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My BF says he's gay. Should I believe him?


 
Last night my BF dumped me over Facebook. When I asked why he said it was because he is gay. If he's gay than why did he go out with me? Should I believe him?

 

Hey girl! It comes down to how he said it. If he was being really short with you and not being gentle with the news, you know he was probably just trying to cover up his embarrassment at dumping you so suddenly and in such a rude way. Guys use inappropriate terms sometimes to take attention away from their actions and put it on the bad words; that way, they’re less accountable for the mean stuff they just did.

 

But if he seemed shy and he wouldn’t talk to you after, or especially if he said that it was a secret, don’t explode at him. Sexual preferences are noticeable at a different age in everyone. He may have really liked you until he started feeling other things – and that’s totally fine! He might be nervous about being accepted, because many times LGBT teens are bullied and can get really stressed out just by interactions with others at school.

 

If you can’t tell, try to talk to him about it. Don’t fume for about a week (that way he’ll have calmed down, too), and then surprise him by being nice and asking what’s up. If he lets the conversation continue, bring up what he said. It’d be best to do this in person to make sure you’re able to gauge his reactions, but if you have to, over the phone or online is okay, too. Be sensitive, and don’t push a topic if you think it’ll make him too uncomfortable. Good luck, girl!
 
 

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hey me and my bf have been going out for five and a half weeks already, i love his pesonality and how sweet he is, the problem is hes such a perv he's two years older than me and when we first stared dating he was a gentel men to me now he acts so pervered i know its wrong to like it, but i also with he would stop being such a perv it bugs me and i tell him but he dosent stop what should i do breakup with him or just deal with it.

by jackieheartlee on 12/11/2012 3:20:30 PM

 
 



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Hi, I have been friends with my Best Guy Friend for 7 months. I started to like him after 3 months of being his friend. I told him about my feelings and he said they were mutual. But at the time he had a GF so i respected that. His GF broke up with him so we started to flirt a lot more than normal. After 3 days of flirting he went and found another GF! We've been talking on Facebook a lot over the Summer, and he told me he thinks he is really falling for me.. Hard! He has a nother girlfriend and I don't know what to do... We act like he doesn't have a GF, so we keep flirting. But then he tells me he loves me and his girlfriend... I'm just SO confused?!?!? Help PLEASE? I don't want to reck my great friendship with him.. But i also don't want to feel like just a back-up plan.




Hey girlie,

He's definitely getting to "have his cake and eat it too" as the saying goes - he gets attention/flirting from you, plus friendship from you, plus a whole separate girlfriend. Not that it's WRONG for him to do that, but he's pulling you around and taking you (and his GF) for granted. You should be confused! He basically can't decide what he wants so he's trying to have it all. You can do one of two things -

1) Keep on flirting like he doesn't have a GF, but don't expect anything to happen. Your expectations will have to be low, because he DOES have a GF. So he's off limits. (You'll also have to deal with feeling guilty, since you're flirting with someone else's BF. I know I wouldn't want someone to do that to my BF.) 

2) Tone it down and subtly suggest that he makes up his mind. Act like a friend. Don't be mean, but it's ok to be a little less warm than normal. Whatever you do, don't flirt. He'll notice the shift and I'm sure he'll ask you what's wrong. Then you can tell him that flirting with him and hearing he loves you WHILE he has a GF makes you uncomfy. You can tell him you like him and want to be friends right now, but make sure he knows he can't go around professing his love and flirting while he has another girl on the side <3 You deserve a guy's full attention, not just half!
Lauren C.

by Sutton! on 7/29/2012 8:59:31 PM

 
 

Hey, I am really confused! My ex (former BGF) Dylan asked me out at the beggining of the school year, and I turned around and was like "awkward!!", but then the school dismissel bell saved me from that weird convo. We didn't talk for 3 days and then we pretended it didn't happen. But the 2nd day of summer he asked me out over the phone. But it wasn't even him on the phone it was his my other BGF Noah. I said yes and we hung out for two days then he got his bff Walter to dump me! How do I react??

by mikayla.sleepy on 7/23/2012 9:30:14 PM

 
 

that would be hard. good luck!

by myfatsquirrel on 6/26/2012 9:39:43 AM

 
 

I know two girls online. They are lesbian. One is 29 and one is almost 16. The 16 year old always gets bullied bc of being lesbian but she's is soooo über super duber nice and the 29 year old says she's fat and ugly. I've never seen her but I'm always trying to get her to stop.
29 year old lives in Nevada
15 year old lives somewhere not in California

by Firefox101 on 6/26/2012 1:39:22 AM

 
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