was 13 and 22). however, if you really like him, and he really likes you, then you can wait until your 18, which is perfectly legal and not eyebrow raising at all, since almomst half of married couples are more than six years in difference.. defffff talk with your parents about this one!!!
by bmxchic549 on 11/24/2011 11:04:21 AM
My dad is ten years older than my mom...They seem to be OK.
by haneen.pop.princess on 11/24/2011 8:29:11 AM
by kaylarocks2000 on 11/24/2011 2:23:53 AM
by MusicalMe on 11/24/2011 1:18:17 AM
I think that at this age (teenage I'm guessing) a one or two year difference is a lot because you mature A LOT at this age and the difference between say, a Freshmen and a Senior in high school is huge. It may not matter that he is 11 years older later in life and as an adult, but right now it is a very large emotional, physical, and maturity gap... Plus it's illegal!
by jewels96 on 11/24/2011 12:56:46 AM
That is not okay. Think about it, that's like an 18 year old dating a 7 year old. He graduated high school at the same time you you got out of 1st grade! Would you want to date someone 11 years younger than you? You should really tell you parents. If you break up with him, he could harm you. He must not be in the right mind if he wanted to date a kid 11 years younger then you...
by kelaboo on 11/23/2011 8:39:18 PM
I know this is irrelevant to the article but...
There's this girl in my class that's really nice, but she get's distracted EASILY. She get's more distracted than ME! And that's saying something! And I know she's smart, because she's in my honors classes. But sometimes, well, she kind of makes her self look... whats the word... is it ditzy? But anyways, she's really cool, but she annoys me SO MUCH!! And when we have to do projects together, she gets distracted and I spend half of the time trying to get her back on track! How do I let her know she needs to get on track?
by XxUTookMahFonexX on 11/23/2011 8:37:45 PM
Um i think this is dumb. This girl obviously likes the guy and if her parents have no problem, everyone else should butt out. My dad was 17 years older than my mom and they were happily married till he died 7 years ago. My sister is 18 and dating a 25 year old. People should just mind their own business
by cecily on 11/23/2011 8:37:11 PM
by cutiegurlxo on 11/23/2011 7:34:50 PM
my mom is 7 years older than my dad. when they got married, she was 9 days away from being 30, and my dad was almst 23
by artgaldh on 11/23/2011 7:34:41 PM
by abbyoc16 on 11/23/2011 7:19:26 PM
by divachick422 on 11/23/2011 7:06:55 PM
by cheekymonkey1 on 11/23/2011 6:52:15 PM
by KAThompson on 11/23/2011 6:51:18 PM
It doesn't matter. They love eachother. My grandparents are 12 years apart! Leave them alone! Go love! Live and let live!
by Charlotte12sky4 on 11/23/2011 6:35:36 PM
by nycutie786 on 11/23/2011 6:34:57 PM
by toadie101 on 11/23/2011 6:16:49 PM
wow. 11 years seems so intense. and it seems like the relationship would be awkward... i wonder how they met???
by parischick2 on 11/23/2011 6:08:04 PM
Wow that's a big difference, me and my bf only have a 2 year difference.
by laxlover98 on 11/23/2011 6:08:03 PM
by earthyartist on 11/23/2011 6:06:41 PM
I was in in a somewhat similar situation. I'm 13 and kinda liked this kid that was 11! If my friends ever found out, I would be toast. I mean, you usually like a guy who is maybe two years older, but what about younger? anyway, enough about me...
by filaluvva on 11/23/2011 6:04:01 PM
by GummGirl2011 on 11/23/2011 6:00:11 PM
He only wants sex, even if he says he "loves" you.
by Kikikim8 on 11/23/2011 5:47:04 PM
My parents have a pretty big age gap as well...but they didn't start dating until they were older than 18 so no laws broken
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by jollymoemoe on 11/23/2011 5:40:01 PM
Oh gosh.Wow.That is waaayyy to old in my opinion. And if I did date someone like that and my parents found out...Oh gosh.
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by cougargirl on 11/23/2011 5:36:39 PM
that is pretty akward...11 years?
by 4tora9 on 11/23/2011 5:28:31 PM
by chick987 on 11/23/2011 5:26:00 PM
Ohmigosh girl! It seems like you like him a lot, but an 11 year age difference is too much. Don't you ever wonder why he is dating a girl so much younger than he is? Sorry, but the only legitimate reason a guy dates a way younger girl is for "that". I'm guessing you're like 13 or 14, and that makes him 24 or 25. That's just creepy! Some 25 year old guys I know have kids!! Think about it, but realize your friends are trying to help you and keep you safe. Don't lash out at people who are just trying to help! I hope you make the right decision and are happy! -Luvpurple
by luvpurple88 on 11/23/2011 5:20:05 PM
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by claudsoda on 11/23/2011 5:15:20 PM
by jellybeanies13 on 11/23/2011 5:02:46 PM
No offense but that is a huge age difference, I've never even heard of that before!! And where are her parents??!! :0
by fallsb-ball on 11/23/2011 4:54:01 PM
11 year gap honey you need to break up with him and if it's illegal that shows and shouldn't he know it's illegal he'll understand sorry
by millia7 on 11/23/2011 4:48:25 PM
by 4tora9 on 11/23/2011 4:46:27 PM
Girl, i'm sorry, but that is just WRONG!!! You should NOT be dating someone that old, that would be like dating the little boy you babysit!! Just leave him before things get way too complicated!! Thats like a guy about to graduate HIGH SCHOOL dating a FIRST GRADER!!!! besides, if a guy you know in your grade found out that you were dating a guy 11 years older that you, a lot of people will think you come off as a slut!! im sorry, but that is just not right!!!
by 3m2016 on 11/23/2011 4:39:46 PM
My Boyfriend Is 9 Almost nine years older than me but I'm 18 girlie trust me if your young and he doesn't treat you right and tries to push you past what your comfy with dump his sorry butt ! Dont be afraid to do so !!
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