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My 15-year-old sister ran away. I know where she is, but I’m afraid to tell because I don’t want to get in trouble.

Dear Confused,

This is a serious situation. Rather than keep silent, reveal your sister’s whereabouts to a parent, or talk to a school counselor, psychologist, clergyperson, relative or some trusted adult who can help. I realize you don’t want to tattle on your sister, but if she’s in danger, speaking up can make a difference—or even save her life.

BY CAROL WESTON ON 4/27/2012 12:00:00 AM

Hey KatieBeiber, since nothing else seems to work, the only thing I would suggest is to stay away from her as much as possible. Whenever she says something mean to you in school or at home, walk away. When you are in the car sit in the front seat instead of next to her. If you have to be around her, put headphones in and listen to music or start reading a book. It will also help to show her that her words don't affect you. The reason she teases you is because she knows it hurts your feelings and makes you feel bad. So the next time she says something just laugh it off or simply say okay. Hope this helps! Xoxoxo

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Okay so im a triplet...so i have two sisters my age. We all go to the same school. Well my one sister keeps bringing me down, telling eveyone to hate me and tease me. She calls me beyond rude names and i've tried telling my mom, my mom tried doing something about it but no matter what my sister won't stop!I ignore her, I tell her to stop, sometimes i fight back but NOTHING works! I cant go anywhere without her insulting me! Everytime shes by me she bring something up out of the oridinary that pushes my buttons! Shes the one that made me insecure...everytime someone tells me im beautiful i say im not all because of her and her comments! right before I wrote this she insulted me! I need help please!! Lynae P.

I've kinda been thinking about running away to London. I was chosen to go their for a scholarship with my brother, but my mom won't let us go. I was really excited and really wanted to go, even If it interferes with my survival.

by peppercyndaquil13 on 8/20/2012 6:48:01 PM

Wow, I can never imagine having someone in my family running away. I agree that you should tell your parents of someone else.

by MistShield14596 on 7/9/2012 9:47:00 PM

I am so sorry, but you need to a adult right away. I hope she gets found soon

by fearless4ever on 7/7/2012 6:04:52 PM

by KatieBieber on 6/23/2012 3:02:07 PM

This happened to me when I was about 7 and caused me to deal with anxiety my whole life. Just keep yourself calm, if she is 'mature' enough to run away, she is mature enough to find her way back.

by clang848 on 6/14/2012 2:24:49 PM

I know how u feel and i agree u shood tell ur parents. Ur sister may have thought running away was the easiest option, but it's not.

by glitterstars456 on 6/8/2012 5:56:22 PM

if you read the book hoot, you would be amazed! same prob. but you should tell some one or it will get worse. its for the best. your sis could face some bad stuff like illnessis and ick like that. Why did she run away? tell somebody quick though.soon.

by cookiebk on 6/1/2012 12:25:30 AM

Aw im so sorry you should just tell your parents because yoour sister might be in danger and this is the only way you can save her if she is. But dont worry, you wont get in trouble for doing the right thing.

by liv2laf on 5/28/2012 5:31:34 PM

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Alright! so, i have this little 8-year-old sister. thing is, she can be really mean sometimes. she shouts, cries and whines about everything and nothing, demands stuff...its really worrying me. it might just be little girl typical behavior, but it might not. i don't want her to grow up this way. what should i do?

Hey girl,

I can understand your wanting to help her grow up well. I think you should help her set up a system for handling those situations. Just in general be her big sister and point out how she can better herself.

Jordan S.

by Coolioso24 on 5/21/2012 5:43:24 PM

all of a sudden i have stopped eating. I'm just not hungry and im not getting all the calories i should be getting. this has been going on for two days. I know I am not fat and I'm not anorexic because I know all the harmful effects. the second day i started stumbling a little , probally from low blood sugar. my mom and BF worry that I am anorexic and they think I'll get really sick. I'm just not hungry. What is going on??

Hey Girly!

If this has only been going on for two days I wouldn't worry too much. It might just be a virus that makes you lose your appetite. However, if it continues I would talk to your doc. Are you taking any medicines? Certain ADD medicines and other prescriptions can also make you lose your appetite. As for your mom and boyfriend, they're just worried about ya! They'll feel better once you visit a doctor.

Marisa D. Marisa D.

by kayscout on 5/10/2012 5:54:12 AM

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Dear Mod, I have a friend, i will call her A. A is bisexual (only me and one other girl know) and she hates her life.She is anorexic and I think might have suicidal thoughts. The counselor at our school isn't the best and hasn't helped in the past. Me and several other of our friends( they sit with me and her at lunch) want to help. I was thinking that I could tell the counselor through a note and give her an email address that is shared under all the people who want to help. Do you think this is a good idea??

hey! cut out all the other people and just have it be between you and the counselor. There's no need to make a spectacle of the whole thing.

Helen S.

by the_cameras_are_lying on 5/4/2012 7:13:20 PM

MOD MOD MOD! Okay well my mom's being very mean. She got mad at me for not bringing in the groceries and so i felt guilty and i brought in the milk. She got mad at me and was sending mixed signals about things. Anyway in the end she called me a brat and when i replied that she was a B ( i didn't say the whole word just B) She said i couldn't go on a date with my boyfriend tonight! It is the last time i see my boyfriend for a month because i am going away. How do i make it up to her and tell her that i was trying to defend myself and help her the whole day before hand. Thankyou

Hey girlie,

The thing is, she probably was a having a bad day... and WAS taking it out on you. That's not the right thing to do. But you also crossed the line by letting your temper get the best of you. You called her a name and, even though she tested you all day long, she's the mom - you gotta control your anger and keep that name-calling in your head. That's the only way to prove to her that you're mature and in charge of your emotions. If you lash out, you get yourself in trouble because you HAVE done something disrespectful. But if you ignore it and walk away while she calms down, you show her you're taking the high road. Unfortunately you probably won't be able to fix things in time to hang out with him tonight, but give apologizing a try. Even though she didn't act 100% nice either, swallow your pride and say, "I'm really sorry I let my temper out and called you a bad name. I didn't mean it and I apologize. If there's anything I can do to help out and make your day less stressful, let me know." She MIGHT ease up on you... but you might also have to pay the price for saying what you did <3

Lauren C.

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by mermaidrainbow049 on 5/2/2012 9:53:03 PM

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My brother is so mean, and he won't listen to when I say he's CROSSING THE LINE!!! He even used a dog whistle to torment my sister's dog who was in his cage. I just want him to listen!!! What should I do?

Hey girl, unfortunately, it's only natural that your brother is mean to you. It takes boys a while to mature, so he might not change for another few years. Try doing something fun with him so that he sees you as a friend, rather than his "annoying sister." If he's really bothering you, you should have a talk with your parents and explain to them that he's hurting your feelings. It will get better as you get older, trust me!

Colleen K.

by victoriaiprice on 5/2/2012 3:17:58 AM

my sister ran away once... believe me you're lucky you know where she is. tell someone.

by guitargirl7321 on 4/28/2012 9:28:29 PM

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i have an older bro and I like his friend. Awkward, I know, but I still want to hang out with him as much as possible. My bro has a crush and has been inviting her to hang out with him and my crush, but that prevents me from seeing him. And now its everyday that she's coming. How can I get my bro to realize I want to hang out with my crush just he like he wants to hang out with his? Please tell me what to do.

Hey Chica!

I think the best thing for you to do is to talk to your brother. This may be awkward at first, but it’s the best thing you can do to get to your crush. Try explaining to him what you did to me, how you want to be around your crush just like he wants to be around his. If he’s older, hopefully he will be more understanding. I hope this helps and good luck!

Lynae P.

by ellaquinn2000 on 4/28/2012 6:30:39 PM

by ellaquinn2000 on 4/28/2012 6:29:44 PM

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Ok,so when I was walking from my school to my sister's high school track practince (I am 12), a man in a car came up close to me and was abut to roll down his windows, to like, talk to me. My dad, who just happpen to be there, went right behind him and he drove really fast away. Luckily, I saw this guy's plates. I am really freaked out and I don't want to be. I keep picturing me in some stranger's car, being taken away from my own life. I am really afraid. Please tell me what to do.

Since your dad was there, it would help if you talked to him about the situation. Tell him how you feel now and felt at the time. He'll be able to tell you what to do next time, and since he saw what happened he can tell you whether or not you should do anything about the plates. To feel more safe next time you walk to track practice, stick with a friend or two. There's always safety in numbers!

Meghan D.

by cuppycakes1056 on 4/28/2012 8:32:02 AM

She wouldn't give up her location because she wants to protect her sister! Not because she doesn't care! Thats not selfish at all! Meghan D.

by rainyseattlegirl on 4/27/2012 8:38:56 PM

tell!!!!

by cutiepie14231 on 4/27/2012 8:28:11 PM

omg u have to tell them! you could be saving your sisters LIFE here!!

by lilmissamazing on 4/27/2012 8:00:58 PM

Just tell..before it's to late...

by Cartoon Kit-Kat on 4/27/2012 6:05:11 PM

woah. u should definately tell ur parents or a trusted adult. she's in serious danger. don't worry if she gets mad at you for spilling her whereabouts. she'll be thankful in the end

by myfatsquirrel on 4/27/2012 5:43:05 PM

You should tell someone. Take it from someone who has experienced something like that. My older bro ran away from home not even a year ago. He planned it and I was in the with the plan. It was for a good reason. My parents are truly terrible. I knew where he went but I didn't know exactly. After a few hours my parents got a hold of him on the phone. We got him home but all 'till now my parents are still kind of upset that I was in on it and didn't say anything about it.

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by honeycakes on 4/27/2012 3:33:04 PM

tell someone

by Starrgirl1 on 4/27/2012 12:56:38 PM

you should so tell ur parents cuz they can help and she will come back cuz she loves u and ur family but the best thing to do is to tell ur parents and don't worry about anything cuz god is always with you!

by katniss178 on 4/27/2012 12:44:02 PM

OMG, you should really tell ur parents. i really hope all goes well

by ColosalMascara on 4/27/2012 11:31:26 AM

i hope you tell someone. i would hate to have my sis run away!

by peewee83 on 4/27/2012 11:11:49 AM

You should tell your parnets. What if something bad happpened to your sis. Do you think you could live with yourself? I couldn't. I have A younger brother. He is annoying but, I would do anything for him.

by PoohBear:) on 4/27/2012 11:01:33 AM

Wow. Your sister could be in danger, you know how to help her, but you refuse to help because YOU don't want to get in trouble. That is really selfish, I feel bad for you. I would give my life for ANY of my sisters, and you wouldn't even try to help yours a little bit. That is so sad. I bet your sister would help you. But you don't want to get in trouble. All I can say is: Wow.

by New_York_City on 4/27/2012 9:07:29 AM

Oh my gosh! That's terrible! Definitely tell your parents. She might get mad at you, but she'll thank you for it later. she might not even be mad at you. You could save her life, and she might realize it right away. I'm praying for you, girl.

by Nikichic on 4/27/2012 4:45:31 AM

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is bulimic the disease where you throw up ur food? cause i think i might have that!! Ive been throwing up my meals for a long time and i want to stop! How do i do that?

Hey chica,

Bulimia is when you purposefully throw up food after eating until you're too full because you want to lose weight. If that sounds like the eating disorder you have, I'd say try your best to not go and throw up, and tell yourself you're beautiful everyday. But if you don't have the willpower to stop, I'd say talk to an eating disorder therapist. Here's a website I found that tells you more about bulimia's symptoms and treatments. Hope that helps! <3

Krupali D.

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