My best friend's boyfriend told me he liked me a little and said not to tell
her. Should I worry?
Uh-oh, babe, this should definitely send up a warning signal for you. Considering he told you without her knowing, and then also tossed out there
that you shouldn’t tell her either, it sounds to me like he’s hiding some
secrets. As her BFF, you don’t want him
hiding things from her, do you? I know
you don’t want her getting hurt!
Before you decide what to do about the situation you need to tackle a feel
questions for yourself: Do you feel the
same way about him? Is he still
trustworthy? Is it still safe for your
bff to be investing her heart in this boy if he’s keeping secrets?
What makes these situations most tricky is when you have some underlying
feelings for him. It also brings up some
red flags on his part. When he can have
a secret as serious as liking his girlfriend’s best friend, what’s that say
about what other things he may be hiding from her?
You have three options here: One, you could tell your best friend. Let
her know that it may be harmless but that you’re always considering her first. Two, you could sit him down and talk it out. Make sure he doesn’t have any other secrets like this and that he cares
for her. Then tell him that you enjoy
being friends but you’d never consider getting involved in a love triangle with
your best gal. Three, you can ignore it and hope that it never evolves into anything damaging.
Give this some real thought, chica. This
could have all kinds of problems if gone about poorly.
BY JORDAN SARNOVSKY ON 3/31/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bff, bust my bestie problem, guys, GL's best guy advice, guy friend Q & A, cheating 411