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im 14, and i dont live in america. although im america, i live in uzbekistan. having a crush on a guy here is a lot...well....more different, since all my friends r from different countries at some point, either they leave the country for good, or i do, which i will either in a year or 4. idk, but when it comes to having a crush on a guy, i have and i do currently have..with school, and the situation of the possiblity that i could or 'he' could leave the country anytime (because of choice, or visa issues) is it worth it? i mean yeah i believe in long-distance-relationships and i think i could do something like that..but im only 14 (going on 15 in fall) and plus starting 9th grade this fall i rlly want to focus on studies. Will a guy distract me too much from that?? i just dont want to go through more heartbreaks or go down in my grades just cuz i have a crush on a guy or date a guy who could leave the county just as sudden as i could... thx^_^ xoxo - mic

 

hey! Here's my advice: dating and having crushes is an important part of growing up, so i don't necessarily think you should avoid thinking about boys, but I also think you don't have to put too much emphasis on them. A lot of girls get bogged down very young by having serious relationships too soon, and it limits their dating perspective. I wish I had gone on more dates in high school instead of just hanging out with one guy. Don't bother with long distance stuff, just play the field for a while, and you'll be able to focus more on your studies that way too  

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I am dating this incredible guy. All my friends love him and so do my parents. Everybody is so supportive of our relationship except my brothers. Whenever he is over they do everything they can to avoid talking to him and when anybody brings him up around them the say how they don't want him to come over anymore and that's hurtful to me thinking I am making my little brothers uncomfortable by bringing him over. Why might they not like him and how can I make it better?

Hey girl!

You're a great sister for being concerned about your little brothers' opinions. Seems like they are probably just a little uncomfortable with the fact that you have a boyfriend. Maybe they're still at that stage in their life where boys and girls think the other has cooties! (So silly!) Or maybe they're feeling a little left out that you've been spending a lot of time with a new guy. When your boyfriend isn't around, make sure you're spending quality time with your brothers to show them you care about them. And when your boyfriend does come over, try to include your brothers in an activity you're doing. That will probably help them warm up to your boyfriend. Good luck!