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You’ve probably heard that boys mature more slowly than girls, and it couldn’t be truer. At this age, it’s tough to find guys that aren’t immature, but before you date one, you have to ask yourself how much you can take.

If you can deal with his immaturity and laugh at his sense of humor, then you should totally go for it. Lots of guys who act immature in public are just putting on a front for their friends, so he might be a different person when it’s just the two of you. But don’t expect him to automatically turn into Prince Charming. If you’re gonna give him a chance, you have to accept him for who he is.

On the other hand, if you think his immaturity is too annoying to handle, but you date him anyway, you’ll end up resenting him more than you like him. So figure out if it’s worth it to you, and then decide if you want to date him.

BY RACHEL NUGENT ON 12/24/2011 12:00:00 AM

Hey SnowBoarders88, yeah he defintely likes you. Just start a convo about anything, maybe about the dance or class you're in. Being friendly and calm will show him you don't freak out. Hope this helps! Xoxo

MOD MOD!! Theres a guy i lyk nd my friend said tht when they were n class they were talking abt 8th grade banquet last friday nd they askd him who he was gonna take nd he sed me! He thinks i freak out when hes around me or when he talks to me which i dont but idk maybe he thinks freaking is different then what i think?? But i mean if u say you want to take someone to banquet does tht mean u like them? Thts also the second time hes sed he wants to take me,one of his guy friends told me he sed that a few months ago. I have a rlly hard time tryin to tlk to him because im really shy nd quiet nd we got a new seating arrangement and in science i sit at his table nd i really want to talk to him to show him i dont freak out. Plus when we got moved to the new table he was smilin nd lookin at his friend nd then he sed hey to me nd i sed hey me nd i sed hey.So duz he like me? Wht shud i say to him n science and sho him i dont freak out? Help please!! Lynae P.

If your friends think he's immature, ignore them.If you think his immaturity is over the top, get over him and move on. If you think his goofy-ness is just plain adorkable, keep crushingand hoping that he'll like you someday, somehow.

by GlitterHearts on 5/5/2012 2:03:48 AM

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Ok, so theres this guy i like in my class. I think he likes me. So my friend told him that i like him and shes trying to get him to ask me out, but she also likes him too... Then a lot of my other friends say "its soooo obvious he likes you..." and hes so sweet and funny and cute (which is a bonus ;)) but IDK what to do..... Please help!!!!!!!!!!!
<3, Mypeeps112

Hey girl,

I think I'd try to get someone to help you who DOESN'T also have a crush on the guy! That's a recipe for disaster Keep trying to talk to him, joke around, compliment him, tease him a little...basically, flirt and give him the chance to flirt back. The closer you grow to him, the more likely it'll be that he asks you out

Lauren C.

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by gracieb123 on 1/13/2012 10:44:59 PM

by SnowBoarder88 on 1/11/2012 8:11:13 PM

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Okay... so with valentine day coming up i really wanted my crush (riley) to talk me more than a friend. We used to chat all the time but he got "in trouble" and had to sit by himself. Any way riley and i could get some time to talk???
P.S. I was think of making some cookies to give to people and I could offer him some maybe. :0 I'm lost...

Hey girly,

I think that the idea to give him cookies is a great one! Good Luck!

Catie C.

by madisonk714 on 1/3/2012 4:18:03 PM

Hey madelinej8, start texting him. If you text him, he'll being texting you back. Hope this helps!! Xoxo

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ok, so ive recently got to know a guy from another school. he and his friend broke my friends heart over the summer, and she still kinda likes him. hes a MAJOR flirt and a bit of a player, and he likes one of my friends. he frted with me and everything even though he has never eve met me when we text..... i dont have feelings for him and ive liked this guy at my school for over a year now, and i think he likes me too. but i cant get him to even text me. and i want to have a relationship.... what do i do? Lynae P.

by madelinej8 on 12/31/2011 6:33:36 PM

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How do I get rid of my crush? The guy I like has a girlfriend, and I NEED to get rid of my crush, it's too big. And I think of not having a crush on him and it kind of breaks my heart. It's like accepting that I have no chance with him, which I don't... He makes me so happy just seeing and talking to him, I kind of think I'll get REALLY sad if I don't like him, he's completely perfect for me. No, he isn't, he has a girlfriend. I have had this crush for way too long and I need to forget about it. Please tell me how to, I really need help!
Thank you so much if you help.

Hey girlie,

Instead of trying to talk yourself out of crushing on him, work on branching out and having new life experiences. Join a new club or sport, take up a new hobby, hang out new places with your friends, talk to new people and even give old classmates another chance. Surround yourself with people you love who make you laugh. Exercise daily and make better choices with your food (healthy snacks, well-balanced meals, skip the junk food, etc.). Keep an open mind and take chances to broaden your horizons - you'll feel happier, more productive, and will even have the chance to find new guys (and new potential crushes). <3 You can do this!!

by caseyf13 on 12/31/2011 12:47:28 AM

MODMODMOD i really like this guy that i have in three of my classes but i have to problems 1) i have no clue if he likes me and2)sometimes he can be really sexist. should i just forget about him?

You're going off assumptions and reputation right now, so personally I'd try to get to know him a little better before you give up totally! Try talking to him and see how he treats you. If there are major moral differences between you and him (basically, if you don't feel respected), it's probably not worth pursuing. But he could turn out to be a great guy that makes you feel really happy! He deserves at least one chance

by oneoftheodd on 12/30/2011 9:49:11 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! two of my close friends just started dating which is great because im really happy for them and they make a really cute couple. the problem is that well, one of them (lets call her M), never stops talking about him ever. when i hangout with them, i just feel like a third wheel and i feel like im losing two great friends. plus, when im hanging out with M without her boyfriend, all she does is text him. i was fine with it at first, but it has been almost two months and im kinda tired of talking about THEM, all the time. its just weird for me because im a third wheel and i can't talk to them because all they do is hug. -for hours. PLZ HELP!!! i don't know what to do!!!

Even though two months sounds like forever for you, their relationship is still in that "new" phase. They're still all lovey-dovey because everything feels new and exciting for them! Try to understand that and be happy for them...as much as you can, anyway. Then, try to hang out with them one-on-one instead of always together. Or have a girls night out with M and your other gals - out to the movies and diner, NO boys allowed! This will give you time to reconnect with her without having him hanging all over her. Let her talk about him a little, then change the subject of the convo to other things, like sports, movies, celebs, your crush, etc. It's all about balance and reminding her that, sometimes, a little time away from him will be healthy!

by gigglegirlcorky on 12/29/2011 9:43:33 PM

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So recently, I just stopped liking a guy, cuz, well, he wasnt worth it. But EVERYBODY knew i liked him, and many people still do. But there was a guy before that...lets name him Tyler...who i had liked for a long time, then stopped. One of my newer close friends liked Tyler while i liked the other guy, and now that i dont like the other guy anymore (which got around school) Tyler figured out because he is one of my old crushes' best friends that i dont like him, and has been flirting with me, so i kinda like him again. But i cant tell my friend because honestly, she is OBSESSED with tyler and has her heart set on the fact that they are soulmates...Tyler has never even looked her way....I dont know what to do when she brings him up, and tries to get me to help her figure out who he likes....WHAT DO I DO?

I think the next time she asks you to help her find who he likes you should break it to her that tyler most likely likes you. See how she reacts. If shes super upset, then you shouldnt do anything with tyler. that will just break her heart. Good luck! xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

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by bubblegum270600 on 12/25/2011 12:05:35 AM

I think you have just got to consider whether you will be able to put up with the immaturity, because if you can't, then eventually this guy will start to feel like your little brother. It will get old really fast.

by christineah111 on 12/24/2011 7:13:46 PM

MODMODMOD! Ok, thanks! Thats a good idea! Do you think justmtalking to my guidance counseler without telling my parents would be OK? Because my parents are kinda overprotective, and I don't want them to spaz on me. Thanks.

Yeah talk to your guidance counselor. It will save your rents from going crazy and you a lot of money.

Lynae P.

by uni301 on 12/24/2011 5:59:12 PM

MODMODMOD!! Ok, PLEASE answer this. What are some symptoms of teenage depression? Because these days, Im feeling really depressed, and like, Im a pessimist in general, and even with the holidays, I know that I should be happy, but im just..not. I'll be doing something fun and be all happy, but like, at night, when I just have time to think, I feel real depressed. And 2 summers ago, I had serious issues with just thinking _about_ suicide, not actually doing it, but the thought rather, haunted me. But last school year helped with that, and life was aweseome. But this year, my school year is poop. I have no friends in my classes, my classes are boring, and ridiculuosly easy, and Ive grown bored. Is this just normal, or something else? I havent talked to anyone about it, because if it is, then I dont want to spaz anyone else out, like I did 2 summers ago. And Im only 13. Is this normal. Please answer!

Hey chicky, I'm no professional but it sounds like you may be experiencing some mild symptoms. You may want to let a parent know so you can get some help. It's better to attack these feelings now before they begin to overwhelm your life. One thing you can do on your own to start fighting your depression is meditating. Finding a quiet place to close your eyes and relax will help clear your thoughts and calm you down. Hope this helps!! And I hope you feel better!!

by uni301 on 12/24/2011 5:38:04 PM

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first of all thank you, i am really confused right now. there are a few guys im sorta stuck trying to figure out right now. guy 1he is super nice & cute & we talk alot. but i have liked him since like prek & i just started talking to him again.guy 2 i just recently met a few months ago.i met him bcus my fam switched churches. he is really nice & cute & funny. i went ona camping/horseback riding trip with my church & when we went to the portapotty(it was like1/4 of a mile away from camp) it was really dark out & i was kinda crowding by him&he was joking around with me. guy3 is really nice and we have alot of classes together, but 2 of my frnds like him. he is really nice and funny and he just makes me happy. so could you please help me!

You don't have to decide now -- just hang out with both of them and see what happens. If you get along with both of them as friends, there's no problem with that! You may realize that you're better off as friends with one of them, or both of them, so just play it cool until you decide!

Meghan D.

by isyrocks on 12/24/2011 12:25:42 PM

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My bgf has this girl he likes, but i don't like her. All my other bgf's like great girls, and it makes me smile to see them together, but not this one. I was once at a bday party with her and she was acting like she was too cool for everyone, even the bday girl! My friend that likes her says he can't see her doing that, but I'm worried. I'm really trying to like her, but there's something that's keeping me from liking her. Last time this happened (when i was trying to bring myself to like a girl but i couldn't and i didn't know why) she ended up kissing the guy (different guy), then telling him she was just using him to get stuff (he has a very wealthy family). After that I understood why I didn't like her, so I'm worried it's something like that again. What do I do?

If you've done your best to talk to your friend and he won't listen, the only thing you can do now is hope you're wrong, and be there for him if he gets hurt. (And don't say you told him so, even if you want to!)

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by naomiii on 12/24/2011 11:16:08 AM

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I have a acting class today, and I need to come prepared with ideas for my monologue. They need to be about an experience I've had. Any Ideas? Thanks

If you want to be festive, why not talk about something memorable that happened to you in a past holiday season? Or something fun or memorable that happened with your friends or fam? Choose something you remember clearly so you can speak a lot about it! Good luck and have fun!

by txtingirl on 12/24/2011 11:07:13 AM

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Theres this guy that really likes me, i sort of like him. I have a feeling i shouldnt date him though cause he has a lot of friends but sometimes hes considered a jerk. I dont know what to do cause idk if i should date someone who is not liked by alot of people

If you like this guy, go for it! Base your opinion on how he treats you, not on hearsay. But be careful, and don't stay with him if he does anything rude to you!

by abbygirl12 on 12/24/2011 10:29:21 AM

Totally agree <3

by fungirl123 on 12/24/2011 10:08:52 AM

I wouldn't worry about dating this young. I just have an amazing BGF who is so supportive- so much better than a boyfriend because there is no pressure!

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by basketballcutie11 on 12/24/2011 7:55:06 AM

Ya all the guys i know are really goofy

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