You and your two besties have been like the three musketeers
since forever. But now, they’re having a huge fight, and you’re caught in
between. Here’s how you can stay neutral like Switzerland and hopefully help
ease some of the tension, too.
Your Lips Are Sealed
If one gal confides in you and says what’s bothering her
about the other, do not go running to tell her current enemy what’s up. You
might end up getting your facts mixed up and just feed the fire, or even worse,
the first girl could get mad at you for going behind her back. The best thing
to do is to lend a sympathetic ear, and encourage both of the girls to talk
straight to each other about finding a solution.
Good Guys and Bad
The most important thing you gotta get across to these
chickies is that there is no right and wrong side to their argument. Make it
clear that you’re not picking sides or pointing fingers about who started it.
Even if you’ve got some opinions, keep them to yourself because the main goal
is to end this catfight, pronto. If you get involved, it’s only gonna make it
more confusing, so do your best to wait it out.
Agree to Disagree
If you can, encourage your babes to put their differences
behind them for the good of your friendship. They don’t have to figure out
exactly who started yelling first or which one of them did wrong; all they need
is to move on. Sometimes it’s hard for the fighters to step back and see that
their screaming matches are actually pretty pointless, so maybe as an outside
observer, you can help them notice how silly their argument really is. This can
be tricky because you don’t wanna offend the girls, so make it clear that
you’re not trying to be critical of them, just their argument.
When all else fails, just give your besties some space. If
they insist on butting heads, then maybe you should hang out with your other
friends for a few days. Hopefully, the girls will realize that it was more fun
when the three of you were laughing and joking together, instead of yelling and
dishing out the silent treatment. After some time to chill, they can make peace
with each other and you guys can get back to your giggles and girl-talk.
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BY CARRIE RUPPERT ON 7/5/2012 2:40:00 PM
POSTED IN bust my bestie problem, 411 on fighting with friends, growing apart