Dave: Actually, plenty of guys are sensitive. What varies is the degree to which we hide it. That’s why we like you girls so much—you teach us how to express ourselves, get in touch with our feelings, blah, blah, blah. Girls learn from guys too, but mostly about LeBron James and how to change spark plugs on a Mustang. To get Mr. Tough Guy to open up, start with fairly neutral emotional topics (“Doesn’t that scene in Field of Dreams make you cry?” “What is the sweetest thing anyone has ever done for you?”) vs. direct questions like, “Do you really like me?” By showing him you are a good listener who won’t laugh at his softer side, you might find the guy you are looking for was there all along.