I’m 13 years old and I have a
boyfriend. He flirts with other girls on Facebook. I don’t know if he flirts
with them face-to-face because we don't go to the same school. I don't know if
I should continue my relationship with him. My mom tells me not to date. (She
doesn't know I'm dating.) But whenever I break up with my BF she gets all mad
and upset. (We broke up one other time.) Help please!
Hey chica! You should be able to trust your dude, and if he is constantly flirting with other girls where you can see him (like on Facebook), he might be flirting with them when he’s away from you. Is this a problem you had last time you two dated? If so, he isn’t respecting you the way he should.
Plus, if you are always worried about if he’s flirting with other girls, where’s the fun in the relationship? Talk to your guy. If he refuses to stop flirting, it’s a sign he is definitely not the one for you, and you should probably end your relationship (for good, this time!).
As for your mom, I’m sure she’s just worried that you aren’t talking to her enough and that you weren’t more honest with her. She was probably not upset about you breaking up with your BF, but worried that you kept your relationship a secret from her.
If you want your mom to be chill with you dating, apologize for not telling her and calmly talk to her about what dating and boyfriends mean to you. You two might be able to find a compromise that makes both of you happy for future situations. If she still doesn’t approve, nix the secret relationships and wait until she gives the OK.
BY KATE GERAGHTY ON 4/27/2014 12:00:00 AM
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