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I always like a guy for a long time, no matter what. I just got over someone, and now I like a new guy. I’m afraid to show my interest because I’ll keep liking him even if he doesn’t like me back. He’s popular; I’m not. Should I go for it or try to move on?

Dear Afraid to Love Again,

Here’s what you should not do: stalk him in the hall, IM him 24/7, put his cell number on your speed dial, or tell friends to get the word out that you’re ready when he is. But feel free to smile in his direction, say “hi,” ask a friendly question, and maybe even compliment him on his winning goal or class presentation. Take tiny steps to gauge the warmth of his reaction. As for declaring that, once you like someone, you’re stuck liking him for life? Surprise yourself by changing your ways. This boy is only one of thousands in your community. If he’s nice and attentive, he may hold your interest. If not, you have the power to get out of a one-way crush.

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 3/28/2012 12:00:00 AM

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Ok, so I've had this crush since he came to my school, which was November. Lets say his name is Josh, but not really. And one of my best friends ( Let's say her name is Abi, but not really) is now dating him. All my friends are like "maybe she didn't know". But she was the first to know I liked 'josh'.'Abi' did said she felt bad, but I told her it was ok. But really, I've cried 8 times. I didn't tell her I was mad about it, cuz I felt that I wouldn't be nice, and she would take it like I want them to break up. I feel bad to say it, but I had wished they never got together. Everyone thinks that's it's wrong that she broke girl code, but they could care less on how I feel. I don't know what to do. Should I tell her how I feel? This is like, my first big crush at somebody at my school, and I dont know what to do. PLEASE RESPOND
~Beca<3

Hey girlie,

This is a definite girl code 'no go'. First off, you shouldn't have told her it was okay when it really wasn't, babe! How's she supposed to just know that it's not?

I think you should tell her how you feel. There's no guarantee that it will get you what you want and will break them up, but it will feel good to get it off your chest. Jordan S.

MOD MOD MOD! my boyfriends friends tell me he's mad at me but when i asked him he said he wasn't and i trust my boyfriend but i'm still kinda afraid he is mad at me... so what should i do?

If he said he's not mad just trust him. If you keep bugging him about it that could make him mad.

Amanda P.

by peace happiness on 4/4/2012 4:20:30 PM

by Beca:p on 4/2/2012 7:15:40 PM

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Ok, when i was 7, i met these three guys. Alex and his bro Brett, and their cuz Tyrell(he is outgoin, so he is like their microfone...litraly). Alex and i were really good friends, but now i like him. Thanks to my older brother he knows.
My mom thinks he likes me, but i dont know:
1. Last time they visited, my mom said he came to the door with Tyrell and kept wiprin 2 him, n Ty wood voic it. Finly, they askd for me. I was gone!
2. at a dance, Ty came frum bhind n pokd me, n he tried 2 get me 2 chase him ovr 2 alex n bret, n bret was lafin n pokn alex, hoo wuz blushn.
3. I hrd al ask bret 2 ask me to go 2 the park with him.
These r good reasons, but then, he never talked 2 me directly last time they visited and he doesnt go near me.
HELP!!!
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Hey girlie,

It doesn't sound definite. But, in the end, do you really want to get involved with somebody who you only see on "visits". If he didn't talk to you directly last time you'd seen each other even though you used to be really close, it doesn't sound like he's real sure of how he feels anymore. Jordan S.

by Danerka on 4/2/2012 5:51:08 PM

I really like this guy in my class. He almost found out, but I quickly covered it up. I stopped liking him for a while afterward, then realized that I still liked him. He liked another girl in our grade, but, hee hee, the music teacher busted him for it. He stopped liking her and told me that he liked someone else. He winked at me, but I kinda brushed it off. I thought it couldnt be possible. What should I do? I really want him to ask me out, and I'm too shy to ask him out. HELP!!!

by the_girl_in_goal on 4/1/2012 6:12:13 PM

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My friend has a crush on the same guy I like. He doesn't like her and he likes me cause he flirts with me and we went out once. But I went to his house ............ At night last night. He must think ima weirdo now cause I asked him if he was going to the park today. Should I just stop talking to him cause I don't want him asking about last night???? Please help!!!!!!

Hey girl,

So wait, you went to his house to visit him? Or without him knowing? Did you knock or just sit outside? A little confusing, but either way try to stay calm. Be cool and don't act awkward - then he'll be more calm and relaxed about it too. It's always smart to take a step back if you're feeling like you're coming on too strong/talking too often, but you don't need to stop talking to him altogether! Just try to take a deep breath and find that balance of talking to him juuuust enough. And always be yourself

Lauren C.

by misstomboy1 on 4/1/2012 10:54:36 AM

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