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I figured out what an endoscopy is. I called my doctor and asked her and she said its when they put this tube with a little video camera down your throat to look at your internal organs. I'm really scared though. My doctor said she was gonna put me to sleep when they do it but what if something goes wrong? Will it hurt? The shot I mean? How can I calm myself down???!!?

Hey girl,

If they put you to sleep you won't feel it! It's normal to be nervous before surgery, but try to remember that it is good for your health and that your doc totally knows what she is doing. It will be over before you know it!

Meghan D.

by fantastic8805 on 12/3/2012 6:39:41 PM

 
 



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I dont know about you but do you think it's WEIRD that I sometimes cry in my sleep for no apparent reason? đź’‹

 

hey! not at all. When you're a teen your hormones are going crazy. That is literally a chemical imbalance in your brain that makes you feel things you don't normally feel. It's hard to get a handle on it, or pinpoint a cause, so just think happy thoughts and remember that it's not your fault Smile  


Helen S.

by twilight1001 on 7/10/2012 7:44:31 PM

 
 



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okay so I'm pretty sure I have OCD. I have almost all the symptoms, and some are just mild compared to what they could be. It doesn't really take time out of my day but it's really annoying, especially when I do things in fours or twos, touch/look at things till it 'feels right', and when I keep things that have no rhyme or reason. I'd like to try medication for it before therapy because I know why I do everything I do I just need the impulse to go away. My only problem is I don't know how to tell my mom so that she'll take it seriously, cuz if she doesn't I'm going to tell my doctor anyway but I want her to understand first. Please help. Thanks!!

 

hey! what you're going through is tough, but telling your mom is the right decision, and I know you can do it. Just tell her you have something you want to talk to her about, and tell her what you just told me. You can't make her take it seriously if she doesn't want to, but your doctor can, and that will be your next step. good luck! 


Helen S.

by British-IrishBoybands<3 on 7/3/2012 4:27:32 PM

 
 



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My friend thinks she might be pregnant she is only 14. I am really scared for her. There are so many people talking and there are people texting me that dont even know her. I know her mom would kill her if she found out because they really dont have a good relationship (she has hit her a few times) i am really scared. what should she do?




Hey girlie,

She needs to take this one day at a time. First she has to find out if she's actually pregnant - a pregnancy test and a visit to a doctor will be crucial. (She shouldn't worry about going to the doctor - Planned Parenthood and other clinics have programs set up so even minors can go, even if they can't afford it.) She has a few decisions to make here and she should talk to a doctor so she gets all the information she needs. (Talking to a counselor once she finds out will probably help too.) They've been through this before with patients who were too young to have a baby, who weren't ready to have a baby, etc. - they can support her and help her figure out where to go next <3
Lauren C.

by candycanes on 6/14/2012 9:08:06 PM

 
 



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Okay so im having family issues. Mainly with my mom. I feel like shes so unfair to me, giving me consequences for every little thing i do when my sisters do the same but they dont get consequences? I mean my mom loves givng me consequences sometimes for no good reason at all! I fell asleep for 2 hours one day so i didn't get my room done. She decides to take all my clothes from off the floor and hide them. I was only left with two pairs of pants and like five shirts. She didn't care. She also takes my phone away about once a week for little things i do! My sisters are ten times worse but they don't get punished! She is so unfair to me and idk how to handle it. Im not good with talking to her so IDK what to do! HELP PLEASEE!




Hey girlie,

I think the best thing to do is stop comparing yourself to your sibs - instead of saying "Well she made this mistake and didn't face the same consequences," avoid making that mistake in the first place! Try to stay out of trouble by doing your homework on time, taking care of your chores early so they don't pile up, and being respectful to mom, even when she frustrates you. That way, you don't even give her a reason to lash out Smile 
Lauren C.

by KatieBieber on 5/10/2012 8:48:49 PM

 
 



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I really like this guy, but he's ignoring me. Me and my two friends have videos on you-tube, so we called him and asked if he wanted to be in one. Well he took it the wrong way. He started ignoring me. Even when i talk to him he doesn't even look at me. What do i do? i CANT talk to him about it, because he won't listen to me. I'm afraid i've lost him forever. Frown

 

Hey girl, try talking to him in person or writing him a letter or e-mail. He will come around, I think he just needs some space for now. 


lauren r.

by mangagirl41789 on 5/9/2012 8:23:05 PM

 
 

I have a huge problem. I can't understand if i am fat or not. I am 11 years old, i am about 5 feet tall, and i weigh 124 lbs. IS THIS NORMAL?! Whenever i ask my friends if i'm fat, they try really hard to avoid the subject. WHAT THE HECK????!!!!

by mangagirl41789 on 5/9/2012 8:18:09 PM

 
 

I'm so sorry. I know how it feels! sometimes I do that to!
Maybe, you could ask all the people that know to keep quiet about it. I hope you feel better.
From,
Stylish873

by stylish873 on 4/17/2012 8:22:54 PM

 
 

It is so ok maybe your just going through a phase. U might just be going through puberty. If it's not I used to cry constantly for no reason! So I got a diary. Hope this helps!

by BaileyStar32 on 4/11/2012 6:07:22 PM

 
 

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Hi,i am 13 and about 5"7 so Im on the tall side a bit.I weight 159 lbs , and i know thats fat. I have a brother who is 3 years older and like 6 feet and only weighs about 5 pounds more than me!That usually makes me insecure.Does this sound fat for my age? Because the BMI tells me im overweight

 

You are quite tall for your age but you are not really overweight. You are only a few pounds over the estimated target weight for your height so I wouldn't worry about it. Don't compare yourself to your brother at all because men and women carry their body weights much differently. If you are insecure about your weight you should become more active and workout more. I think because you are young, as long as you are active you are going to be just fine. 

Amanda P.

by 732miley on 4/9/2012 3:10:48 PM

 
 

Their is nothing wrong with asking for help. I was having some issues last year and ended up seeing a therapist and she helped me alot. There is no reason to feel dorky going to the counselor. You deserve to be happy!

by fm11 on 4/7/2012 9:42:39 PM

 
 

i used to cry at school all the time when someone made fun of continuously, then i whent to the guidence counsler at my school. she made it stop, and when the bully stopped so did my crying but i sometimes cry to myself quietly when i got a bad grade on my test. but that stopped to because i just write in my diary.

by bfirework on 4/6/2012 10:16:10 AM

 
 

yeah same... so confusing!!

by <3skiing<3 on 4/3/2012 5:33:04 PM

 
 

ya. for some reason i do that too. just lately though.

by Yigyaggirl on 3/30/2012 6:21:54 PM

 
 

Its ok!!! I sometimes do that, but its only when Im feeling mixed emotions and when I remember memories. Dont be afriad to talk to your councelor unless shes anything like mine... but dont be afraid to do that.. you could also talk to your friends or a good teacher that you feel is close enough to be your friend. Its not an embarrassing thing, its something that if you talk about it, it may stop.

by BRIDES_MAID72 on 3/28/2012 11:15:44 PM

 
 

ok please help me i just got done dumping this guy 4 cheating on me and then he started to date my bff well i already had a boy friend by then and i told 3 people that they where dating and he started telling everybody i was jelous and im NOT and i told him that and he said "now u no how it feels" wat does that mean and the next day i stood up 4 myself and told him agian that i wasent jelous but he called me a b**** OMG HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by kybrowniegirl on 3/27/2012 6:13:49 PM

 
 

i have the same crying problem, but only around my period. i get terrible mood swings before and after my period so whenever something a little sad or bad happens to me a feel like screaming and crying my eyes out. if something good happens i get super excited. this issue is so annoying and i just can't stand it anymore. is there any way i can get these mood swings to lessen up?

by ashambjor on 3/24/2012 3:32:56 PM

 
 

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My mom and i argue over EVERYTHING, all the time. Now, i spend most of my time in my room, and we argue over that, too! I feel REALLY embarressed when i talk to her about anything even close to personal, but she's way to argumenative and overprotective! How do i tell her what i need, or at least not argue so much??

Hey girl,

If you want to get along better with your mom, tell her that! It's normal to fight with your parents when you're growing up, but you can also try to be more patient and understanding of her point of view. If you can't talk to her about it, you could write her a letter explaining that you don't want to fight. Explain your side of the story without getting defensive and listen to what she has to say too, and see if you can compromise on what you're disagreeing about. Good luck!

Meghan D.

by WhoAmI? on 3/24/2012 12:01:34 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD ok i have been thru a lot lately i wrecked my dads car in october when he was teaching me to drive the i fell in the mud at school then my dad his partner(he is gay) and two of their friends got in a car wreck my dad almost died that was in january and he still isnt better but thankfully he did make it and recently my bgf told me he was gay it seems like every guy i have had a strong relationship with turns out to be gay i mean i love my dad and his friends and my bgf anyway and it doesnt bother me that they are gay but i am worried i will nevr hav a bf bcuz i seem to be attracted to guys who are gay ( me and my bgf dated b4 he realized he was gay)any advice

Hey girl,

I'm glad to hear that everyone's all right -- cars can be really dangerous! Just because one guy you dated realized he was attracted to men doesn't mean that's how it will always be for you, though, so don't label yourself as having a type. When you're young, you're still figuring out who you're attracted to, so don't worry if your friends (and you) are still unsure! You'll find a great guy when the time is right who will like you back!

Meghan D.

by emandemf on 3/23/2012 11:28:51 PM

 
 

HELP!!! My mom and i argue over EVERYTHING, all the time. Now, i spend most of my time in my room, and we argue over that, too! I feel REALLY embarressed when i talk to her about anything even close to personal, but she's way to argumenative and overprotective! How do i tell her what i need: makeup, which she thinks im too young to wear, or short shorts, which are SO in, or anything else without feeling ashamed?

by WhoAmI? on 3/23/2012 7:06:16 PM

 
 



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My ex won't leave me alone! We used 2 b close friends, but then we dated and it ruined our friendship. He's a jerk and I want 2 move on but he keeps texting me. I ignored him 4 3 weeks but he didn't stop. And he has a new GF! He acts like everything is fine and then went off on me when I still wouldn't talk 2 him. I just want 2 b over him but he's making it so hard!
And also my parents r driving me crazy! They fight constantly and I get dragged into it. They've done this my whole life. They talk bad about each other 2 me and it makes me feel like crying. I can't even trust them. I try talking 2 my friends but they don't know how 2 help or they just don't care. I have 1 friend im super close 2 but she has this perfect life and she doesn't understand my probs. And I used 2 b nearly anorexic when I was little and it went away but now it's coming back. I can't tell my parents. Plz help!




Hey girl,

You need to be completely honest with your ex. Go up to him in person and tell him the texting and chatting needs to stop now - tell him you're broken up for a reason and you want to move on, so he needs to let it go. Be firm! He's basically harassing you through texts and trying to get your attention (and it doesn't seem like anything, including a new GF, will stop it), so you gotta tell him you're not interested.




As for your parents, you need to talk to them too. In a mature and calm way, ask them to please stop bad-mouthing the other in front of you. Tell them you're not picking sides because you love them both and you don't want to be involved in THEIR problems. It's toxic to constantly be around all that negativity, so ask them confidently not to bring you into their problems. Tell them you love them and you support them both always, but that you can't be involved because you're just a kid - you can't fix these things for them, so they need to stop sharing it with you <3 As long as you're honest about how you're feeling and mature about the convo, they'll listen.
Lauren C.

by Peace*Love*Converse on 3/18/2012 12:49:39 AM

 
 

Mod Mod!!! My palms are always sweaty!!! Why is this??? How can I stop this???

Hey girl,

You might be having circulation issues, so make sure you're dressing for the weather and staying hydrated by drinking lots of water! If it's a persistent thing, though, you might want to see a doc and have her tell you what's up!

Meghan D.

by music191 on 3/17/2012 10:35:43 AM

 
 

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Today my mom left for a week. I have been dreading this day for a while. The week after she gets home, I am going to see my friends in Salt Lake City. And i don't really like it at my dads house. So i wont be seeing her much. I love my mom so much and i feel like a dork but I have been crying all morning. I have been like freaking out. I have been calling her a lot. But i stopped because she needs her space. It is really getting to me. I don't know what to do.

Hey girl,

It's sweet that you miss your mom, but the good news is that she'll be back before you know it! Try spending more time with friends or doing something fun, like going out to eat or watching a movie, with your dad to distract yourself. And it's okay to call her at least to say goodnight while she's gone to show you care!

Meghan D.

by MusicalMe on 3/17/2012 10:16:43 AM

 
 

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My brother is in first grade and he just had his yearly checkup and it was not good. When it was eye test he could only read the letter E. He loves playing computer, and of course, any kind of electronic would be harmful to his eyes. So when my parents didn't let him go on the computer, he started crying. I really felt bad for him and I wanted to know if there was any possibility that his eyesight could improve without having to get contacts.

Hey girl,

Unfortunately, the only way to get real help for eyesight is to talk to an eye doctor, so support him next time he goes to a checkup and encourage your parents to get his eyes tested again if it seems like they're getting worse. It's tempting to want him to be able to play on the computer, but you have to respect the doctor's orders for him to get better!

Meghan D.

by Emilicious on 3/17/2012 12:57:47 AM

 
 

I do this sometimes still. I think i do it when i am stressed and dont admit it because when you cry your tears release a chemical that soothes stress.  Meghan D.

by oreolover123 on 3/17/2012 12:02:36 AM

 
 

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Ok so I feel like I'm the friend that everyone comes to tell their problems to (which I know is a good thing because they trust me) but when I have a problem they act like they could care less and I tried talking to my parents but my mom didn't really get my point I tried explaining it to her but she still didn't get it. And I have another prob, I was looking at a bunch of photos when I saw one of my mom and dad and me together and I started crying because my real parents never got married and I never saw them together and now they both are remarried and I feel kinda alone and I just got over getting bullied by my ex BFF can you please help thx and sorry it's so Long

Hey girl,

That is great they trust you, but you deserve to be able to open up too! Don't be afraid to talk to your pals about what's bugging you -- they might not even realize they're not being receptive to your problems! I'm sorry to hear about your parents and that it's making you sad -- the good news is that there are tons of different types of families! You're lucky to have parents who love you, whether they're your birth parents or not, so embrace what you have and focus on the positive! If you're being bullied at school, you should speak with a trusted adult such as a teacher, guidance counselor or doctor to see what you can do about it.


 
Meghan D.

by Haileygab on 3/17/2012 12:01:53 AM

 
 

Thank you, Meghan D.!

by DaNcInGQu33N9812 on 3/16/2012 11:55:54 PM

 
 

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Okay, this is kinda off-subject, but I need advice! So I'm kinda confused about what body shape I am. I just got done reading the article about body shapes here on GL, but I still can't figure it out.At first I thought I was hourglass, but my waist doesn't really nip in that much. Also my shoulders and thighs are pretty muscular from dancing. Thank you so so so so much and sorry about the long comment!

Hey girl,

That sounds like an hourglass even if your waist isn't as drastically smaller than the rest of you. You can fake a more dramatic hourglass by adding a waist belt to your outfit or wearing a fitted top and full skirt. if you're still confused when you're shopping, the people at the store can help you find what will look best on your body. I hope that helps!

Meghan D.

by DaNcInGQu33N9812 on 3/16/2012 11:40:30 PM

 
 

I cry at night all the time too. It helps me sleep, which is an advantage, but crying is no fun, especially if it's for a particular reason. I'd feel strange too if I had to talk to a counselor.

by 1corinthiansgurl on 3/16/2012 11:11:51 PM

 
 

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I feel weird opening up to a teacher in school who has helped me alot this school year I met him because I was in trouble and he is my year head and everytime I have a problem about teachers being mean or something I go to him. Well today I went to his office when the bell went to go to first period because it was the class I had a prob with I decided to go then. I went to his office and chapped the door and he answered and I said I need to talk to you and he said sorry I'm busy the now I'll come and find you when I'm free so he did and the first thing he said was are you ok? And I was I just needed him to come help me talk to a teacher who had been bugging me. He was ok with it he helped etc and listened but does he want me to open up? If I ever do have a problem Im really not sure how to go about talking to him etc.

Hey girl,

Teachers only want you to open up to them as much as you're comfortable, so don't feel pressured to say anything you don't want to! If you want to talk to a different teacher or guidance counselor who you're more comfortable with, that's fine too! If you have a serious problem to talk about, this article has hotlines and resources where you can get professional advice. http://www.girlslife.com/post/2008/08/04/HELP!2.aspx

Meghan D.

by InsideOutKid on 3/16/2012 9:30:01 PM

 
 

I know exactly what you mean. My last boyfriend says that I get too emotional too eaisily. I think that he's right. I am always either super happy, super depressed, super angry, or super out of it. I don't know why I am this way. if anyone has an answer, or even a suggestion as to why I have these extreme emotions, please write me back.

by MollyMoster on 3/16/2012 9:15:10 PM

 
 

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Ok so I'm leaving for vacation tomorrow and my period ended Wednesday, it had been like 30 days before my last period, if that makes sense? So pretty much it was 30 days before my last period which lasted until Wednesday. I've been working out a lot because of track and yesterday I did a ton of crunches. My side, near my abs has just started hurting. Do you think I'm fine? Or do you think my period's coming again?

Hey girl,

Your side is probably hurting because it's sore from your exercises, not because of your period. Try doing some stretches to make it less sore. As for your period, bring some pads or tampons on vacation with you in case it comes while you're there. Don't worry about when it's coming, though -- it'll still be a great vacation whether or not you have your period! Have a great trip!

Meghan D.

by quest6c on 3/16/2012 8:16:36 PM

 
 

I do the same thing, and then after that I feel better about myself. I have no idea why.

by dancingirl1613 on 3/16/2012 8:08:10 PM

 
 



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Ugh. My mother is my problem.
Okay, so I really love writing. I've always loved writing. But my mom is always telling me that I can't sit at a computer all the time and that I need to find something to do. But writing is my hobby.
Mom just can't stop telling me to Join a sport, join a club, or something else.
But I hate playing sports! I'm already involved at enough AT school! But she IS NOT an understanding person. She never listens no matter HOW I approach her.
What should I do?? Frown

 

Hey! maybe if you kept a journal on pen and paper she wouldn't object as much. give it a try Smile 


Helen S.

by fungirl123 on 3/16/2012 5:36:33 PM

 
 

I do the same thing. I cry for absolutely no reason, and if I do have a reason, I'm not able to sleep until I pass out.

by msharkgirl on 3/16/2012 5:09:51 PM

 
 



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So we moved 3 years ago and I looked up my old bff on my sis's fb account and now I really want to 'reconnect' with her and actually talk...but im not allowed to have fb, and it would be awkward if I used my sis's account so I have no idea what to do. B4 we wrote normal emails but then later we ran out of things to write about and the last time i wrote her an email she didnt answer. Frown
Any ideas?

 

Hey! do you guys im? maybe you can stay in touch that way? 


Helen S.

by imblonde5678 on 3/16/2012 5:05:49 PM

 
 

sad

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