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My BF says he's gay. Should I believe him?


 
Last night my BF dumped me over Facebook. When I asked why he said it was because he is gay. If he's gay than why did he go out with me? Should I believe him?

 

Hey girl! It comes down to how he said it. If he was being really short with you and not being gentle with the news, you know he was probably just trying to cover up his embarrassment at dumping you so suddenly and in such a rude way. Guys use inappropriate terms sometimes to take attention away from their actions and put it on the bad words; that way, they’re less accountable for the mean stuff they just did.

 

But if he seemed shy and he wouldn’t talk to you after, or especially if he said that it was a secret, don’t explode at him. Sexual preferences are noticeable at a different age in everyone. He may have really liked you until he started feeling other things – and that’s totally fine! He might be nervous about being accepted, because many times LGBT teens are bullied and can get really stressed out just by interactions with others at school.

 

If you can’t tell, try to talk to him about it. Don’t fume for about a week (that way he’ll have calmed down, too), and then surprise him by being nice and asking what’s up. If he lets the conversation continue, bring up what he said. It’d be best to do this in person to make sure you’re able to gauge his reactions, but if you have to, over the phone or online is okay, too. Be sensitive, and don’t push a topic if you think it’ll make him too uncomfortable. Good luck, girl!
 
 

BY TESS MORAN ON 6/24/2012 12:00:00 AM

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So my mom has a really close friend who has a son, whose like my cousin (were really good friends). So I showed my one friend a text message where he called me cute (but he wasn't saying it like he "liked" me, he was just saying it because it came up in the conversation) and my friend decided she wanted to set us up, but that wasn't what I wanted! So she made him think that he likes me and that I was flirting with him when I wasn't, and I had to tell him I didn't like him. He said maybe we could be "flirty friends" (people who are friends that flirt(?)) and I just want to be friends. But now our relationship as friends is going to be very awkward. It already is! What should I do?




Hey girlie,

Ugh, you're right babe. Things got complicated for sure, which can be awkward. The best thing to do is be honest with him - and you did, so good for you. You want to be friends - you don't want to complicate things by flirting all the time, you don't want to date, etc. Just because your bestie tried to set you guys up, doesn't mean you owe anyone anything if it doesn't feel right. So try to focus on dealing with your BGF just like you did before. Text, hang out, talk like you used to. If he tries to be overly flirty, calmly tell him to tone it down a little bit. But just ask yourself: how would I behave around him BEFORE all this happened? Try to be like that - and if you're relaxed, he'll take your cue and relax a little as well <3
Lauren C.

by spazyjazy99 on 6/24/2012 9:06:51 AM

 
 



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My sister is almost 15 and shes a lesbian.
I'm not Homophobic at all I'm perfectly okay with LGBT teens/people like i have the same respect for straight people as LGBT teens/people.
I'm just having such a hard time dealing with this and i don't know why. Sometimes she will call me a really mean name and ill respond by calling her a lesbian, i know this is wrong and mean and there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian but for some reason some switch in me just flips on where that's my go-to insult or something, why is this so hard for me to deal with and how can i stop it? I feel so mean and rude like if i'm gonna say stuff like that i shouldn't be part of my sisters life or something. I know this may be hard to answer but if you can answer thanks a bunch.

 

It's going to take some time to get used to it I suppose. First off I would stop using lesbian as a mean name. That's not going to help and its only going to hurt your relationship with your sister. Also maybe talking to your sister about being a lesbian would help you understand better. Good luck! xoxo kerra 


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by Glis awesome on 6/24/2012 12:50:20 AM

 
 

At least he told you, one of my friends found out that her bf was bisexual by accident. He didnt even tell her and she found out by seeing some of the sites he visited online for gay guys and became heartbroken over it.

She confronted him and he admitted to her that he liked both males and females. To this day I think she is still hurt by the whole thing and she even thought he was just saying that so he could break up with her but with him it was true.

by luckykel on 6/24/2012 12:30:14 AM

 
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