Last night my BF dumped me over Facebook. When I asked
why he said it was because he is gay. If he's gay than why did he go out with
me? Should I believe him?
girl! It comes down to how he said it. If he was being really short with you
and not being gentle with the news, you know he was probably just trying to
cover up his embarrassment at dumping you so suddenly and in such a rude way. Guys
use inappropriate terms sometimes to take attention away from their actions and
put it on the bad words; that way, they’re less accountable for the mean stuff
they just did.
if he seemed shy and he wouldn’t talk to you after, or especially if he said
that it was a secret, don’t explode at him. Sexual preferences are noticeable
at a different age in everyone. He may have really liked you until he started
feeling other things – and that’s totally fine! He might be nervous about being
accepted, because many times LGBT teens are bullied and can get really stressed
out just by interactions with others at school.
you can’t tell, try to talk to him about it. Don’t fume for about a week (that
way he’ll have calmed down, too), and then surprise him by being nice and
asking what’s up. If he lets the conversation continue, bring up what he said.
It’d be best to do this in person to make sure you’re able to gauge his reactions,
but if you have to, over the phone or online is okay, too. Be sensitive, and
don’t push a topic if you think it’ll make him too uncomfortable. Good luck,
BY TESS MORAN ON 6/24/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, dealing with a breakup, ex boyfriend Q & A, sexuality