I’ve created an image for myself that I don’t like. I wear
gobs of makeup. I smoked so a guy would like me. I stole my best friend’s
boyfriend, and now I like her new boyfriend. I’ve tried to change, but it’s
Dear Bad Girl,
You feel lousy, right? But behind that makeup and smoke is a
good person. Come on out! Change is hard—for you to do and others to recognize.
But since you no longer want to play rough-and-tough boyfriend stealer, find
healthy ways to feel confident. What are you good at? Soccer? Singing? Science?
Spanish? Build on those strengths.
As for changing your rep, lose the makeup and put a positive
attitude on your face—even if it feels kind of forced at first. Ask guys and
girls friendly questions such as, “What did you do during vacation?” It may
take a while to replace the old image, but congratulate yourself on having the
guts to change.
Oh, and hands off the cigarettes and friends’ boyfriends!
Your health and friendships are far more important than getting a guy.
BY CAROL WESTON ON 12/30/2011 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN dear carol, self-esteem, identity, bad habit, advice from Carol Weston