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Do guys go for shy girls?


 
Do guys like shy/quiet girls? I'm a quiet girl and it just seems like all the guys like the loud girls better.


His Answer: “We tend to like girls who are similar to our own personalities and,” says Jesse, 14, “so if we are loud and energetic, generally we like girls who are as well.”


Decoded: Just because you are quiet doesn’t mean that guys don’t like you at all. Some guys may be attracted to louder and more outgoing girls because that is their personality as well. But there are some quiet guys out there waiting to be found as well.


Your Move: Opposites don’t always attract, so work on finding a guy who is similar to you. A super energetic guy would be to overbearing for your quiet personality so someone on your same level would make you feel more at ease and comfortable. And for every guy that is rowdy, there is another one who is just as shy as you are, so keep on looking!
 

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hi er...i`ve never gone on one of these sites before but i would REALLY appreciate some advice. See there`s this guy i used to like (last year) who stopped talking to me after he moved up a set in science and i got over him after a while because i found out he has a girlfriend. But lately i sometimes catch him looking at me and i think he sometimes is about to talk to me but someone always cuts in (mostly girls). And whenever im near him he always brags about his NEW girlfriend (he broke up with the one he went out with when i used to like him). Whats going on? Do you think he likes me or wants to makes sure i DONT like him? If you could tell me what his possibly thinking and how i should act i would really appreciate it! Thanks!
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by blue98 on 4/6/2012 2:53:32 PM

 
 

In my case, opposites attract.

by Gabriella123 on 3/15/2012 8:57:33 PM

 
 

first if you like the guy who kept flowing you hang out with him at the BBQ get to know him better then tell him you like him

by turtles121400 on 3/9/2012 8:17:07 PM

 
 

i am going insane!!!! my life is totally mixed up , i am homeschooled and my only friends are a lot older than i am so i do not do much with them , but i was at a convention a few weeks ago and there was a really sweet guy that was following me and i know his gramma so i was talking to her and just as she was saying " oh my , you've gotten so pretty!!" sam walks up and starts talking to her he never talks directly to me but he always is staring at me, i turned around and he was pointing me out to his older bro!!! then i spotted him staring at me ! it get worse!! his family and my family are going to have a big BBQ on may 6 ,,, what do i do?

by dani domo kun on 3/7/2012 7:00:59 PM

 
 



Dear Mod,
I have never been asked out before so therefore have never had a boyfriend or a first kiss and so on but there is this boy that seems to REALLY like me and my friends heard him talking about asking me out. I'm totally terrified because i have no idea what to say or what to do if he does ask me out. I'm not sure if i would say yes because i have no idea how i would tell my parents I'm dating someone especially because my dad is like my best friend who thinks I'm a strong independent girl. I also don't know if I would say yes because,well I'm completely terrified because i have absolutely no clue what you are supposed to do when you have a boyfriend like who's friends do you hang out with, what room to hang out in at home or even just how to act around him. I was never one of those popular girls that hangs around with boys 24/7 so i have no idea how to act in any way. Please help me!!




Hey girlie,

You can still be a strong, independent girl while enjoying getting to know a guy. It doesn't make you "weak" or a lesser person to date someone! It's also NOT smart to say no to something just because you're afraid. Sure it's a strange situation - you don't know what to do, what to say, or how to act because you've never done it before. But that doesn't mean you should let yourself freak out and run away from it. The only way you'll get better at it and more comfy with it is if you EMBRACE it and give it a try! First off, if he asks you out and you want to go out with him... there's no complex way to answer him. Tell him, "Sure, I'd love to." then follow it with a smile. As for telling your parents, let them know you've been getting to know this guy and he's great - he treats you with respect, he's sweet and smart, and you'd really like to get to know him better. He asked you to the movies (for example) and you'd really like to go, so you wanted to tell them first and make sure they're ok with it. Be honest! <3




Honestly, with most of it, you'll learn as you go along. Don't stress about whose friends you hang out with and little stuff like that - it's all about balance! You'll spend time with your friends and his, as well as time "just the two of you." If you're at home with him, chances are your parents will tell you to stay in the family room or on the porch - I wouldn't push it and try to hang out in the bedroom. Just treat him like a close friend who you can talk to, ask questions, and be yourself around! Let things happen naturally and just focus on enjoying your time together. You'll figure it out Smile
Lauren C.

by lovinglife51 on 3/4/2012 11:07:28 AM

 
 



Mod Mod Mod
Could these be signs that my crush likes me...? He is normally very comfortable and chatty with people, but with me he can't look me in the eye and he barely speaks except to agree with me (like if we're discussing stuff for classwork), and even then it's usually because I directly ask him what he thinks. I'm really shy and get super nervous around him too so I either can't talk at all, or I start talking and then can't shut up (lol). When we pass in the hall he makes eye contact and he looks like he's about to say something but then it's too late...he has lots of female friends which sort of makes me jealous but he treats me differently so...idk he never really talks to me and I have asked him to hang out a few times in the past but he says he's busy, also his grandma (who he lives with) is really strict about him focusing on his studies and doesn't allow him to date but is that enough to make him act this way...? Sorry this was so long lol @_@ but what do you think??




Hey girlie,

It's hard to tell for sure unless he speaks up and admits it, but the fact that he treats you differently than his female friends says a lot. And he seems nervous/awkward around you, which could mean he's not sure how to act because of a crush. What you have to do is take a deep breath, swallow that shyness, and talk to him. Not nervous jabbering - ask him a question about his interests, his family, his weekend plans, music recommendations, homework... SOMETHING to get him talking. If you get to know him even better and get comfy talking around each other, you'll be in way better shape Smile 
Lauren C.

by Celesse on 3/4/2012 1:41:53 AM

 
 

My personality is extremely varying. So i have to find a guy with the same personality as me? great.

by biffo on 3/4/2012 1:18:33 AM

 
 

Thx for answering my question!!!

by amileofroses on 3/4/2012 12:54:51 AM

 
 



MOD MOD! This guy that I like told his guy friend and my friend that he wants to take me to our end of 8th grade dance at the end of April and he said that in November and also in January and I used to talk to him a lot last year in 7th grade and now we don't talk that much anymore and he told my friend the other day that he doesn't know if hes gonna take me because he thinks I'll freak out when he asks me to the dance. But I wouldn't like literally freak out! Plus I'm super shy and I think that's why he doesn't talk to me anymore but I'm scared did I ruin it? Will he still wanna take me? I really wanna talk to him but I'm nervous!! 




Hey girl,

You gotta get rid of that shyness! Fear and nerves have messed up many crush situations in the past, so don't let that happen here. Try talking to him a little more from now on - not a LOT because he'll know something is up, but just more than normal. Take a deep breath and leave the shyness out of the mix. Ask him questions about himself (his interests, weekend plans, family and friends, hobbies) to show you're interested and want to hear what he has to say. Be friendly and warm so he gets more comfy around you. If he feels better around you, he probably won't be so scared that you'll "freak out" if he asks you Smile
Lauren C.

by FigureSkater08 on 3/3/2012 7:05:17 PM

 
 



mod mod mod
How do you know what a boy is thinking? THX (and i know that there isnt a definite way, but a clues?)




Hey girlie,

Man, if we could answer that question...we'd have ALL the answers! But we try our best by asking trusted guy friends about common dating/crush situations. Check out our Ask Bill & Dave articles and our What Guys Think tabs for real advice from real guys! It's also good to get to know the guy better as friends. The closer you are to him, the more you'll understand how he acts when he feels certain ways! It might be a way to get some insight Smile
Lauren C.

by 1pumpkin2001 on 3/3/2012 5:04:09 PM

 
 



MOD!
Ok, so I really like this amazing guy named Jesse who goes to my school. He's really nice, smart, athletic, and not to mention HOT, but I'm pretty much a weird nobody at our school and he's really popular, so I don't think he even knows who I am. I mean, we're in most of the same classes, but he's always with his guy friends so I can never talk to him. Also, I'm really shy and nervous around him, so I don't know how to talk to him without giving it away that I like him (I want to get to know him more first). How do I talk to him without giving my secret crush away?
Thanks!




Hey girlie,

The best thing to do is try to catch him one-on-one - maybe while he's at his locker, heading to an after school activity, walking home after class. That way, he's not influenced by what his crew thinks and will probably be able to have a normal convo with you! You could also chat online instead of in person - that way, you can get to know him better as a friend while also breaking the ice. It gives you more time to think about what you're going to say, helps you sort out your responses...and you'll be way more comfy around him if you've had successful convos online first. As for not giving your crush away, just keep things friendly for now. Treat him like another one of your friends and ask him questions about his interests, hobbies, fave sports and music, family, friends, weekend plans, etc. Seem interested, but also try not to flirt or tease him too much. That might give away your crush - but if you keep things relaxed and friendly, he won't suspect a thing Smile
Lauren C.

by st8cfab on 3/3/2012 4:12:26 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!!
Well i am usually shy & queit in class because i care about my grades but at break time i am a totally different person (louder) do guys like that? Because thats how i am and i dont really want to change my personality for a guy..????
HELP?




Hey girlie,

I think guys like a girl who is confident, happy, and totally relaxed in her own skin. You're right, you shouldn't change your personality for ANYONE. If he's right for you, a guy will love you for who you are Smile 
Lauren C.

by dancer0014 on 3/3/2012 2:24:55 PM

 
 

Hey @Nerdyprincessxo I think you shouldn't lose weight because if your really 5'9 you would be to thin if you lost to much weight that's what happened to me and I had to got on a diet to gain weight because I thought I was fat when it was mostly because of how tall I am Smile but you should do whtatever is best for yoi

by iluvlogan on 3/3/2012 1:42:07 PM

 
 

mod mod mod!!!
I really like one of my good guy friends. ever since we exchanged numbers on Valentine's Day(how ironic!!)we've talked almost every single day, and for at least 3 hours everytime!! last saturday when we were texting, we kept asking what the other was doing and the whole time he was:typing a paper, hanging out with his brother, then slept over at a friends' house. not ONCE did he say he had to go, which meant he wanted to keep talking right? and after his practices he always texts me back right away. also last night when we talked,he complimented me and winked a lot. could he like me? it's great when we're texting, but in person, we kinda ignore eachotherFrown how can i fix that?

Hey girl,

He probably did want to talk since he kept responding, but he may just be talking to you since you're good friends! If he's complimenting you, that's a good sign! If you like talking to him while texting, start a casual conversation about anything -- school, friends, etc. in person. It will be easier to get to know each other if you talk face-to-face!

Meghan D.

by karategirl78 on 3/3/2012 12:45:19 PM

 
 

This is helpful. I am supper shy and I am often worried my crush won't like me.

by Glitterheart16 on 3/3/2012 12:01:02 AM

 
 

~~~MOD~MOD~MOD~~~
okay..so I really like this guy, we've been talking alot lately, the other day we were skyping for like 30 minutes and he told me that he really wants a gf and was asking if i was into anyone and he tells me that he thinks i'm cute and said he wants to hang out, the other day at a bball game we were by each other the whole time and talking and flirting and stuff and then we hugged after and he's super sweet and i think he likes me???....but here's the problem haha he's a senior..i'm a freshman (but he's 17 and i'm 15 so it's not that big of diff) and he's black...only like a quarter cuz his mom's white and his dad is half but i'm not allowed to date black guys so i don't really know what to do....should i talk to my parents or wait and see if it starts to become more of a relationship??
thanks for the help!

Hey girl,

It sounds like he likes you, so if you want to hang out, you should! Age differences can be important when you're young, so I would be careful and just make sure you're on the same page. As for your parents and race ... it can be difficult to have conversations about equality with people of other generations, so you can tell your parents what a great guy he is but they may not budge. Racism is never okay, but it's also not a good idea to go against your parents. If talking to them doesn't go anywhere, try talking to a trusted adult like a different family member, teacher or guidance counselor for professional advice. Good luck!

Meghan D.

by beauty4girls on 3/2/2012 11:56:20 PM

 
 

The other day my friend asked my crush if he likes me.. he said no because i text him to much. is this good?

Hey girl,

I'm not sure I would say that's good -- maybe you should let him text you first next time so that he'll want to talk more!

Meghan D.

by love4321 on 3/2/2012 11:22:49 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!!!
I wear like 200 pounds an I'm 13 and 5'9 and I have a great smile and school spirit and pride and my teacher said I should try out for cheer by may. How could I became more flexible and weigh less for my physical

Hey girl,

That's awesome you want to try out for cheerleading -- good luck at the tryouts! I would talk to a doctor and gym teacher before starting a diet and exercise plan. Check out our health and fitness channel for workout and recipe ideas!

Meghan D.

by Nerdyprincessxo on 3/2/2012 11:11:23 PM

 
 

Mod mod
Im totally shy, how do i break outta my shell??

Hey girl,

Tons of chicas are shy, so don't feel weird about it! If you want to break out of your shell a bit, enlist in the help of an outgoing pal. Find someone who loves being the center of attention, and spend time with her -- she'll bring you into the spotlight without overwhelming you. Talking to new people in one-on-one conversations is also a less-intimidating way to meet new people.

Meghan D.

by Cherries51 on 3/2/2012 10:58:21 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!
ok so my mom has been super stressed our lately and the past couple days she's been talking to my dad and she just starts crying. it makes me so sad but I don't want to talk to my mom about it because she was the one crying and i don't want to make her even more sad. i don't know what to do and i'm super worried! any advice would be great!
PLEASE HELP!

Hey girl,

I'm so sorry to hear that your mom is sad. It's okay to let her know that you're worried about her -- you can show her this article and suggest that she visit some of the resources listed, which have hotlines and people who can offer professional advice. She'll be happy that you care about her, and she'll have resources to get help if she wants it! If all else fails, a simple hug or kind gesture can work wonders. http://www.girlslife.com/post/2008/08/04/HELP!2.aspx

Meghan D.

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by sloaneygirl84 on 3/2/2012 10:03:57 PM

 
 

**MOD**
My ex bf broke up with me about two months ago out of the blue. HE said he didn't feel like hanging out with me anymore. We were really close and now he acts like I don't exist. He turned into a completely different person in just two days. He's so superficial and shallow now and I don't like the new him. But for some reason I can't let go. He used to be so sweet and nice and now he's the opposite of that. I feel so conflicted whenever I see him. I have 3 classes with him, the same lunch period, and track practice with him every day after school. Its like I can't get away from him. What can I do to move on and let go?

Hey girl,

If he's moved on then unfortunately you should too! Try making more efforts to talk to some new cuties at school or in extracurriculars, and hang out with friends more to take your mind off him. Check out this post for more tips! http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/10/12/How-can-I-get-over-my-ex.aspx

Meghan D.

by shimmergirl on 3/2/2012 9:18:13 PM

 
 



ModModModModModx5!
Hi! Well, I've been dating this guy for like 9 months or so...and hes like AWESOME...and I like him back, but part of me is saying I don't, while the other is saying I do, and I am really confused! Can you help me? Thanks!

 

Hey! Just try to think of what life would be like if you weren't dating and if you're ok with that then maybe you should break up 


Helen S.

by LCV554 on 3/2/2012 8:31:29 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
so my bgf found out that i like him and now he wont talk to me. its been almost two weeks since we actually spoke and he avoids me! i hate it! i really liked being friends with him! what do i do??!??

 

Hey! You just have to wait it out, but don't worry he'll come around eventually. 


Helen S.

by sarahcate91596 on 3/2/2012 8:03:16 PM

 
 



mod mod mod
This is good to know, but I'm a shy girl, and I like a guy who is loud and obnixious (totally not in a bad way;) I even told him I liked him (he said he wasnt expecting it)Im homeschooled and he goes to a private school. We know eachother from church and my best friend has a twin brother and my crush is best firends with my besties bro so when i go the my bffs house sometimes her brother has my crush over. Im like crushed from this "do guys go for shy girls?" post. Now I feel like I can never be anything with my crush. I mean Im only 13 so its not like im really old enough to have something...idk will someone give me some kind of advice?? anything! Smile please? (sorry this was so long)

 

Hey! You can totally be with your crush Smile I know the article wasn't intended to make you feel that way. it's just that a lot of GL articles tend to be from the "what do guys think of girls" vain, so just know that whenever it says something like that the opposite is absolutely true too. Girls go for shy AND loud guys as well. 


Helen S.

by nrm421 on 3/2/2012 7:53:58 PM

 
 



Mod Mod Mod! So my semi's tomorrow and I'm not sure what to do with my hair. I have a cocktail length dress with a puffy skirt if that helps I just don't know what I should do ?

 



Helen S.

by ladyinlike on 3/2/2012 7:44:46 PM

 
 



MOD PLEASE HELP.
okay so I asked this guy out on valentine's day that I only liked a little bit. He thought it was a dare and said no. I told him later that it wasn't a dare and he didn't change his mind.
Well apparently everyone I mean EVERYONE found out and now EVERYONE knows I'm sweet on him and the terrible thing is, now I REALLY like him. yes it sucks like heck. We used to be great friends before and a little bit after I asked him out but now he COMPLETELY ignores me. My friends think he likes me now but I'm not so sure. why is he doing this? it kind of hurts me, in a way. Frown PLEASE help me.

 

hey! I'm sorry. Guys can be intimidated sometimes when a girl likes them. They don't know how to handle it so they ignore it. I think you should give him some space for a while, then gradually start talking again and you'll be friends again in no time. 


Helen S.

by Nikichic on 3/2/2012 7:37:44 PM

 
 

well GL, I suppose you're right. b/c if you're too quiet and never show your personality that might turn some guys off, but it can also turn guys off if you are loud & obnoxious...so yeah it depends, really Smile

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by svds on 3/2/2012 6:09:53 PM

 
 

It's nice to know that guys go for different types of girls. I'm really quiet during classes. I feel better now! Smile

by Terra Rose♥ on 3/2/2012 4:48:41 PM

 
 

Yes, and then if he IS as shy as I am, we'll never go out because he'll be too scared to ask him out, and I sure couldn't ask him out.

by Dawnstar on 3/2/2012 3:46:22 PM

 
 

MODMOD
So i just had knee surgery yesterday and have to wear this big brace from the top of my thigh to my ankle. all i can think of to wear when i go back to school is like running shorts or something. any ideas? i tried a skirt but it just looks wierd. thanks




Hey girl! So sorry about your surgery but glad you are okay! A dress is a comfortable and easy way to dress up and bit, and one that is more form fitting may look a little better than one that is loose and flowy. Also, if you can put leggings on under your cast and then paired with an oversized sweater is a chic way to look nice and comfy for school.  
Ana D.

by baileybluu on 3/2/2012 2:02:15 PM

 
 

That's good to know.

by Rosethe1 on 3/2/2012 1:44:59 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
I just found out that one of my best friends and my other friend like the same guy! But they don't know that they both like him....what should I do?




hey girl! Although it is a sticky situation, sometimes the best thing to do is just stay out of it. You are not certain that both of them will make a move so just wait it out and see what happens. But getting too involved could be worse than what may happen.  
Ana D.

by applea123 on 3/2/2012 12:17:38 PM

 
 

This is good to hear, I'm pretty quiet and I feel the same way Smile

by applea123 on 3/2/2012 12:16:36 PM

 
 

MODMODMODMODMOD
In health class, we were assigned to make a 4 wk workout plan. It has to be all cardio and strength. We need to plan 20 workouts at 5x a week! I kno girlslife has tons of workouts, and I'm looking on here as well as other sites. Could you help me come up with some workouts? Ana D.

by crush2010 on 3/2/2012 11:29:11 AM

 
 

Mod Mod Mod!
In health class, we got an assignment to make an exercise paln for one month at 5x per week. At this we need to have 20 different workouts. I have no clue what to do!




Hey girly. Planks, side twists, squats, and crunches are all a good place to start. Plus, you take some of those up a level by adding weights or push up in between each rep. Running after is always a good idea too to add some cardio.  
Ana D.

by crush2010 on 3/2/2012 11:01:29 AM

 
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