I have a hard time trusting my
boyfriend. I have no reason not to, but I’m so paranoid since I’ve been burned
before. I went through his phone the other day to see if he got any texts from
his ex, who I really don’t like, and he caught me. I apologized and meant it,
but I can tell he’s still upset. How can I rebuild the trust?
girlie! You and your dude are in the same boat: you’re both bummed that the
other person doesn’t trust you. The only
way to fix it is to show him that you trust him, which in turn will make him
feel better. Once he sees the change in
your attitude, he will relax and start to trust you again. As much as it stinks, that’s going to require
a lot of waiting.
you just not trust him, no matter how hard you wish you could? Try to fake it ‘til you make it! If he’s friends with his ex and wants to hang
out with her, take a deep breath and let him.
It’ll be hard at first, but after a little while, you’ll see that he can
be trusted. You might not like her, but
no one can dictate who their BF or GF should be friends with.
for his ex, is your problem with her or with the fact that she dated your
dude? If it’s the latter, you’re going
to have to figure out a way to handle ex-girlfriends: they are everywhere! If you don’t like her for her own reasons,
try and focusing on coexisting- you don’t have to get along with her, but you
should be able to have a relationship with your BF without worrying about her
all the time.
BY KATE GERAGHTY ON 7/15/2012 12:00:00 AM
POSTED IN guys, dating advice, GL's best guy advice, boyfriend Q & A, cheating 411