For example, say your BFF did something that hurt your
feelings, but you never told her how upset you were. If you keep bottling up
your feelings, you’ll resent her company and your friendship will fall apart.
It’s time to air that dirty laundry babe. We’re with ya every step of the way.
Remember, the
occasional serious chat with your bud might be difficult, but it’s gonna be great for your friendship. Just
because you have things to say doesn’t mean you have to be rude or make her
defensive. Honesty and sincerity are key, sweetie.
First, let your friend know how much you truly care, and how valuable your friendship is to you. Let
her know that the purpose of this talk is to express your feelings and hear
hers so that you can actually be together without any “bad blood” or hidden
unpleasantness.
Then let her know what you have been feeling lately. If there is something that she did that hurt your
feelings, let her know. Tell her exactly why what she did hurt your feelings,
and exactly how it made you feel. Just remember to be respectful while doing
this. It isn’t easy to hear that you hurt someone’s feelings, so your best
friend may be hurt or even angry to hear what you have to say.
After you have expressed your thoughts, share the
positives. Let her know how much she means
to you, and maybe even tell her specific examples of times she helped you out
or made you feel better.
Let her have her say.
She may have been holding things back from you as well. For the friendship to
thrive, your best friend needs to be able to tell you how she is feeling as
well.
After your talk, you need to let go and move on.
Everyone needs a little spring-cleaning every once in a while. Once your
relationships are spic-‘n’-span, you can get back to havin’ fun with your BFFs.