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He's got a new GF! Still smitten, or just jealous?

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I recently broke up with a guy that I can't get over. He got a new girlfriend the day after I broke up with him, but now I feel like I want to get back together with him, without hurting his new girlfriend's feelings. What should I do?

Breaking up is never fun and the decision to do so can be very difficult to make. It can be super hard to get over you ex, especially when they move on to someone else quickly and you do not.

I think in your particular case, you actually made the right decision in breaking up with your boyfriend. If he had a new girlfriend the very next day after you broke up one of two things is going on: 1. he is trying to make you jealous or 2. he was not fully invested in the relationship to begin with. Either way it sounds as though he is very immature. Jumping to a new girl right after you two broke up shows he had no respect for your relationship.

While it is very nice that you don’t want to hurt the new girl’s feelings, it's probably smart not to get back together with him. Occupy your time with a fun new hobby and delving into you schoolwork to keep your mind off of him, and before you know it you will be over him. There are plenty of nice guys who would respect the relationship you have with them, so take a break from guys for a while until you find a sweet guy to crush on.

BY AMANDA POOLE ON 2/19/2012 12:00:00 AM

Ok so..it all started 2 years ago: Me and my friend met a while before this started (she's a girl 2) She had and still has a crush on a guy. Now,we live in a very big town that has 8 elementary schools and me and my friend went to 2 completely different schools on opposite sides of the town. Me and my friend both go to dance classes together and have been for many years. Back when we were in elementary school,she told me and a few of my dance friends about a guy she liked. She said they hung out At recess and all. She told us he said she was the only reason he was alive.( This was very sweet at the time,but I didn't exactly believe everything she was telling us) because there was more..I don't exactly remember it all that she said..anyway ( this is very important) I am a year older that my friend and so is the guy. Me and him are in the same grade.And when my friend and him were in elementary school,he said he would never date another girl until she caught up to elementary school. Colleen K.

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i broke up with my ex 7 months ago and we talk to each other but when he told me that he has a new girlfriend. i dont know if am jealous or i still like him what should i do?

Hey girlie,

Try to remind yourself of the reasons you broke up. The relationship wasn't working so breaking up was the right thing for both of you! It's hard being friends with an ex for this very reason - it doesn't mean you want to get back with the person, but it's completely natural to feel jealous if they move on and get a new GF. (Duh, it's always ok to move on when YOU'RE ready but it's crazy-shocking when THEY move on. It happens to all of us and we can't explain why we feel this way - but we do!) Try to take deep breaths and focus on other things. Hang out with your gals and do something that you love. Talk to a potential crush. Pick up a new hobby. Get your mind off your ex and let it sink in that he's moved on, you can move on, and it will all be ok. You weren't meant to be together - you broke up for a reason! <3

Lauren C.

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by schoneboom on 2/28/2012 3:11:39 AM

MOD MOD!! There's a group of guys and a few of them want to ask me and my friends to banquet and one of the guys in that group is taking one of the popular girls. Do you think that all the other guys will suddenly not want to go with us since one of their friends is going with the popular girl? That one guy is the only guy in that group who talks to the populars. But I don't know what I should do because I want to go to banquet with this guy and I don't want the popular girls and the one guy to change the other guys minds!! Please help!!

Hey girl,

Hopefully your guy isn't superficial enough to be influenced by someone else's decision -- what the other guy does shouldn't affect your night! If he changes his plans because of someone else, he's probably not worth your time anyway! But if he hasn't said anything now, then he's probably still planning on going with you, so relax and have fun!

Meghan D.

by SnowBoarder88 on 2/25/2012 11:16:48 AM

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i cant get over my ex. right when he broke up with me he asked out my bff on facebook i really love him, and i cant stop thinking about him. i know i should stay away from him... but i cant let go

Sorry to hear things didn't work out with your bf -- it hurts when the person you like asks out someone else. But if he's moved on, then you should too -- are there any other cuties in your class or clubs that might be interested? Try focusing your efforts on a new guy, and soon enough you'll forget about your ex! Check out this post for more tips. http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/10/12/How-can-I-get-over-my-ex.aspx

by biebersnumber1 on 2/25/2012 1:22:49 AM

Theres this guy that i dated, and he cheated on me! But he still likes me, and wants to get back together. should i trust him???

by jojo542000 on 2/23/2012 5:35:55 PM

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Okay so this is sort of a weird and maybe stupid question, but how do you know if you're in love with someone or if you just really like them?

Hey girlie,

I've never had the experience myself, but from being around many people who have, I've come to notice that when you really are in love, you don't have to ask this question. You just know. Jordan S.

by swazyelover2497 on 2/23/2012 2:22:14 PM

Hey I accidentally hurt the guy that really likes me feelings. What do I do?! I want to go up to him and say sorry but I'm way to shy and I don't want other people to hear me

by napstarr on 2/21/2012 4:36:17 PM

if you like a guy how do you tell him?

by artsy gal on 2/20/2012 4:43:37 PM

MOD MOD MOD! hi moderator Colleen K. thank you so much for the advice on my BGF. Theres another thing everyone is like Katie do you like Z? i say i don't know. because i dont, know! And they all say its either a yes or a no. I don't know what to do! <3 Katie

No problem! I'm guessing you probably don't know how you feel about him because you feel conflicted--you don't know how he feels about you and his responses are confusing. The next time someone asks you if you like him, simply say that you just think of him as a good friend. Once all of your friends stop focusing on you and Z, you'll be able to sort out your feelings. Wait a few weeks and see if you find yourself actually liking him, or just enjoying his company. Sometimes guys are just fun to be around because they're funny and goofy--it doesn't always mean that you like the guy.

Colleen K.

by coldplay12 on 2/20/2012 2:02:27 PM

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this is really confusing......
my BGF (lets call him Z) had a crush on me. well, i don't know if he does or not now because a few weeks ago two of my best friends Heidi and Olivia told me he didn't like me anymore just because i liked him a little bit more then a friend. and so then on friday Z was with one of my friend, Dylan and Dylan said Z claims he never liked me and he likes someone else. Could Dylan be lying or telling the truth? I don't know who to trust telling me all this. Also, Z was with one of my other friends Connor and I was texting connor so i told connor to tell Z i said hi and Connor said Z said I love you and i didn't believe him so Z called me from connors phone and said "well, I love you Katie" and in music class on friday (Z sits next to me) he was flirting with me and then at lunch he was sort of avoiding me. I don't know what this means. What does all this mean? Thank you soooooo much! <3 Katie

Hey girl! It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. It definitely seems like he is crushing on you, but might be embarrassed to admit it. Sometimes, guys get too macho and don't want to admit to their friends that they actually like someone. Do you like him? I would maybe ease off of things for a bit so that you don't end up getting hurt. Stay friends with him, but don't bother asking your other guy friends if he likes you or not because it doesn't seem like you'll get the truth. Maybe wait a few weeks then talk to him yourself.

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by swimmerchic96 on 2/20/2012 11:48:46 AM

Theres this guy in my class and I really like him but I don't know if he likes me back. He's the "bully" in the class but the thing is he's kinda nice to me. Some of my friends say he likes me and the other say he likes another one of my friends and I really don't know what to do.

by silverspur on 2/20/2012 10:39:26 AM

MOD...Ok so theres this guy that I like and one day i was giving him a highfive and told him that his hands are really soft and then he responded our hands just fit perfectly together...would you think he likes me?

Hey girl! It definitely sounds like he has a crush on you! Do you like him? If you do, I would try talking to him and telling him how you feel. If you're too nervous to do that, talk to one of his friends to see how he feels about you.

by keh105 on 2/20/2012 9:14:36 AM

Cont..3 of3: he does suffer with depression tho and he has broken up with his girlfriend and he really loved her or seemed to.. I met his old gf and she is really sweet and I love her a lot but I by a little jealous when she hugs him..hugging is r school thingie...but still.. I really care about this boy even tho we are just friends and I have tried to show him how much I care for him. He hasn't texted me with the same joy in a long time .i think it's his depression..I can't be sure.deep down I think I like him.ive even told several friends I feel bu hey think it's ridiculous.i don't know what I sound like right now.. Anyway, I feel like I will never have the same guy back. Idk... I feel like when we go to high school we will grow apart but I don't want to loose him as a drains.i think I love him as a friand and as a bf even tho he will prob never kno how I feel about him.i really do are and I feel like my friend never did. She hates his guts. Colleen K.

by danceheart570 on 2/20/2012 9:02:41 AM

This is continued...ok so our Middle school is only 7th and 8th grade.so her and the guy were separated since he had to go to middle school while she was in 6th grade.for her this happened in 5th grade and for me and the guy this happened in 6h grade although we didn't know each other at the time.in middle school my friend told me if we ever crossed paths don't behis friend.which I never met him until now 8th grade.now that she moved up to 7th grade she has easy access to him and me. I love my friend a lot and I want to see her move on. She still goes on about how he was her first love..but she hates him now.. I have met him and I sit at his lunch table..he is the sweetest boy in he world and I have never had such a lose friendship with a boy. He is so nice and I love him a lot. We have exchanged numbers back in December . When we would text he used to put all these cut little faces and say l.o.l. And stuff but now he doesn't anymore.he doesn't text with the same happiness and cont....

by danceheart570 on 2/20/2012 8:53:48 AM

by danceheart570 on 2/20/2012 8:43:07 AM

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So my crush is really serious and mature, but he still has a playful side and a sense of humor. Whenever I'm around him, I get serious and mature too. How do I get him to know/notice my playful side?

Hey girl! What do you enjoy doing with your friends to show your playful side? Just because he is serious doesn't mean that you need to be serious all the time, too. Make a funny joke when you're around him or tell him to check out a recent youtube video that has had you laughing. Just act as you would with your friends when you're around him--he'll be sure to notice!

by Jambajuice on 2/20/2012 1:03:47 AM

OMG I'm going through about the same thing! Still working on getting over the guy and this article really helped. Thx!

by EveryOneCanSparkle on 2/19/2012 11:48:01 AM

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So, I wanted to ask: which razor works better: Electric or disposable? I also wanted to know which shaving cream works the best so that your legs aren't all scratchy with hair when you're done shaving. I really want my legs to be smooth as if there is no hair there. Plz reply ASAP.

I answered your first question last night - disposable is my choice. To prep your legs, wash them with soap and a loofah to exfoliate. A steamy warm shower is great because it'll help open your pores so you can shave as close to the skin as possible. Then, use your shave gel (I love Skintimate) to really cover your legs. Then, shave! Rinse off the razor after each swipe so you don't get it clogged up with hair

by lolapuppys on 2/19/2012 10:35:15 AM

oh i hope you get over him or figure out away to tell him. sorry sweetie

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