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im 11 and my dad says I cant date but my mom says its ok I don't get such good grades and my dad thinks it because of guys and my dad thinks its ok to still call me his baby and expects me not to grow up how do I convince him to let me be a tween not a BABY?

by 1D on 5/17/2013 9:03:27 PM

 
 

MOD!
My mom will not let me do anything until Im 18! Right now I am 12 (almost 13) and I cant leave the house alone, I cant use any makeup, I cant do anything with my friends without one of my parents watching us closely. Oh and did I mention that once I looked up how to curl/straighten my hair with no heat and she threw a fit. Theres just one problem:
I have asked her MANY times if I could do ANY of these things (I even begged, and it takes A LOT to make me beg!) and she said no. There is NO WAY I can talk her into this! If my mom lets me do anything then my dad will too!

Hey girl,

Your parents' rules may seem harsh, but the truth is that they really are making them because they love you! There will be plenty of time to wear makeup and do things alone when you're older, so take the time now to enjoy living with your family and having fun at home. Instead of begging, leave the subject alone for a while and then try to have a conversation where you ask calmly if there are compromises you can make to her rules, and try to work through them together.

Meghan D.

by Famousme on 12/2/2012 12:53:22 AM

 
 



Mod mod mod!!! So, when I was younger my hair was had thinkness to it but I was overall straight. I have red hair which it's why it is thick. Anyway today its not straight anymore. It's frizzy and out of control. On the other hand my older sister has super long gorgeous hair that is thick but straight. It's not fair!! I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've tried everything, I really really need your advice

 

Hey girlie, what your hair decides to do naturally is out of your control. But you can use gel to make it less frizzy and straighten it with a straightener.  


Lauren T.

by Marylofal16 on 11/18/2012 8:30:53 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD! ok,so my mom lets me wear makeup and she said my dad was cool with it...but when I wear it he acts different and stares. I really really don't want to talk w/ him about it! Im lost...I need advice!

 

Hey girl, dads always think of their daughters as babies. So it will just take him a little while to realize your really growing up! I would just talk to him, make sure he realizes your still his daughter and though you're getting older you still love him just as much. 


lauren r.

by bandnerds41698 on 2/18/2012 2:55:25 PM

 
 

Ugh! i know the feeling. my rents think im trying to grow up too fast but really im just living life day by day and trying to be myself. guess thats too much for them lol

by ITASHIA on 1/21/2012 5:08:34 PM

 
 

same here mom still calls me a child and im a teenager so your not the only one Tong

by kaylah213 on 1/16/2012 5:40:45 PM

 
 

Sad huh?

by kindred on 1/12/2012 7:08:39 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!
I need you help with my family. They just can't see that i am a teenager and ready to take on life's challenges. Of course i love them, but they can get on my nerves about every little thing. I can;t be open and honest with cuz i don't wanna hurt their feelings. Also, I can't talk about my "body" yet, cuz i still feel weird. Is this puberty? Or am i just insecure?

Hey girl,

What you're feeling is totally normal -- everyone fights with her parents, especially at your age! You should definitely be honest with them, though. It won't hurt their feelings in the long run, and they'll be glad you trusted them enough to open up to them. As for your bod, if you talk to your mom one-on-one it will be less awkward.

Meghan D.

by Madistar<3 on 1/6/2012 7:02:53 AM

 
 



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Ok, so there is this "movie night" event at my school coming up in a couple of weeks... I have no idea what to wear! Help! I want to wear something really cute, but also comfortable!!
-StressingaboutDressing




Hey girlie,

I'd probably wear something casual but perf for you, like a pair of bold colored skinny jeans (red?) with a striped long sleeved tee and flats/ankle boots. Accessorize with some fun bracelets and pull up your hair in a sleek ponytail to finish the look Smile 
Lauren C.

by Marchbug on 1/5/2012 7:52:44 PM

 
 



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My mom & I are both overweight & my brother has recently lost weight. Whenever someone comments on my brother's weight loss my mom makes a joke about me & herself still being fat. When I get upset, she gets mad that I'M upset. She recently called me a name, though she said she was joking, it still hurt and she got really mad that I was mad! She thinks I'm only mad because shes the one saying it, and if it was someone else, I wouldn't be mad. How can I get her to see that its not just her, that what shes saying and doing really does hurt and I wouldn't let it slide for anyone?




Hey girl,

Instead of getting mad and upset at each other, why not take a little more control and tackle this issue in a healthy way? Be upbeat and suggest to your mom that you go for a walk every night after dinner, or try some healthy recipes, or even try a new yoga/kickboxing DVD from the library. You're probably both feeling emotional as a result of your bro's weight loss - it's great for him, but it reminds you girls about your current weight...which doesn't feel so good. There's nothing wrong with being a little overweight (as long as you're healthy overall), but since you're both feeling sensitive about it, the new year is a GREAT time to mix up your routine and do something good for your bods! <333
Lauren C.

by JBboysRoc on 12/30/2011 9:01:24 PM

 
 

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My parents are always in my bussiness! Always "who are you skypeing?" or reading my texts! My mom even tells me to go out with friends, but then when I ask to, its always no, how can I tell them to back off without hurting them, or getting in trouble?

by sunnybubbles on 12/30/2011 12:42:55 PM

 
 

@musictaughtmehowtolive- ya my dad is the same. I hide the fact that i skype, text and talk with my BGF

Please visit my Advice Queen page! I really like to give advice to peeps Smile just post a question and i will answer it on your profile as soon as i see it.

by basketballcutie11 on 12/23/2011 5:20:16 PM

 
 

MOD!
On my period my back really hurts. What are some suggestions to stop the pain? Also my period is irregular, I usually skip months, is there any way to make it more regular?

 

Hey girl,

 

Irregular periods can be common in middle school and into high school, but you may want to ask a doc to be sure. For cramps and pain during your period, try ibuprofen or acetaminophen.

Meghan D.

by horsebackrider12 on 12/22/2011 2:37:54 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD!!
I'm extremely busy with 2 online classes, and I'm 2 months behind in one of them because of my school work. It's really hard for me since they're college level, and trying to understand them is also hard for me. I simply can't drop out because I am determined I will make an A. I've been working on it intensely all over thanksgiving break AND this winter break,and I haven't been able to hang out with friends ONCE because my mom wants me to go as far as possible in my courses. Why won't she just let me go out for a short period of time? I feel like I'm on house arrest, not being able to go out and just working. I'm constantly trying to get my classes done. Sometimes I just want to go out, there's no possible way I can finish EVERYTHING...

 

Hey girl,

 

Congrats on being such a hard worker! Why not try making a deal with mom, like that you can spend an hour with friends if you finish all of your assignments by a certain time?

Meghan D.

by kkk38 on 12/22/2011 2:34:08 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMODMODMOD It's nice to be able to comment on things, but girls who do always have such a hard time seeing the answers to their posts or the posts themselves. Do you think you could create a side tab that has links to all the comments we've made? Who would I need to tell this to? Thank you!

 

Hey girl, thanks for the suggestion. It's something we'll defintely think about. Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by dreamgirl9177 on 12/17/2011 6:27:59 PM

 
 

Tsk tsk, parents these days.. >.<

by [reinventlove]♥ on 12/14/2011 10:24:21 PM

 
 



Mod. I am 12 years old and havent really developed yet but tonight I went to babysit for one of my dads best friends but he kept like pating me on the chest, not sexually but it made me really uncomfortable and at the end he tried to put the money in my front pocket. It was even in front of my parents and they didn't care. I don't think he realized how old I was and it was innapropriate. I wouldn't b comfortable talking to anyone about it but I want to make sure it doesn't happen again




Hey girlie,

First off, you should never feel uncomfortable talking about this kind of thing with another adult. You need to make sure your parents know that this was NOT ok. I know it was your dad's best friend, but uncomfortable touching isn't something that should be tolerated. Whether he meant it sexually or not, if it made you feel bad... then it's bad! So tell your mom or dad that you really didn't feel comfortable with that and you want to make sure it doesn't happen again, so you hope you'll have their support in case it does. Personally, I'd stop babysitting for him. But if there is a next time, you know what to expect. Be on your guard and if he goes to touch you again, be firm: tell him something like, "Please, don't. It's inappropriate." Be mature about this and let him know that you are fully aware of what's going on around you. He'll get it and, hopefully, learn to back off.
Lauren C.

by Finn on 12/10/2011 12:53:20 AM

 
 

Hey italianchika101, the way to make a friend is to be one. Show people you're kind and friendly by offering to help classmates out who are having trouble in certain subjects, or if someone needs to borrow something let them hold it. Try joining different clubs or groups to make friends. If guys at school are harassing you, let teachers and faculuty know. Talk to your mom and ask her if there are any ways you can help her out. Keeping a diary will help you channel all your feelings, so they won't stay bottled up. Hope you feel better!! Smile Smile

by Lynae P. on 12/9/2011 8:14:29 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD
I really need some advice right away. I recently moved to a new town and its my senior year at a new highschool and I'm really having trouble making new friends. People think I'm wierd and I only get attention from guys and its usually the wrong kind of attention. On top of that my mom keeps blaming me for making her life miserable and always threatens to kick me out of the house. I have no one to turn to, not even my dad since he lives in a different state. I am at a breaking point and I really don't feel like life is worth living anymore.

by italianchika101 on 12/9/2011 8:08:00 PM

 
 

MOOOOOOOOOOD
i was reaaaaaaally mad for a reason thats to long to explain. i threw my phone and now the keyboard lights up and i can hear it go off but the screens black and i cant answer calls. (i had my friend try). my moms gonna be home soon PLEAS help me know what to say!!! im afraid shell get so mad i wont get a new one, and i know its selfish but i dont want a cheap phone. pleeeeeeease help ssssssssssssssoooooooooooonnnn! thank you! Lynae P.

by stylechic21 on 12/9/2011 6:00:23 PM

 
 


MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!
Ok so I overheard something the other day. One of my friend's (we don't talk everyday but she was on my volleyball team and stuff) boyfriend said that he was thinking about breaking up with her because he doesn't feel the same way about her and she does him. She I warn her so he doesn't lead her on??? Thanks


 


Lynae P.

by sweetheart118 on 12/9/2011 3:23:24 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD!
i kinda like this guy at my school and he likes me and i want to ask him out, but hes a grade younger, which means ill barely see him cause he doesnt ride my bus, he doesnt have a phone which means we cant text, and i told a lot of people that i would never go out with him. should i go out with him and give it a try?




Hey girlie,

It doesn't matter what you told everyone before... if your heart is telling you to date him now, then go for it! Don't feel embarrassed! And you can definitely still keep in touch, even though you aren't in the same grade. Give him a call on his home phone and chat online via Facebook, IM, or email. Hang out in a group of his friends and your friends after school or on the weekends. See him in school whenever possible, like lunch. Join a club together. You can DEF make this work if you want to! Smile
Lauren C.

by wishuponastar97 on 12/8/2011 8:28:01 PM

 
 

ya my dad would flip if he read the books that i do, even though my mom doesnt care. he would end up getting mad at me and my mom, so there 4, i dont leave my books anywhere that he would look at them. like last time that he saw the book that i was reading (crank) he got super mad, he said that it was all about "adult stuff".

by cul_4_you on 12/7/2011 9:07:22 PM

 
 

Okay. I have 2 problems. 1 is that my school does not allow sixth graders to go to the dances!. 2 is that my dad tells me I can only have 25 texts/month because they cost 20 cents and they are expensive. But the true reason is that he cannot except that I am growing up. He just can't accept. Thank God he does not read all of the books I like because a lot of them have romance and kissing (eg Hunger Games). He would like, have a freak attack.

by iluvhg on 12/6/2011 7:06:16 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD MOD!
My dad talks with bad language a lot. It's starting to sink into me! I don't want to say those bad things! My dad is very short tempered so I feel like I can't say anything without him blowing up. I have told my mom but we don't know what to do! Help!




Youre in control of what you do so make sure you put a conscious effort into not saying those bad things. Youll be fine. xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by nmgregerson on 12/4/2011 7:19:13 PM

 
 

MOD i really want a facebook page. I asked my mom if i could have one for my b-day. She said that she would think about it.On my b-day, i asked her and she said no. I asked her why and she said that she didn't think i needed one. I tried talking to her about it and she refused to talk about it. So what should i do???

 

Hey girl, I think you should try talking to her again. Ask her why she doesn't think you're ready for one. Once you know what you're doing to make her think this, you can change and show her you're mature and responsible. Hope this helps! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by trackgirl101 on 12/3/2011 6:09:58 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!! Hey hey hey! I've moved to this new school the first two weeks of the school year. I now take the school bus and in the beginning, my bus- buddy, and this cute guy sitting behind me's bus-buddy got off at the same bus stop. When this happened he ( Ty ), would come sit next to me and flirt with me and stuff. The thing was, was that I wouldn't reply to the flirting. Then one day when he came and sat next to me he asked me if I could be his girlfriend and I said no because I wasn't allowed. But now that time has passed, ( a lot of time) I've started to like him. A lot. We still are friends but just not that close. Lol, he sometimes tells my friends that we go out but i always say no. How do I get him to like me like before? I really like this guy. Help! Thx!

 

Hey girl, I think you should start sitting next to him on the bus. I'm sure he still likes you, since he tells your friends you two date. Ask for his number girl. Hope this helps! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by Cejaec on 12/3/2011 5:55:54 PM

 
 

How do i ask questions like these? im new

 

Hey chica, welcome to girlslife! Thanx for joining. Smile All you have to do is write MOD at the beginning of your comment. MOD is short for Moderator, which are girls like me who respond to all your questions and help with anything other thing you need assistance on. So send in your questions!! Smile Smile

Lynae P.

by mooseee on 12/3/2011 5:19:13 PM

 
 


MOD
I think that i am ready to have a facebook page. Most of the people i know have one. I asked my mom if i could have one for my b-day. She said that she would think about it. On my b-day, i asked her again and she said no. i asked her why and she said that she didn't feel that i was ready. Should i confront her about it or just let it alone?


 


Lynae P.

by trackgirl101 on 12/2/2011 5:10:26 PM

 
 

Hey girl, please don't post chain letters. Smile


Lynae P.

by punkrockzoe on 11/30/2011 7:29:56 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!
My mom recently bought me a pair of two inch heels, and they are the cutest pair of shoes I have ever seen! The problem is, I'm only 13 and in 8th grade, so am I too young to wear heels? And will people think [think badly of me] for wearing them?




Hey Chica,

While I don't personally think you are too young for heels, especially two-inch ones, it depends on how you feel. If you feel like heels don't suit you, then don't wear them. But if they really are the cutest pair of shoes, I say go ahead and rock them! They're already mom-approved, so you have nothing to lose (as long as you can walk in them! practice first before wearing them for a long time). You can't decide what people will think of you for wearing them, but if people have nasty things to say, just ignore them and be yourself! Only you can define yourself, so don't let others do it for you.  




 
Rachel N.

by redscittlez on 11/30/2011 12:39:38 PM

 
 

I think I'm fat a lot of girls that go to my school with me are so skinny!! Sometimes they talk about there weight in class out loud and ask me what I weight but I don't what to tell them so I ignore them but sometimes they keep asking me!! I wanna go on a diet but my mom says I'm way to young and I'm excising, but nothing seems to be working! What should I do??

by Happy*cuz*life on 11/29/2011 3:53:34 PM

 
 

@morriss2407 Here's an idea......Don't go to the dances. My first dance i stayed home and had a CSI: NY marathon. Don't give into peer pressure. Just because there is a dance doesn't mean you ahve to go.

by loveTC247 on 11/29/2011 3:37:08 PM

 
 

Im in sixth grade and I love going to my schools dances, but I just stand there like a brick! I feel so awkward. I need some smooth appropriate dance moves that are pretty easy. Any ideas?
Ps. I'm really tall too, I'm five six, and I just want to blend in with crowd with dance moves that are simple and natural for my height.

by morriss2407 on 11/28/2011 10:28:01 PM

 
 

Same problem with me too!!!

by morriss2407 on 11/28/2011 10:21:47 PM

 
 

my mom says im the most mature kid she knows but i can't have a bf

by kenzie! on 11/28/2011 7:07:23 PM

 
 



MODS MODS MODS!!!!
ok so i want a BF but my school is really small and i dont like any of the guys there. where can i meet a guy in a safe place? btw im only 13.
thanks!




Hey girl, you don't need a boyfriend, first of all, to be happy. Be careful that you don't just want a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend. There are tons of places to meet guys – in activities outside of school, especially (community theater, through friends, etc.) but when you find the perf guy to date — who shares your interests, etc. — you'll know!

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by bubbles3956 on 11/28/2011 7:04:36 PM

 
 

My mom was like that with me. She woudnt let me have a bf, wouldnt let me get together at certain sleepovers because of guys and a bunch of other stuff. Her attitude started changing when she realized I was growing up, she also found out my cousin was on birth control and shes younger than me.
I think we have a great relationship. I hope it stays that way.

by luckykel on 11/28/2011 2:50:53 PM

 
 

My mom says tht i am mature and i know i am but she wont let me have a bf wht should i do

by Skypark7 on 11/28/2011 3:38:31 AM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!!
My long time kindergarten best friend is having her birthday party (like every year). She got held back a grade, so she's one grade younger than me. Her birthday party consists of her friends from her grade level and none from mine (she's in seventh grade, I'm in eighth). I have felt really lonely in her birthday parties because her friends are obsessed with Justin Bieber (and I'm not) and they have secrets that I'm not in on, and my friend always talks to them so I feel lonely at her birthday parties. I don't really want to go to her birthday party this year, but I don't want to seem like a bad friend. What should I do?




Hey chica! I think you should go because you're right, she may feel some type of way about you not being there especially if she invited you.Maybe before you go though, you should tell her how left out you've felt at her past birthday parties. Explain to her that she would be the only one there who you really know. If she cares about your feelings then she will understand. At the same time, she has to entertain her other friends as well. Don't be too sensitive. Give her some time to hang out with all of you at the party.  
Amalia E.

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by DanceFreak99 on 11/27/2011 5:05:46 PM

 
 



Mod mod mod. So I've known this guy since I was 2 years old. He was my best friend. But then, in Grade 3, he moved away. I never realized how much it bugged me until know. He was like another big brother to me. I told him that I was afraid about losing our friendship, and he said not to worry. I can't but feel empty inside. Please help me.




Hey girlie,

I totally understand feeling upset after a friend moves far away. Nothing will ever be the same! But that doesn't mean you can't keep a strong, happy friendship with him! Think of the luxuries we have today: we can keep in touch by letters, postcards, phone calls, texts, emails, Skype video chats, instant message, Facebook message/chat, etc. There are sooo many ways to keep each other updated about your lives. It'll be a little bit harder than seeing each other in school all the time but, if you're meant to be friends, you'll work hard and make it happen! <3 Just commit to staying in touch and follow through!
Lauren C.

by pokemon_girl11 on 11/27/2011 11:06:52 AM

 
 



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Okey so I'm 14, and literally the only girl in the family. So nobody really knows what teen girls are like, except me ofcourse! And it's so annoying cuz they all treat me as a child, think of me as stupid and idiotic cuz I'm a girl. My parents dont trust me, at all. And my annoying brother always tells them stuff that makes them trust me less. Im not allowed to hang out with friends, go out alone, talk on the phone(without them knowing who it was and what we spoke about), I cant talk to guys, and I have no privacy whatsoever. It kills me inside and has caused depression a lot of times. I tried to talk it out with them, but they never understand and always ignore it. I want to gain their trust and make them understand that I'm matured, because I am. I cant take all this anymore. Please help me.
xoxo
Kuku




Hey Kuku,

Instead of thinking of you as "stupid and idiotic," they're probably trying to protect you because you're the only girl - and traditionally, people see girls as delicate, fragile, and people that need protection. But we both know that isn't true! It's great to have people looking out for you, but you also need freedom to explore your personality, make friends, and live your own life. First, try to carry yourself with confidence and speak your mind. Be mature and don't throw fits when you don't get your way - don't raise your voice, try not to cry, and instead be composed and calm. Work hard to do well in school so you prove that you're responsible, then try joining a club or sport at school. That way, you get some time out of the house and an opportunity to meet new friends! And if your parents give you trouble about it, tell them that it's helping you do better in school because it's teaching you discipline, giving you classmates to ask for help, etc. If you're not allowed to hang out with friends out of school, try asking your parents if they can come to your house. That way, they get to meet them, they'll know where you are, and you'll still get to socialize. Try to work with them and compromise on this - you're not trying to be let free to do whatever you want, but you are just trying to get a bit more independence! Be honest about it and don't give up! <3
Lauren C.

by *zaina*all*te*way* on 11/27/2011 7:43:38 AM

 
 



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ive posted a few mod questions lately and they never showed up. And I posted them like last week and there still not there. i dont even know if this one will show up. whats happening???




Hey girl,

I don't see any unanswered questions from you here, so unfortunately we never got them! Are you sure you're going back to the place you posted? Check carefully for the answers! If it still seems like yours aren't posting, try using a different web browser (like, if you're using Firefox, switch to Google Chrome. Or vice versa). So sorry girl! 
Lauren C.

by ellybelle98 on 11/27/2011 12:06:39 AM

 
 



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please answer, ! k so about 8 months ago i lost my bestfriend. we've known eachother since we were 3 months old and its been 13 years as friends and i really miss her. i feel lost without her, and i cant takeit anymore. she thinks i lied to her but she didnt tell me HOW i lied to her.so we havent talked or seen eachother in 8 months and im just so depressed, i wanna be friends with her again. SO badly, please help me try to get over this? and anyone else too if they have any advide can you please tell me? thanks




Hey girlie,

Have you tried making up? Send her an email or leave a note in her locker about it - get everything out and feel free to write drafts to get the words just right. Start from the beginning and, even though you don't know EXACTLY what the problem was, apologize. Swallow your pride here and tell her what she means to you as a friend. Tell her how much you want to start over and how hard you'll work to be a great friend. This is your "last chance," so make it count! It's worth spilling your feelings to see if it works. There's no guarantee, but this way you won't ask yourself "what if I tried harder to get her back?" because you'll already be trying your best <3 
Lauren C.

by jeanineangel77 on 11/26/2011 10:31:27 PM

 
 



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on thanksgiving my cousin(a) was talking about his new girlfriend. she sounds like a hoochy mama. none of us have ever met her. it was all perfect but my dad was kind of drunk. he went up to my cousin(a)and was talking bad about his girlfriend and about(a). he was yelling really loud and saying really bad stuff. all of my family was crying including me and all of my cousins. it has been 2 days now and my parents arent talking to each other and my mom wont talk to any of our family. my mom was really up set and when my lil sis asked whay happened yesterday, my mom said your dad was being a big jerk. i am really scared. what should i do?




Hey chickie,

I hear ya - holidays can be rough on every family, especially when someone drinks too much/real feelings come out. Your dad did act silly and embarrassed the family because he was a little drunk. It's a bummer, but you guys have to move past it! Your mom's argument with him is her own business so don't try to fix it, but you can act mature and forgive him yourself. Try to hold your head high and cut through the tension at your house right now. Be friendly and happy, both toward mom and dad. Try to understand that we all make mistakes and, even though you saw your dad at his worst, you love him. The worst and best part of being in a family is that we're stuck with each other - so you might as well embrace the fact that he's human and makes mistakes, put it behind you, and forgive him so you can get back to normal <3
Lauren C.

by socestar8 on 11/26/2011 10:01:55 PM

 
 

Theres this guy named Chad in my English and math class and I really like him we chat and smile flirt a little but I can't figure out if he likes me and I don't know how to really get his attention and semi is coming up and I really wana go with him and I don't think he wants to go at all and I really wana talk to him more but we run in different circles so how do I get his attention to talk to him and hope fully become more than friends?

by Jojo1115 on 11/26/2011 9:56:56 PM

 
 

@lauren r.-thanks! Actually, that's for all the MODs out there.

by e2000 on 11/26/2011 7:30:48 PM

 
 



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Well, I really want to hang out with my friends, or go outside sometimes. But my mom wont let me, saying an adult has to be there. I've suggested I bring my phone and she can sit somewhere inside the mall, but she wont let me. And for leaving the house, she says that she'll sit outside and "watch me". But she never wants to! idk what to do.




Hey girl, best thing to do is plan a head of time. If she says she'll do it, plan a date a week before so she can plan too! 
lauren r.

by e2000 on 11/26/2011 2:37:08 PM

 
 



MOD!I'm in color guard1 of 2 new people.I've struggled with it and still not that great.But I'm really proud of myself for trying it and not giving up.I made some good friends with the other girls on the team.The other new girl is really good @ it.Like really good for someone who started this year.She had some trouble fitting in/making friend @ school.But she's made a lot of friends,and I'm super proud of her!But she's still shy@ CG.The other girls are always talking to her because when she does talk she's very funny.Whenever she shows up they always acknowledge her:"Aw,T you look so adorable!"T!How are you?"etc.But when I show up nobody says a word.While we are working on our routines, people will go: "Wow T!You're so good!""That's so cute T!"etc.And nobody ever says anything to me.We often sit together and talk before CG and the other girls will walk over and talk to her, and completely ignore me/sometimes forget I'm there.I'm not asking for attention but I wish they'd acknowledge me




Hey girlie,

You just have to stick with this! She's made a great impression because she's outgoing, funny, and social. It's tough to start something new and meet new people, so it's totally understandable that you haven't connected with people as well as she has yet. Use her as inspiration (and as a friend who you can lean on for support) as you compliment a girl on the way she's wearing her hair today, as you bring up an idea you had for the new routine, or as you tell a funny story from science class today. Just keep trying and be yourself! You'll settle in and feel a lot more comfortable in the group as time goes by Smile 
Lauren C.

by MidnightMockingbird on 11/25/2011 8:41:33 PM

 
 

That advice sounds nice but really, if your parents are over protective don't even try to change them! I don't want to be a rain on yalls parade but parents don't really change! Sorry!!!!

by moosethehamster on 11/25/2011 8:30:40 PM

 
 

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I'm new to GL! Hello!
I'm trying to make my profile visible. I'm 15 so I'm of age. The box on my profile that says "Keep My Profile Private" is unclicked!
What more do I have to do to make it visible???
Thank you very much!
Nessa




Hey babe! 

Did you click "Save" after unclicking "Keep My Profile Private?" That could be it! xoxox 
Devin A.

by Vanessa__Rocks on 11/25/2011 12:36:01 PM

 
 

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I really want to be able to wear makeup but my parents say I have to wait until I'm sixteen. All I want to wear is mascara or eyeliner! What should I do?
Thanks!




Hey Doll,

If you want your parents to see you as mature enough to wear makeup, then you have to be more mature! Ask them if there's anything you can do to around the house to wear makeup, but if not then you'll have to wait a few years! Until then, keep up with skin care and be happy that you can glow without makeup! 
Rachel N.

by cucu4cocopuffs2246 on 11/25/2011 12:33:00 PM

 
 

this is exactly why i won't ever admit to my mom or dad if i have a crush on someone.

by filaluvva on 11/25/2011 12:23:40 PM

 
 

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I'm 14, so is it weird that I'm not really all that into the Internet, texting, etc. My friends seem to think it's strange but I don't know what to think.
XXThanks!




Hey Chica,

It seems like all anyone wants to do these days is text or hang out online, so you're a rare one for not being into it! Celebrate what makes you different, and if you don't like it, don't stress about it. And if you decide you do like it one day, then that's fine too! 
Rachel N.

by revolutionary_chick on 11/25/2011 9:24:52 AM

 
 

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My BFF (let's call her "T"), who never listens when I need to tell her that I'm sad. Let's just say, my home life isn't that good! But she never listens when I get upset because of my mom or family. She just tells me that I'm overreacting. She doesn't understand what i'm going through because her mom spoils her, she gets awesome grades, and she flaunts it off whenever she can!
Then I have lots of other BFFs. They always tell me things to make me feel better about myself. They are awesome!
Should I ditch "T"? I need friends who are there for me! Smile
Haley




Hey Doll,

Ditching "T" would just make you a bad friend, so unless she is harming you, don't drop her because she won't listen. Having lots of friends means they're all good for different things, so even if "T" isn't the best talking buddy, is she good for other things, like going shopping with or just fooling around and having fun? You have friends that are willing to listen, so count your blessings and see the positive sides of having lots of BFFs.  
Rachel N.

by fungirl123 on 11/25/2011 9:24:47 AM

 
 

i don't know, i have never been close to my parents, so its not much of a change honestly.

by hahaha2005 on 11/25/2011 8:56:40 AM

 
 

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Okay, my gym teacher is really picky about thickness of straps. I wear tanktops tht pass the rules of 2 fingers but he always comes up t me and tells me its 3! i say i thikn its two but tn they makeme go wear a thick sweater! what can i do?




Hey Doll,

Rules can sometimes be annoying, but if your gym teacher says it has to be three fingers, then you've gotta start following it. Try wearing a t-shirt instead of a tank top so you don't have to worry about the thickness. 
Rachel N.

by clairebear694 on 11/25/2011 8:15:57 AM

 
 

i have the same problem, and i confronted my dad about the walk or movie thing and he started crying :'(

by tessascuzin287 on 11/25/2011 4:08:04 AM

 
 

its funny since my problem is the exact opposite one time i was one a road trip with my parents and these two guys started checking me out and then apologized to my dad and i didn't notice it but when we got back to the car my dad was all laughfy and jokey about and said "those boys were checking you out!!" and then i saw them and was mortified!!! some times i wish i wasn't so close to my parents Tong

by tabbycat627 on 11/25/2011 3:20:10 AM

 
 

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I have a similar problem to this one...I have a BGF that confessed that he likes me and I like him a lot too! He asked what WE were and I told him we had to stay friends until high school. Well...the truth is...I don't want to wait. I want him to be my boy friend so bad. I even find myself daydreaming of what it would be like... The reason I said to wait was because I m afraid of what my dad would think. What should I do???? I know that he thinks I'm growing up too fast. I love my dad more than anything and I dOnt want to disappoint him.




Hey Chica,

Every dad has to accept that one day their daughter will like a boy, so you should talk to your dad about his rules for dating, because chances are, he's thought about it. You could start by inviting you BGF over for dinner and let your dad get to know him before you jump into a relationship. Even if your dad doesn't want you to date now, he'll appreciate that you came to him and asked first. He may say you're growing up too fast, but as long as your being smart and mature about your decisions, that isn't always a bad thing.  
Rachel N.

by Lbradshaw35 on 11/25/2011 2:05:00 AM

 
 

same but i made plans with my dad to go to the muppets movie

by millia7 on 11/25/2011 12:55:28 AM

 
 

This seem like the situation my best friend is in...bt the thing is..her dad is totally ANTI-boy. She tells me that he doesn't want her talking, texting, or hanging out with guys! I feel so bad for her Frown.

by MusicTaughtMeHowToLive on 11/25/2011 12:46:31 AM

 
 

I have the same exact problem!

by nerdisthewurd26 on 11/25/2011 12:11:40 AM

 
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