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My BF and I always fight--should we work it out or break up?


 
I need help and fast. My boyfriend and I always fight, but we love each other a lot and don’t want to break up. What should I do to solve the problem? We fight over the dumbest things, but we always get over it. Is that good?


Dear Boyfriend Fighter,

It’s good that you always get over it—not good that you always fight. Try changing your tone of voice to break the pattern. If he wants to watch Inception on DVD but you’ve both already seen it a zillion times, say, “I know you like that movie, but what else is there?” That will go over way better than, “No way! I’m sick of that movie, and you never let me pick.” Instead of fighting like siblings who can’t stand each other, take a step back and ask yourself, “If this were our first date, what would I say?” Then say that. And, sorry, but I have to ask: Are you absolutely sure you two don’t want to break up? It takes two to make or break a relationship, and all the changing in the world on your part won’t make any difference if he’s not equally interested in getting along. The thought of ending it might seem scary but, then again, don’t you think there might be a more peaceful relationship out there for you—one with lots of talking and laughing, and not so much arguing and fighting?
 
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2/2 -- crush on him.. well, he told me he really likes me! i told him i have a boyfriend (who happens to be one of his friends) but we still always text... i'm starting to really like him and we have so much in common but i feel really bad about the fact that i have a boyfriend Frown also... he's ready for things that i'm not ready for. we were playing 20 questions and he asked me how far i'd go with him if we were dating and i told him 2nd base (I'm in grade 8 and he's in grade 9) and then I asked him and he said anything... when I asked him what he meant by anything he said 'sex. but i would only go to a girl's comfort zone' which i thought was great of him to say (about the comfort zone) but im still kinda freaked out about it... because I'm thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend and getting to know this guy better... what do i do!?!?!?!?!?!? plase help me Frown

by Anonymous... on 8/22/2012 7:58:09 PM

 
 

1/2 I could really use some help right now! I met this guy about 2 months ago and then he asked me out a few weeks ago (on the 5th) and we've been dating ever since... I had told him that I wanted a casual relationship because I don't want a really serious boyfriend right now, and he said that's fine. except... the first week we started going out he told me he loved me! it was through texting (I was on holiday) and so I just sent <3 to him... then the next day he said it again!! I said awww <3 and he replied with 'don't you love me too? Frown ' I didn't know what to say because truth is, idk if i like him or not :/ so I just said 'well of course! i just thought you already knew that :p ' to save his feelings. but ive realized that rushing into is was a bad idea because we have nothing in common! we're either sitting there in silence or arguing.. i feel really bad about it Frown but things got worse! a couple weeks ago, the guy that i don't know too well but i've always had a omghessocute --

by Anonymous... on 8/22/2012 7:54:01 PM

 
 



MODMODMODMODMOD!!!!!
I just have a quick question...why on your site do you only ever mention guys? Some girls like girls, and would like advice on that also! And I'm sure, because you do seem to cater to a a more heterosexual audience, it may seem awkward for them to ask a question about that. I just feel that maybe instead of having a GUYS section (which is kinda just like a big flashing light saying "STRAIGHT GIRLS ONLY"...no offence of course!) you could have it cater to both gay and straight girls? Or maybe have a little section even just for us bi/homosexual girlies! Sorry, this just came up during a convo I was having with my GF about magazines and I thought...why not ask?
But yeah, I was just really wondering if there was a reason your site/magazine seems to cater only to the heterosexual population? Or is it just a majority kind of thing?
Thanks a lot Smile




Hey girlie,

Thanks so much for your feedback! We definitely try to write articles that all our readers will enjoy. I think you mentioning the "majority thing" raises a good point - most of the questions we receive from our readers are asking about their guy crushes, so we do write lots of "heterosexual" articles in order to answer their questions. But that's not the only question we get! Every reader is unique and different, so we know that many of you will be in different situations. We're still working on writing a better variety of articles for all readers, but for now you can always check out our sexuality tag: http://www.girlslife.com/tag/sexuality.aspx There, we talk about being honest with yourself about who you like, being tolerant to everyone's unique situation, current events, and even how to make friends with other LGBT people if you want a bigger support network around you. I hope this helps! We want you to feel at home at GL.com no matter what, so we really appreciate your suggestion Smile
Lauren C.

by AmazingSveaBabe on 8/9/2012 8:03:46 PM

 
 

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by cali princess on 8/5/2012 2:35:19 AM

 
 

What do i do when i tell my boyfriend no,then he gets mad at me bc i keep telling him no bc he doesn't stop asking after i say no?i've thought about breaking up with him should i even though i really like him?

by sweettarts13 on 8/4/2012 6:41:19 PM

 
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