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I’ve created an image for myself that I don’t like. I wear gobs of makeup. I smoked so a guy would like me. I stole my best friend’s boyfriend, and now I like her new boyfriend. I’ve tried to change, but it’s hard.

 

Dear Bad Girl,

You feel lousy, right? But behind that makeup and smoke is a good person. Come on out! Change is hard—for you to do and others to recognize. But since you no longer want to play rough-and-tough boyfriend stealer, find healthy ways to feel confident. What are you good at? Soccer? Singing? Science? Spanish? Build on those strengths.

 

As for changing your rep, lose the makeup and put a positive attitude on your face—even if it feels kind of forced at first. Ask guys and girls friendly questions such as, “What did you do during vacation?” It may take a while to replace the old image, but congratulate yourself on having the guts to change.

 

Oh, and hands off the cigarettes and friends’ boyfriends! Your health and friendships are far more important than getting a guy.
 
 

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Ok so i am in 7th grade and have never gone out with anybody before. I think relationships are overrated for this age in my school. My good friend and i kind of make fun of the relationships and how they dont last. Guys have asked me out before and i have liked guys. Its not like I'm completely anti-boy. My point is i feel like i pushing them away. They have called me pretty and i talk to boys all the time. But they know i will say no because i dont date. I feel like when i am ready to date (which will be like in 8th or 9th grade) they won't want to date me. I haven't kissed anyone either which is why i want to go to a sleep away camp in the summer. (my friend said everyone gets their first kiss there!) Please help change my boy image!
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by marylofal16 on 10/3/2012 3:43:35 PM

Hey, I understand you not wanting to date, but maybe be special friends with guys. Treat one guy different than the rest so they can feel a little love from you. Don't worry, guys will come to you! Smile

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by vikiwasawoo on 2/9/2013 2:15:20 AM

 
 



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Help! I'm 13 and i've smoked a few times and i am just dressing so different and stuff, how can i go back to being innocent and my old self?

 

Hey girlie, to go back to being your old self, you have to want to change. Stop smoking and dress in whatever makes you happy. Make the lifestyle changes you need to make to feel comfortable with yourself again. 


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by xoxojillianxo on 11/4/2012 7:42:59 PM

 
 

Ok so i am in 7th grade and have never gone out with anybody before. I think relationships are overrated for this age in my school. My good friend and i kind of make fun of the relationships and how they dont last. Guys have asked me out before and i have liked guys. Its not like I'm completely anti-boy. My point is i feel like i pushing them away. They have called me pretty and i talk to boys all the time. But they know i will say no because i dont date. I feel like when i am ready to date (which will be like in 8th or 9th grade) they won't want to date me. I haven't kissed anyone either which is why i want to go to a sleep away camp in the summer. (my friend said everyone gets their first kiss there!) Please help change my boy image!

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by marylofal16 on 10/3/2012 3:43:35 PM

 
 

Ok, so you need to find yourself a new guy! And don't let yourself be around her new guy, the temptation will be to much

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by collins on 8/2/2012 9:39:19 AM

 
 

Wow you like your friends boyfriend again no offense ut she should probsly leave you alone before you hurt her again and make sure you say sorry

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by zania on 7/25/2012 2:16:42 PM

 
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