Ever had a frenemy who you secretly want to be best buds
with? Sure you disagree about things now and then or argue over boys, but
way down deep, you two are one of the same. Crossing the friendship line with
some people may seem downright impossible, but surprisingly enough, it’s really
not that hard. Here are our tricks:
Find a common middle ground
Both of you have an affinity for sports? A love for shopping? A fondness for
pets? Take it from there and plan to hang out doing whatever that connection
is. Two gals who dig sports can go to their school’s home game, the ones
who love digging through the racks can take a trip to the mall and you pet
lovers can volunteer at an animal shelter together.
Figure out what had you two butting heads to begin with
Your disagreements had to begin somewhere, babe. Your biggest task is
overcoming those differences so that you can become real BFFs. Tackle ‘em
head on with a face-to-face chat. Is it over boys? Lay down some guy
guidelines. Feel like one of you never properly listens to the other? Talk
Fake it ‘till you make it
If you act like you’re best
friends and spend more time around each other, then you’ll gradually grow
closer without even trying. If it makes you feel uncomfortable being by
yourself with her when you’re not quite friends yet, go for a
group outing type of thing. Invite a bunch of your girls out to the movies.
But be sure to sit next to the frenemy and chat her up while you’re out. Before
you know it, your probs with this new-found pal will be history!
Have you got a frenemy you want to turn friend? Or is it too far gone to try?
BY JORDAN SARNOVSKY ON 10/9/2014 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, good friend, bad friend, 411 on fighting with friends, how can I make new friends, Frenemies