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What does a guy expect from you if he asks you to “go out” with him? I’m only in eighth grade so, technically, I can’t actually “go” anywhere with a guy.

Bill: Guys don’t expect much. Just total worship, sports tickets, and validation of the egotistical belief that they’re funny and good-looking. I’m kidding! When a guy asks you to “go out” with him, he basically wants to share good (and bad) times with you. With the right person, that can be kind of cool. The truth is, you really don’t have to “go out” with someone to care a lot about him or her.

Dave: To some guys “going out” might mean an occasional call or text after school. To others, it means spending all your free time with each other. Figuring out what “going out” means is just one more issue in the long, long laundry list of things involved in sorting out the BF/GF thing. Find a guy who’s looking for the same thing as you…and you’ve got yourself a keeper.

BY BILL AND DAVE ON 4/30/2012 9:00:00 AM

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Hi! So I like this guy, and he's like, the "weird kid". He's the guy tht everyone thinks is a freak. I've only gotten to know him well because Ive been sat near him alot in class, and he's real sweet and nice when you get to know him. We've been getting real close, but people are looking at me weird, because I'm a goody2shoes. Today he came to talk to me when I was talking to my bestie, and if I talked to him, my bestie would laugh-she thinks hes a little eccentric-, and if I didnt, I would offend him. I feel weird talking to him, because people are looking at me weird. Like "What do you see in him?". I really like him, and I think he might like me too, but what would people think if we started dating? My school's spring formal is coming up-what would I do then if we danced together? I have issues enjoying my time with him ebcause Im so afraid of what others will think. How can I get over this? Thanks so much!

Hey girl,

All that matters is how you feel about him. If he makes you smile, and makes you happy just by being around him, then by all means, make him yours. Who cares what they think when you have a fantastic match? Jordan S.

at my school, it's basically the same as asking "do you want to be my girlfriend/boyfriend." a lot of times they actually don't end up up "going" anywhere. and most relationships don't last long, because none of them are actually that serious. that was at my junior high. i'm going to be a freshman this year, and haven't had a boyfriend.. the right guy just hasn't come along yet. but that's what i'm waiting for. c:

by barenziah97 on 8/5/2012 2:29:05 AM

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how do i know if someone replied to my MOD or if bill and dave, carol, editors, etc. replied? would i get an email?? thanks!

Hey girl!

If someone replied to you, GL will send you a notification.

Catherine C.

by textinggirl10 on 6/29/2012 10:21:53 AM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!! I have the most AMAZING boyfriend that im dating right now. Hes true and kind and loving to me and i love him for that!! But the school year is coming to an end and next year im going to a diffrent school than him... What should we do about our relationship???? PLEASE HELP!!!!

Hey girl, well that's no problem! You'll still be able to go out and hangout with each other and call each other. Don't worry about it. The only difference is you might not get to see him everyday. But distance makes the heart grow fonder, so your relationship can grow even more!

lauren r.

by Kyblue on 5/16/2012 6:48:53 PM

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read my comment thats already posted

by the cupcake queen:) on 5/14/2012 2:13:22 PM

my bf that ive known for over 4 years through moving 3 hours away by plain, liking each other and not knowing it , moving back, and going out is my perfect bf. the problem is that he wanted to break up when i wouldnt kiss him( my first kiss so i was kinda scared ) and we kindof have an off and on relationship. i really like him and we're like best friends, sometimes doesnt text me back. i cant tell if he really likes me or just wants someone to kiss. i need advice!

by the cupcake queen:) on 5/13/2012 7:49:47 PM

um..you can never know what a guy means when he asks you out he's a guy..unless he tells you before he asked you out then he might not even like you

by beautifullife on 5/13/2012 12:01:59 PM

ughhhhhh i need help....................

by PoohBear:) on 5/11/2012 1:24:43 PM

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Me and this guy just got together and i feel like were spending a lot of time together. Is there like a normal amount of time to spend with someone if your in a relationship? Thanks!

Don't fret-there is definitely no "normal" amount of time to spend with your guy. It's whatever makes you comfortable. If you feel like you need some space, plan a girls night with your favorite gals! As cute as he may be, he's no substitute for your best friends.

Marisa D. Marisa D.

by atisa7 on 5/8/2012 11:24:01 AM

So I slow danced with this really shy guy at our spring dance. He was really sweet and told me straight out he didn't know how to dance (I didn't either so it was kinda akward at first) then at the end of the song he was like oh that wasn't as bad as I thought it was gonna be. But he hasn't talked to me since and I've seen how he acts normally and he's kinda obnoxious...not at all like he was at the dance. Should I try to talk to him or what should I do? I kinda like him...

by dolphinlover#11 on 5/5/2012 10:16:53 AM

Ok so I've liked this guy for a long time...problem is he is a player and has crushed on my older sis. He always tries to make me jealous by telling me stuff like how he loved the bday card another girl got him...over the one I made. Another slight prob is he is the bro of my BFF...but I've told her before that I like him and she was cool with it. But I'm still just a friend at most to this guy. Should I try to let him go or should I try to get his attention? And how would I get him to notice me??? Help me please!

by dolphinlover#11 on 5/4/2012 4:19:05 PM

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Im crazy abt this guy, and one of my besties did a little volunteer detective work for me and asked:
"Who do you like in this class? Is it a red head? Sabrina, maybe?"
HIM: "No."
Friend: "MacKenzee?"
HIM: "No. but i do like a redhead in this class."
Friend: "WHO?! DANI? (thats ME!"
Him: Maybe.
So, its pretty much confirmed that he likes me, even though he hasn't technically said it. And i have his number now, so I can text him and find out more about him. I just want to know of possible ways to tell him i like him that aren't too gushy. any ideas?

Hey girlie,

I would start contact first (convos, texts, chatting online, etc.) and get to know each other even better as friends first. Don't come on too strong with a flat out, "I really like you." It's way easier to be honest, but it can freak guys out! Instead, ease into it - chat, flirt, compliment him, tease him, hang out in groups, and enjoy your chemistry. Over time, you can get closer and closer to telling him - and you'll know when the time is right to finally 'fess up! <3

Lauren C.

by XxUTookMahFonexX on 5/3/2012 10:46:44 PM

MODMODMOD So a new guy friend asked me to hang out at this one shop his parents own. I'm super excited but I'm not quite sure what to do while we're there. We're just friends, so do you have any fun activity suggestions to keep things upbeat and non-awkward?

You could do homework, listen to music, go for a walk, help working at the shop, ask questions about each other, play cards, etc. Try to vary it up so you don't get bored but you also get to know each other better!

by incognitogirl95 on 5/3/2012 6:33:26 PM

by uni301 on 4/30/2012 8:39:47 PM

hey girlies!! need advice? ASK ME! just comment on my profile and i will answer ASAP! no problem/question is too weird! i've been thru it all<3!

xoxoxo- Aly

by Alykat18 on 4/30/2012 7:31:54 PM

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i like him SO much. its hurting..
*dreams about him
*day dreams about him
*wishes for me to have him
*fears that he may never be "mine"
i have liked him for months!!
today.. i was going to social studies and he said "i love you " you me and tried to give me a hug. but i was totally in la la land and not listening, i didnt no he was talking to me! when my friend said he was trying to give me a hug, i freaked out. im afraid, that even if he did like me, i just turned him off. what do i do? should i tell him i like him? Because what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. so should i ask my friend to ask him if he likes me? what do i do?

Hey babe,

Today may have confused him, so tomorrow pay him more attention so that he sees it was just a one-time thing. Having your friend do it for you is never a good idea. I think you should just step up the flirting and start making some moves, then gauge how much he likes you based on his reactions.

Good luck! Jordan S.

by LoveHappens on 4/30/2012 7:19:08 PM

Haha, yeah, but just make sure you KNOW what his definition of going out is. 'Cause when I thought me and this kid were just friends, he told his friends we were going out.... o.O
We had gone to a movie, but his brother was there, so I just thought it was a friend thing, since he never actually said "will you go out with me?". Yeah, not a good experience.....

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by awtechnofish on 4/30/2012 6:27:28 PM

CALLING ALL WORKOUT CHICAS I am looking for someone to be my workout buddy to alp me satay motivated and w scan give eachother good advice PLEASE

--Julia

by JuliacaR on 4/30/2012 6:00:45 PM

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I really like this college guy, he is five years older than me, i am a sophmore in high school and he is a student teacher that just sits in the room. We talk sometimes, he is really nice and he is sooooo adorable! should i go for him? or will he just see this as a silly girl crush?

Hey babe,

At this point in your lives, five years is a big deal. Especially at the gap between high school and college. Chances are that he likely will see this as a silly crush. I think you should divert your attentions to another boy closer to your age. Who knows, maybe he already has a significant other. Jordan S.

by katzrock112 on 4/30/2012 5:13:28 PM

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I feel so left out in school. I feel like I'm always alone and I hate getting on Facebook and seeing what everyone else is doing. I don't want to be popular, I just want more people I can call friends. The prob is I'm very shy and I fear starting a conversation. Once I get to know someone and feel comfortable I can be more outgoing. How can I be more outgoing and, in a sense, more popular (despite the fact being 'popular' as in mean, isn't my goal)?

Hey babe,

Sometimes it can be really hard to break out of your shell, but once you do, everything becomes so much easier. Is there anybody that really stands out to you as somebody you want to befriend? Take the time to grow closer with one person and from there you can branch out and maybe even meet mutual friends of hers.

Once you make one real good friend, the others fall right into place. Maybe even once you meet that best friend, you really don't need a bunch. Jordan S.

by emmyie11 on 4/30/2012 4:52:36 PM

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my friend likes a guys and she is VERY sure he likes her back i am friends with him and I know that he doesn't like her back but she is so sure that he likes her back, i don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her but i also don't want her to have to hear it from him. Should i just keep quiet?

Hey babe,

You're best friends are around to have your back, right? That means even when the truth may not be what they want to hear, you're there to tell it to them so that they don't get hurt! Jordan S.

by tapgirl01 on 4/30/2012 4:47:26 PM

My boyfriend never compliments me, ever. it makes me feel really bad about myself. Does he just not like me? What should I do? Thanks!

by coccinelle4 on 4/30/2012 4:40:36 PM

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I really really really like this guy but I kno i can never date him. Everytime i try to get over him he does something nice for me or he talks to me in the hallway and i can never end up getting over him. how do i stop liking him? I dont text him nymore but it seems weird to unfriend him from facebook
Help Me!!!!!!!!

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by DaNcInGQu33N9812 on 4/30/2012 1:51:48 PM

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How do I tell if my BGF likes me?

Hey girl! This could be a tricky situation to figure out without just simply asking him. He probably cares a lot about you and enjoys your company, but he may not have a crush on you. Do you like him? If so, I would talk to him outside of school and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that it's OK if he doesn't feel the same way and that you just wanted to let him know. He may need some time to process it, but it's the best way to find out.

Colleen K.

by LilyBS123 on 4/30/2012 11:33:26 AM

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I have never been good with sleepovers. But my friend is having a really hard time, and she's coming over for a sleepover on Friday. I'm so scared! II can't do sleepovers! AH!

Hey girl, what exactly are you afraid of? I can understand you being uncomfortable with sleeping over at someone else's house, but what makes you nervous about your friend coming over to your house? Try to plan a fun night and don't think about being scared! Bake a batch of cookies, paint your nails a new color for spring, read the newest issue of GL, and watch a fun movie! It sounds like your friend really needs you so try to take a deep breath and relax. Realize that it will be fun to have your friend over and try focusing on cheering her up!

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