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I don't want to be a pushover anymore!

 

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I am a huge pushover. I constantly worry about what others think of me and can never get the courage to stand up for myself without feeling guilty. I get so flustered that I want to run and hide, which is usually what I end up doing. Any advice on assertiveness?

 

Dear Pushed Over Too Many Times,

A lot of girls are shy and accommodating. Ask yourself this: If you speak up, what are you guilty of? Having an opinion? Being an individual? The fact is, you don’t approve of everybody’s actions, and everybody may not approve of yours. And that’s OK.

 

To become more assertive, start by speaking up more at home, in your favorite class and with other girls (many of whom also feel insecure). Think about what you are best at, and develop those skills. Little by little, you can feel powerful instead of invisible.
 
 

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 4/20/2012 12:00:00 AM

POSTED IN bad friend, dear carol solves BFF probs, my BFF is so bossy, leadership 101, self-esteem, advice from Carol Weston

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you are you,like you said you are not that big, all that matters is what you think, ignore the bullies and stand up for your self Smile be true to You you are awesome!Smile

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by hslol101 on 4/24/2012 6:13:20 PM

 
 

omg i feel the same way but now i already stood up and good luck to youSmile

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by amy303 on 4/24/2012 6:08:36 PM

 
 

Anybody need advice? Please join my new club, Ask Rainbow. I will answer everything (:

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by mermaidrainbow049 on 4/23/2012 10:45:03 AM

 
 

I kinda need some advice like that. My best friend is kinda loud. One day I didn't feel well (cramps) and she wanted me to play a game with her and my sister and I tried to tell her no, but she ended up pulling me up. Thankfully my dad was watching and stopped her. Now I try better, but I feel guilty too since she's crazy and hyper. I don’t always want to hand out with her, but when I don’t I feel guilty. She’s just really loud and crazy and I’m… well, I’m not. Any advice?

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by emmyie11 on 4/22/2012 8:10:16 PM

 
 


MOD MOD MOD! Hi so there is this this girl at school who copies me on everything. The way i act she acts the same and the way i dress the same also my weirdness about the hunger games she copies me! It really gets me since once she even got the same username as me on this thing but with 2013 on it. I hate how she always follows me around. Once she was mean to me then she followed me around all day. She always yanks me about everything! She once even spread a rumor about me! What should I do, she is trying to push me aside and be friends while being a bully to me. I stated this problem to her but there was no effect! I feel like the girl in the movie roommate from the commercials!


 


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by radiogirl on 4/21/2012 2:14:01 PM

 
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