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My BFF prefers her summer camp bud to me

Last summer, my best friend for nearly all my life found a new friend at camp. It wasn’t so bad, at first, but she always talks about writing and calling her, and how she can’t wait to see her this summer. She says it to my face! Should I tell her how I feel?

Dear Betrayed,

Two of my favorite things about being an adult are that we don’t mind when friends have other friends and that no one tries to rub it in. Have you really been betrayed? Your sister didn’t steal your boyfriend. Your parents didn’t give away your room. Your neighbor didn’t post your secrets on Facebook. True, your friend made another friend, but that’s not so bad—what’s bat is that she’s boasting about it and that you’re letting it get to you.

Try to be honest with her and say, “Look, I know you’re excited to see your camp friend, but enough already.” Also, why not work harder to make your own new friends? Even if it’s too late to join chorus or try out for the play, it’s never too late to say hi to a girl in chemistry lab or invite the new girl over for a couple of movies and some popcorn.

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BY CAROL WESTON ON 5/25/2012 12:00:00 AM

Hey anikadandekar, let them know you don't want anymore of their suggestions, and when they say stuff like "do you want to look bad?", reply with "I want to look the way I want to look not the way you want me to". You could also try ignoring them and changing the subject when they start commenting on your outfits. And give them tips on their ensembles every once in while so they can see how it feels. Hope this helps! Xoxo

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okay this is my sitch- my so my so-called "friends"
always tell me what i should change about my clothes. For example, say i wear my shirt tucked into my skirt one day they'll say "Untuck ur shirt it doesnt look good" they always pretend like their trying to give a friendly suggestion but their actually hurting my feelings. And i have tried to tell them "thanks for the suggestion but i like it this way" but then they keep on saying stuff like "it looks bad, do you want to look bad?" Untuck it" this stuff happens almost everyday and i dont really like it what do i do? Lynae P.

I understand what your going through i have two best friends and sometimes they make me feel jealous by running off together and they always call each other before me like one time i was face timing one of my bff's and the other called her so she just hung up on me and didnt call back so i down i agree with carol

by mackandally on 6/14/2012 5:30:12 PM

my bff goes to camp with her other best friend but i dont see how it matters i have other friends too its not the end of the world maybe you should try making other friends.

by Miepster99 on 6/8/2012 1:32:20 PM

okay so i have a friend,lets call her penny, who is a decent friend to me but it always seems like im always trying to prove to her that im good enough, but when she is around her friends she seems to become the one reaching for the other girls approval. I wasnt invited to one of my friends birthday party, but penny was. Penny keeps messaging me on facebook rubbing it in my face. the day before i was joking and told penny on fb that the girl who didnt invite me hated me. the day of the party penny started messaging me, and im positive that she showed the girl hosting the party my message. Today I messaged her and said "you showed Livie the message i sent you a couple days ago, right?" after about 15 minutes of convo, she never answered after this. What is going on?

by sakeluvz on 6/6/2012 11:29:29 PM

by anikadandekar on 6/5/2012 8:09:48 PM

how do u become an advice queen? also do the advice queens anwser MOD questions? i would luv to become one! LUV U ALL

by lizzierox on 6/5/2012 4:54:30 PM

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My BFF prefers her summer camp bud to me

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